Just curious Do you trust your gf/bf with friends of the opposite sex? How about close friends? Would you ever encourage it? Personal experience story. I use to encourage my bf to go hang out with other girls. This confused him a lot I'm in a field where all my co-workers (and at that time, fellow students) were males, and I made a ton of great friendships with them. On top of that I could talk to them about things that I couldn't share with my own circle of friends. So like i said I encouraged him to go make some other friends, that weren't our mutual friends, cause sometimes when you just have to get away. But ha ha ha, stupid me, let's just say one time him hanging out with another girl ended up with us breaking up within several weeks Although I had this bad experience that made me not be able to trust people for a long time. I think that within all future relationships I will still encourage these kinds of friendships, it's also good way to test of the person is faithful, and better to find out sooner than later. And it better work both ways, I want to know that my bf would be ok with me hanging out with other guys.
well, i cannot stop if he wants to hangout with ppl, but i will be really annoy if he hangs out with too many girls...so hopefully he's hanging out with someone i know...
I think someone has to be pretty insecure to not want their bf/gf be friends with anyone of the opposite sex ...
well you just can't choose who you're friends with, it just happens I mean, I guess you can choose in a way, but I'm never in an environment where it's just girls anyways, so I just happen to make friends with the boys it's no biggie, not like I expect to go out with them or something
my girlfriend for 9 years has more male friends than female which doesnt go well with me, but i do not stop her having male friends, i on the other hand have very few female friends cos i dont trust myself, girls are just too nice and i am scared i give in to temptation, as girl usually flirt with me. so if you want yo encourage your man to have female friends it be prepared, this doesnt apply to all guys of course just most
Yes why not? And if he hangs out with girly friends... he knows how girls mostly thinks... so... win-win situation
my friend told me in the past he wouldn't make female friends after being married, because the church taught it that was a sin he's figured out not to listen to everything the church says not (but still christian)
I wouldn't ENCOURAGE him to make friends with girls, but if he makes them, what can I do. It's not him I don't trust, it's the girls my bf makes friends with...which kinda leads to him lol. Ok so I don't fully trust him, but you can't blame me... He broke up with a girl to date me, which I did not know of btw until later in the relationship when I ask him about his exs (i tend to compare, I am quite insecure...) And he said at first it was my appearance that attracted him, but after it's my personality which kept him. I make little jokes like "what if I suddenly had half my face scorched with boiling water, would you still love me." He tells me to shut up and tells me he will, but still... He made a LOT of girl mates in the past 3-4 months, I mean LOADSSS...and he's always out and about with this girl or that group of girls, or in this group and they bringing some mates, these girls or whatever. And he always has pics of him and these other girls in his phone and they are ALLL very pretty girls... And he always text them and phone them as much as he does me sometimes, and it seems quite flirty through the texts I read from his phone... Makes me veryyyyy insecure... I'm scared, whatif he meets a really pretty girl, and then gets to know her, and her personality is even greater than mine...will he do what he did to his ex and dump me for this other girl... That's why I'm so worried about him having girl mates... But then I laid it on the line that the only reason I'm still with him is because I love him, despite my insecurities and all this blah blah which is too long to name lol.
woah! overload i encourage my bf to have female friends, but i have a limit he better spending more time with me then with them (guy and girl friends) COMBINED
damn Shini_D, i think you should be careful with your bf. If he can leave another girl for you, then he can do the same to you. And the way you describe how he is around other girls doesn't sound too good, sounds to me like hes a player. Maybe you should talk to him about it. Back on topic, for me i won't encourage them, but i'll let them make their own decisions. And likewise i would like to be treated the same way, being able to make any friends i like (mutual or otherwise). Just as long as they don't flirt, get too close with anyone then i'm cool with it all. I went out with a girl that hung around mostly guys, didn't mind it all but at times i would get cut if she spent more time with other people than she did with me. So yeah it really depends on how they treat you too, if she puts her guy friends high up then yeah i wouldn't encourage it much.
lol, i know exactly that, and i made it quite clear to him that my love for him is the only thing keeping me binded to the relationship. He's toned down a bit, but the problem is I cant STOP him from making friends with whomever he wants, I'm one of those girls that hang around with all guys... lol. So it's difficult to compromise when like I'm doing pretty much the same thing, except I'm not constantly calling my guy mates and flirting with them... He's starting to behave I guess, he knows I've laid everything on the line for him... so yeah... But seriously, I would NOT encourage them to, but I wont stop them from doing so...
my ex did the same thing -.- i was like sure sure, but i never cared much bout it...at first, i figured its like another one of those test things, but yea she really wanted me to i guess.
I'll the same to him... Sooo... flirting with my male friends... Calling them... Just to let him feel the way I feel... And if he's not bothering... I know enough... Or I'll just have fun with my friends... Don't notice him for a while... That'll check out later.........................
"Do unto others as you would have them do unto you." If you don't want your SO talking/flirting with others, then you shouldn't either. If you want to be able to hang out/flirt with others, then you shouldn't fault your SO for doing the same.
Prima facie I will encourage him to make fds with females.. But if he actually follows through with what i 'encourage'..well that's another story..
