my bf and i have been going out for 4 years now. last summer he get to cali to go visit his friends and family and somethings happened. him and his friends went out to hang out..got drunk n all. and his friend "forced" him to kiss all 3 grls. 1 was his ex...another was his soon to b step sis..and the 3rd was a friend that he met that nite. then 2 weeks later he came back to maryland and was talking to his step sis ALOT! like...last nite calls...AIMing...and it really bothered me cuz she was hawt and i felt like they had so much in common n all. so one night we were on the fone and he was like "i wanna start concentrating more on skool..so i think it's better that we see each other less" okay..so i agreed to that since i needed to concentrate on skool too. but course i was really sad...cuz then we were together for 3 years. so i was thinking that mayb him wanting to concentrate in skool was just his excuse to be with someone else. so yea. we broke up for like a week. and during that week his step sis came to maryland from cali. and she stayed @ my bf's brother's apartment. and my bf took off from work to hang out with her. and for one week he stayed @ his bro's place too. my bf and his step sis slept in the living room. him on the floor her on the couch. i really trusted bf that he wouldn't do anything fishy. but my trust was broken. it was last month that i found out something else. i was reading through his facebook and saw an email that he was talking to his friend bout wat him and his step sis did while she was here. and he was telling his friend that they fooled around ALOT wenever they got a chance and that he broke up with me so it wouldn't b like he was cheating on me. so i confronted him bout this. i kept asking him questions...like wat they did. and he was like "we made out and i touched her but we didnt make love" course after hearing that i wanted to break up..but i didn't have the gust to. it's been about a month since i've found out and everyday of my life i regret? i guess that's the word that i didn't break up with him the a year ago b4 i found out more about this thing. now i wanna know wat u ppl think.
lol! step sister eh. thats like as close to incest as you can get without being directly related. this dude sounds like a douche and not worth hurting over. if u havent broken up with him i suggest u do it soon. he obviously isnt worth your trust if he cant keep his hands off of other girls. you shouldn't be regretting what he did, there is nothing u could have done to stop it. the only thing u can do now is move on. (and maybe spread rumors around that he has a tiny penis - get ur revenge) if u stay in a relationship with this guy he will know he is able to do anything he wants and u wont have the guts to do anything about it. it wouldnt be a healthy relationship at all anymore.
Ima be straight to the point with u....and u might not like it... what i think is simple....hearing stuff like this makes me pissed and grossed out... this guy is a dickhead (sorry) and u should to dump him...and dont take himback under any circumstances hes not worth ur trust... unless u can put up with his lying and creeping... girl come on...he doesnt appreciate u nor is he scared of losing u. if he did then 1. he wouldnt hurt u (yes cuz by breaking up with u & FOOLING around with someone else he KNEW he would but he didnt care cuz he was listening to mr. dick) 2. he wouldnt break up with u to fool around with someone else 3. he'd tell u what happened and u wouldnt have to find out through his face book It's not even a one time thing cuz who knows whats gonna happen if they meet again and its his step sis so they WILL meet eachother again What makes u think he wont do it again? It's disgusting...he touched her and kissed her.... and perhaps even more....ewww.... dont let him walk all over u....!! nobody deserves this....hes not worth ur time, tears & love!! dont put up with this shit....show him the door!!!! anywayz..hope u'll be fine... if u feel down u should go and talk about it with ur friends and hang out with them
Dont feel bad that you didn't break up with a year ago cause you weren't sure maybe it was a blimp he made a mistake people deserve second chances but NOW!!!!! people do not deserve third chances he probebly doesn't even truely feel bad about it just making things up just like he made up that breaking up with you was a justification of not cheating on you BULL SHIT DUMP HIM NOW NOW NOW NOW NOW NOW NOW
yea dumbing would probably b best. but this thing's happed a year ago. and within this one year he's changed. i can see that he's serious NOW. well @ least that's wat friends tell me. that he's changed from b4 and stuff like that.and they were all like "give him another chance" which is y im still with him.
Ok....so....what do YOU want...thats the most important thing... i mean everyone can tell u whatever THEY think but in the end its up to u... if u can forgive him & think its worth it to give it another shot and u THINK he wouldnt do it again.... honestly i dont think i could forgive and move on with him some broken things are not able to be fixed.... id honestly never ever advise my friend to stay with a cheater....& i know my friends wouldnt do it too i dont believe in giving second chances when it comes to cheating...& besides this is not a simple one night stand -nono-nono-nono-nono-nono btw...when i gave my opinion in my first post i wasnt even mentioning this bit "and his friend "forced" him to kiss all 3 grls. 1 was his ex...another was his soon to b step sis..and the 3rd was a friend that he met that nite." ehm....how can u be forced to kiss not 1 but3 other girls...? games are games...but he should know his limits...i mean if he was drunk and ppl would tell him to run around naked and jump on his mums bed....would he do it? if yes - -noclue!! he broke up with u so he could do shiet with the other chick....meaning he planned it.... if u decide to stay with him... well then i wish u good luck too.... hope u are right and that he really changed
i agree with missangiecheeks with not giving second chances when it comes to cheating. also i strongly believe that people that are drunk are still aware of their actions.
are these your friends, or his friends are these people who side with you or him i wouldn't trust people who are sidding with him, they are in it for his benifit not yours I really agree with MissAngieCheekS but I've had a bf from the past much similar he did horrible things to me but that was like 4 years ago he has really changed but sometimes when he's drunk . . . . some of his old habit slip and show yea i hate this whole "Planned" cheating thing how do you know he's not planning stuff now I would say if you even have a bit of trust in him left go talk to the step sis see what she's got to say
i'm sure he wasn't fooling around with other girls when he first met u... n wot did he start doing after 3 yr?? sure he's serious... give him another 3 or 4 yrs n wot do u think he'll end up doing?? sure they just made out n he just touched her... but think abt it... do u really think a guy with raging hormones can really control himself that well when touching n kiss a hot girl?? he said the reason he wanna take a break from u was coz of skool... we know that's a lie n wot makes u think he won't lie again?? a guy rarely admits he's been sleeping with someone else... n that's his step sister... he can even keep his hands of his step sister... wot difference does that make him from a dog?? now that she's in the family there'll b plenty of chance + excuses for them to meet up... but then again i'm nobody to tell u wot to do... if u wanna take a chance then good luck!! but before u do that at least give him a good kick in the crotch...
to be frank...i think your bf is playing to closely with the incest line here...step-sister means that there is some degree of similarity in gene-pool but i'd think since he did something as shady as breaking up with you so he wouldn't have a guilty conceniense when he flirted/messed around with his step sister what's going to stop him from doing it again and again...breaking up with you so he can "flirt" with another girl...i think its time to let this fish go and find yourself another fish that appreciates you better
no that doesn't it means that they dont have the same mother And dont have the same father but after divorces new mothers and fathers (or um other arrangements) are put together so a Step Sister could either be your mother's new husband's daughter (of another mother as well) or your father's new wife's daughter (of another father) what you are thinking is a half sister that is when you share one parent
ehm...i dont think its important who he cheated with....fact is he did..... -noclue omg....that guy is lucky im not you xtnedatx...and im not kidding
I have a question if you are ever in an argument this could be years down the line and it's getting really loud and scary of an argument would you ever pull this incident and shove it in his face?
wow step sister... blood related or not just look how he doesn't even think about the line between that. If he can fool around with a step sister he can do it with anyone.
the thing that women like to do (& i am guilty of this too i guess) they like to bring up old stuff...which isnt good... but depends on what it is...and why ur having a fight now... i mean say like xtnedatx....they argue abt the stepsis and she brings her up then its ok or if its something like say a bad habit he told u hed change and u dont see any changes and u wanna use old stuff as example its ok too? but like....dont bring stuff up like u forgot my bday when hes not taking out the trash if ya bf does something and u dont like it....tell him about it and try to get over it if ya cant get over it..then i dunno...break up? just dont bring up old stuff that has been discussed over and over again
i mean if it is ur step sister then thats just plain wrong. u should never go out with anyone who is related to u. i mean i know it isn't his sister but step sister is still just as bad in my eyes. who does that? he must have been quite stupid to dump u for his step sister. lol.
see..it's not like this thing JUST happened. it happened a year ago. if i break up now it'll b kinda strange. it's like the thing that MissAngieCheeks was talking bout. women bringing up old stuff. i don't think there's a chance where i can break up right now. i cant just b like "i wanna break up" wen everything's been going good so far. i guess i just gotta wait for the right time to break up? iono....
shieeettttttt....... the guys fooling with his sister.... that is fuucckkeeddd uppppppppp im betting any money they'll be screwing each other soon. make out -> touching -> foreplay -> _ _ _ (starts with s, ends with ex) that is soooo messed up. she must be hot, and pretty fucking stupid, to screw around with a sibling lol
Why not? do you HAVE to break up on a fight? if you break up when things are fine, than there is less (not non) bitterness and it seems that after so long, you just dont trust the guy and i think that's just reasons for breaking up or you fell out of love, maybe you fell out of love cause that issue scares you and bothers you SO much but it happens if you want to break up, regardless of if he did something bad or not that it's better than sitting through a relationship and just watching time pass
