Original topic here --> http://www.dramasian.com/forum/showthread.php?t=7078 That topic was started by me last year. Its been a year now so your all probably wondering what happened . So let me start by saying that she turned out to be a two faced lying b*t*h. She told me she was shy and stuff but her actions was the total opposite. At first I thought she was kind and stuff but then I saw her for who she was. Eg. She didn't want to send her notes via email to this guy in our class and lied that she didn't take notes. She turned out to be a former drug user and still occasionally smokes once in a while, she's an alcoholic who goes drinking and stuff at pubs and parties. She goes clubbing and who knows how many guys she has grinded with. She skips classes all the time and doesn't seem that bright. She lied to me a few times and played stupid games. Like first she would ask me to go out then when I say ok, she says she doesn't want to anymore huh? so why the hell did you ask me out in the first place blink.gif ? Last but not least she spends money like crazy. I guess she never heard of the words how to save money before. She literally forks out $100 bills without even blinking. She chooses to shop at high class grocery shops and clothing stores. She seemed materialistic. Now why the hell did I want to end up with someone like that at the time? You wouldn't believe the amount of pain she caused me. It wasn't just emotional pain, it was also financial and also my grades suffered big time. I ended up failing one course because of her and now this year I have a heavy course load because of that and now I'm struggling to keep up at school because of all the work. I even went out with my friends and drank like 6 beers and got myself drunk and did some stupid things that day. Keep in my mind I don't drink. She ended up avoiding me and pretending to now see me at school. Also blocked me off msn and took me off facebook. So I returned the gesture and did the same. Now when I see her around school I pretend to not see her. Luckily she didn't end up in any of my classes or I wouldn't know what I'd do. I guess she doesn't want to be friends anymore, so fine then just remember she was the one who doesn't want to be friends anymore not me, so even in the future if she crawls back to me, I still won't be her friend. I don't go back I only move forward. She is a thing of the past now. I'm frankly pissed off at her for wasting so much of my effort and time when I could have chased 2-3 other girls and had better results. I wasted like a year of my time and had nothing to show for it. How she fooled me I'm still amazed. But I should have known, that I would be another victim of her sexuality. She is no good for me but I was blind and so I lost all common sense. She is all looks on the outside but garbage on the inside. Lucky thing I later saw her true colors and who she really was. Now I'm glad I didn't end up with this trash. Last year when she started to to act different and avoid me I was honestly kind of pissed off at some ppl including my friends for giving me the advice and some ppl on the forum for asking her out but now I realize if she doesn't like you, no matter how long I drag it on, she still won't like me so you guys kind of did me a favor and yes I'm still kind of recovering from that deep wound she impaled into my heart but you know what they say time heals everything. After that incident last year I've met like 3-4 girls who I probably stand a better chance since we share common interests and I'm not trying to please them all the time and put up a good impression and can just be myself but frankly I'm not really in the mood at the moment. I'm in my last year of university and just want to get the hell outta here and leave all these bad memories behind. Maybe after I'm done school I might pursue one of them or someone else but right now I'm just focused on my studies and some hobbies I'm taken up like tkd and piano. There is one important lesson I learned from this experience though, looks mean nothing if the person has a shitty personality and I don't mean just being a bitch on the outside. So I'd like to say thanks to everyone that helped me and kept following my story and thats the conclusion.
Maneater, make you work hard Make you spend hard Make you want all of her love She's a maneater make you buy cars make you cut cards make you fall real hard in love sorry...it really reminded me of that song.... hmmm...i guess lotsa girls play the "innocent chick"at first....especially asiansss....=/ - She turned out to be a former drug user and still occasionally smokes once in a while, she's an alcoholic who goes drinking and stuff at pubs and parties. shes an alcoholic cuz she drinks at pubs and parties? hmmmm ok...i drink in clubs and at party too sometimes :( Last but not least she spends money like crazy. I guess she never heard of the words how to save money before. She literally forks out $100 bills without even blinking.if its her money and she afford it...then nothing wrong with it imo. anywayz....im glad u realized that shes no good for u....& that ur trying to move on In the future i hope u wont be deceived by looks again! -flow
oh man wolf.. i remember your story... shit im sorry bout all that shit that you gotta deal with.. @ cheeks: altho i agree with your first point, i think its a turn off when girls dont know how to manage money, and use like $100 without thinking about it.. even if its her own money =\
hmmm...i dunno dann...its kinda hard to control sometimes...especially if i dont have anyone near me to tell me im crazy like my ex bf would tell me to stop spending like an idiot and id listen to him sometimes haha ive been doing that in sydney...i just felt the need to reward myself for living on my own and working fulltime it sorta became my joy....and got a kick when id buy a new necklace or new shoes =/ but ive told myself i should change my ways when i go back be a good girl and save up money for a car or somethin
True it is her money but if you look at it in a long term perspective what happens when your dating or even married to her. Think about all the financially issues you will have to deal with when she is spending money like that or when she wants you to buy her all these expensive stuff.
She's not asian. I'm not gonna go name what nationally she is but her background tells you alot regarding drugs and drinking problems even if its is stereotypical.
hmmmz....oki....well i dunno.... i guess ur right..but perhaps its just a temporary bad habit(the money spending)... -innocent i mean like with drinking & clubbing....we just young and wanna enjoy life... Alcohol is oki....unless u cant control urself and do stupid things afterwards (like become agressive!!) and wake up naked in some trash can..... otherwise its cool la imo
hope u have better luck next time. liking someone is a bitch. sometimes u get lucky sometimes u don't.
ehhh? u dunno what u want eh? first u say its not good and now u say its good? anywayz...i love spending money....its my fave hobby but im so broke atm :( lol im 21....time to get license and car dude haha
have no clue what youre trying to say. @ fearless: i told you, some people dont know what "!=" means -lol thats generally the problem with spending money its a turn off alright, cuz us guys, we manage our money so that we can save up for one cool and awesome toy, whether it be a car, a 70 inch plasma, a mansion...
hmm sounds like your blaming this girl for wasting your time?? you just went for the wrong person so it's not really her fault. You sound like you have a lot of hate for her. I think you should just move on and get over her, not worth getting hurt over someone who wasn't meant for you in the first place. Oh and i disagree about the whole not telling you about drugs and smoking etc, i think she doesn't have the obligation to tell you all those things. It's not like she was trying to hide that stuff from you, she was always the same person that you knew her, just that you got to know her better and so your perception of her changes. Chin up and move on, plenty of fish in the sea etc. I think you'll have lots more chances for relationships, just maybe experiment with different approaches and try and be involved in more social outing and events. Maybe join a social club or something. This will definitely help with your shyness and let you meet more people.
Well its not really that she didn't want to go out with me that pissed me off, it was more of how she lied to me a few times and didn't want to be friends anymore that pissed me off. If you spent an entire year chasing some girl and in the end had nothing to show for it except pain and suffering I'd think you'd be pretty angry too. I never said she was obligated to tell me she was a drug abuser just that I later on found out and it turned me off even more. Anyways she is a thing of the past now and I'm not wasting anymore time on her. Just thought I'd give everyone a conclusion to my topic thats all. I have taken up tkd again and have met quite a bit of ppl now including some girls who actually share common interests with me. Although I'm still shy it has helped me abit by actually forcing me to interact with ppl there on a regular basis. Right now I'm not really interested in pursuing a relationship as I'm packed with stuff from school and more focused on my tkd training. I plan to compete at the next full contact tkd tournament whenever that is and knock someone out. As you can tell by my responses now I've gotten alittle cocky and confident since taking tkd hahaha.
i think angie was speaking for herself right?? still taking those lessons from dawm...-lol hmmmm....u said u on the pill in the other thread right ....hehe....get some benefits in return...lol
All I have to say is that you shouldn't have wasted your time on a girl like that in the first place when you are clearly out of her league. You keep saying that you're over it, and yet you're sitting here writing reems and reems complaining about her. You got rejected, get over it already. Oh, and I don't agree one bit with your petty accusations against this girl. Drinking, smoking and shopping? What else are girls her age supposed to do? And she lied, so what? She didn't want to see you anymore, she tried to let you down easy, but I see she shouldn't have wasted her time. And blaming her because you failed your class? That's low.
Accusations? These are facts that came directly from her. Maybe you should learn to read. Drinking, smoking, shopping is her problem, I'm stating that thats not the type of girl I want and it wasn't until later that I found that out and if you think lying to your friends is alright maybe you should get your head checked. Since when was playing stupid games like asking people out then canceling out when they agree trying to let someone down easy? It seems more like stringing someone along. If you go back and reread the original topic near the last few pages, people wanted to know what the conclusion was to the story and I already stated it in my first post in the topic that I'm just giving everyone a conclusion to what happened. Next time learn to read properly otherwise don't bother replying in the topic cause your just wasting my time having to re-answer something I already stated.
She's trying to ruin your image <_< Good thing you got rid of her before its too late -clapclap And get well soon!-sorc
