I know it's hard but you should seriously get over this guy!!! he's not worth it for a million years!
y can't u break up?? there's no law stating u r not allowed to breakup after a yr a man has cheated... or u can only breakup within whatever period of time... if u can't get over it or if ur not happy in this relationship anymore wot's stopping u from finding a happier relationship?? can u imagine wot life will b like if u marry this guy?
Rini is right, there is no reason why you cant break up with him when you want to. It basically seems that this issue is bothering you a lot, even after a year, so clearly it is a sign. And take it from me, once a cheater, always a cheater, my bf pretty much dated me before breaking up with another girl, I'm always on the edge now, ready for a small sign, because I wont let him hurt me. But I see where you're at, isn't it partially to do with the love that you still have for him. Plus now if he's "changed" it makes it harder, I totally understand you to be honest, but you got to understand, as Dawn rightly said, once they're a family, plenty of opportunitys to see each other and stuff, especially if its like a holiday season or something and he's away in cali with them, your back in maryland, chances are, you have no idea what he will be doing behind your back, it will: 1) make you very paranoid as he's done it once 2) When you converse with him during the time he may be gone, you could possibly argue or bring it up even if its irrelevant, haha, like Angie says, its a girl thing, and many of us are guilty of it. 3) Make you restless knowing he's there with that fox (<-- in chinese). Short term pain is better than a dragged out long pain.
so the summary of the thread is: better get over this guy, cuz you dont want to associate yourself with a boy screwing his sister.
-sweat-sweat good catch rini i'd say you should think about what you want from the rest of your relationship with him and decide where you want to go from there. i get the feeling that your still pretty young so you have lots of time to explore and find somebody that you want to be with
Hey this is totally different...he screwed u over to hard...and u cant get over it forget about the right time... the right time is when u feel like it!! the right time does not exist even if he didnt cheat...dont think u should stay with someone cuz everythings "good" its not good unless u both feel good about it.....apparently u dont right now.... or else u wouldnt be sharing this story with us? besides....did he think about the right time to break up with u when he did it to mess around with his stepsis? i dont think so dear.... HES A SELFISH &#(#&@! so why be so considerate towards him dont be nice....if ur too nice u get screwed over....(known fact) think about ur own feelings and what u want if ur done with him ur done.... &btw...when u dump him...DONT APOLOGIZE he must know he did u wrong...if he plays the victim tell him to f. off! AGREEEEEEED
xtnedatx ... i wasted 1.5 waiting for a good reason to break up with the last guy i dated... i really regret not doing it sooner... u've wasted 4 yrs on him... 4 yrs... gone... u can never get it back... do u really wanna waste ur whole life on this dog??
damn...step sis? sounds like Cruel intentions or something anyways dump the dick head, no need for a reason, if you don't like what he did a year ago then thats good enough. If not then make up some bs, like tell him your cheatiing on him or something lol 4 yrs is a long time, so of course your gonna have some feelings and it will take time to get over him. But i think thats the only way, otherwise if you stay with him it will turn out worse in the long term. Don't worry about what your friends say about him, if you feel like you've been hurt by him then thats all that matters.
hahaha, i agree, cruel intentions was so good! I've got the trilogy, but only love the very first one. haha skid's idea is good, tell him your cheating on him haha and you cannot hurt him anymore because you care... One it kinda hopefully reminds him of what he's done, and two, it will be a fun blow to his stupid head. lol, i should have bolded that statement rini, haha. oh well, keep that in mind for next time
What I'm surprised is that it's been a year since this has happened and you're still thinking about it, that means you're definitely insecure with the person you're with. Or else, you would've already forgiven him and be happy now. It is guys like this that doesn't help the other male population... In the end, it's up to you if you can handle this guy and his personality with relationships.
Yeah i think she only found out last month, but it happened a year ago. Thats why shes feeling worried now.
Well if the guy doesnt feel bad for what he has done. Then that means that he doesnt treasure the relationship that he has had with you. From my own personal experience I had a guy i was with for 1.5 year and i found out later on that he had been cheating on me frequently since we dated. When I found out about it I was very angry... But I am glad that I broke up with him. I was so in love with him back then I didnt know what I should do. I live in a small city so I hear a lot about him after we broke up..but i found out he was dating another girl after we broke up and still with her... But he still sleeps around apprently he blames me for sleeping around now that we broke up and that is his excuse for his new realtionship with his gf on why he sleeps around, but she forgives him and takes him on exotic vacations because her family is very weathly so he cheats less.. So here you can two types of people... One me once I know the problem I leave him Two her she fufills his dreams with money yet still being cheated on.
now this is gonna sound harsh but girl you need to smarten up. dont be another weak female that cant live without her man, dont make any more excuses you can break up with him at any point. there is never a good time to break up with someone. if this has been a year since the incident then you obviously forgive him most of the time and then he does something to bring everything back ie: be an ass. i know someone who has a very similar situation and i tell her the same thing everyday for the past 10 months he is just a guy. you can live without him. be strong... there are other women out there who have it so much worse you are in a situation to change things. so change it, but if you decide to stay then you need to trust him whole heartedly otherwise there's no point. bottom line: if you can still trust then stick it out, if not kick him to the curb. be strong girl! and i'm very sorry if this was harsh.....
omg, your boyfriend is nasty and stupid, forget his ass, theres more fish in the sea, dont stress over it, how old are you late 20"S? forget it! FIND SOMEONE ELSE!!!!!!!!!!!! never let chances slip, and REMEBER THERES ALWAYS SOMEONE BETTER OUT THERE. AND IS TRUE. ALWAYS WILL BE SOMEONE BETTER. if there isn't how can we survive for this long and continue with life and the population expands! hope you feel better TRUST ME DUMP HIM HE"S NOT WORTH YOUR TIME [/SIZE here's something that was even worst, during my junior year in high school i went out with this girl, she lied to me all the time and she slept with her best friend when i was at work 3 times..ugh disgusting, the other one is i like this girl alot like alot, she was perfect, but she started doing drugs so i told her stop doing drugs lets take a break and she was talking to my best friend and my best friend said " i'll help you talk to her" my fucking ass guess what? next day they go out and i got hella mad and even his own brother slapped him!! LOL! forget about it, im sure your a very nice person, and good looking there's alot of people out there might want to get to know you, so dont trip! it's okay! your not alone!
