oh god... can't believe i'm askin for advice lol. well lets see... for a start i'm a pretty typical guy. doesn't like talking on the phone that much etc etc. on the other hand, my gf loves talking on the phone and expects me to call me at least once per day. on top of that, she's not supposed to be dating so i have to call her mobile at 12:30 in the freaking morning. not only is this freakin expensive but I NEED MY SLEEP!!!! i've already racked up a freakin fone bill of $400 this month talking to her and i've told her i don't want to talk to her on the phone that often. and of course, she's repeatedly said she doesn't want me to say all the lovey dovey stuff like "i love u" and etc unless i really mean it. so yeah... that's cool with me. so i don't say it because i don't mean it. -noclue then she comes up with some bs lecture that i don't make her feel secure enough by not saying that. WHAT THE F***?!?!?!?!?!?!??!!?!?! i'm ready to dump her. problem is school formals coming up and my bday party. and if i do i'll create a massive void in my group cos we are all close friends. don't wanna break that up either. i know that i can talk it over with her and have a mutual breakup 'cos we do understand each other really well. so do you guys think i'm jumping the gun? or should i wait a bit? i'm starting to lose feeling. -surr
lol i say just talk to her, show her the bills and tell her why you cant talk to her on the phone that often.. she expects this expects that... ill tell you she is selfish and inconsiderate for not thinking about the consequences. next time go out with a girl whos not your friend or your friends friend in any way. much easier..
Ouch. Just tell her to pay for half the phone bill and see whether she will keep asking you to call. Seems pretty demanding to me though.
400 in a month just to her... wow.... u definitely should find the time to talk to her! and settle the issues =)
share your bill with her? anyways if you're already considering dumping her, then you might as well because chances are the relationship won't last long anyways. Oh and talking on the phone can be fun, but not every night....but few times a week so you have longer convos is good
how long have u guys been together? cuz it sounds like u guys are a fresh couple.... she's not supposed to be dating so i have to call her mobile at 12:30 in the freaking morning. not only is this freakin expensive but I NEED MY SLEEP!!!! lol...ehhh ok..thats not a good sign...if my bf would say this kinda stuff bout me id seriously be worried i mean hed be callin me cuz he think he has to and not out of his own free will lol me and my ex bf used to have sky high bills when we were together...but its cuz we BOTH ENJOYED talking to each other "she's repeatedly said she doesn't want me to say all the lovey dovey stuff like "i love u" and etc unless i really mean it. so yeah... that's cool with me. so i don't say it because i don't mean it. then she comes up with some bs lecture that i don't make her feel secure enough by not saying that." Hahahaha thats funny...she sounds like shes a bit confused & dunno what she wants anyway...some girls just need guys to tell them they love em in order to feel secure.... but if u dont then yeah dont say it lol it sounds like uve already made up ur mind & honestly i dun think u really like her...u sound too negative about her haha & ur sure u dont love her...so what u waitin for?
females are always like. they say one thing and mean another! you just need to be honest with her.... if she wants to immature about it and cause a huge scene with your group then let her... people would be laughing at her and not you. in terms of timing that's totally your call. you'd still have fun no matter what. so instead of 20 people partying together you have ten????? no big deal... you'd probably have more fun anyways
question: besides this whole phone thing are there other reasons you want to break up? can you guys break up mutually but still say let's be dates to the dance since we already agreed to it before we broke up? and dont give shit about your birthday, you shouldn't feel tied down for your birthday and if your just wanting a present . . . that's greedy (i hope that's not the reason)
Talk it over with her first and see if there's anyway you both can compromise? Instead of calling, maybe msn?
dude...thats what I AM saying too lol im just saying...that if id be his gf...i wouldnt want him to call me cuz he feels hes forced to or whatever
exactly they should use msn and if she rele wants to talk to u, why doesn't she call u back. it isn't supposed to be a one way relationship, where u are ordered to do everything and she gives nothing back in return.
dude hahaha why u quote what i say and say something that doesnt have anything to do with what i said lol -noclue
don't actually know, i think i was going to say something similar but then thought of something more beneficial to say and didn't realise ur quote was still there. oh well.
Okay, seriously, talk to her about it It really seems to annoy you...and it's costing you a TON of money and sleep Tell her you aren't comfortable with that And besides, she's not supposed to be dating in the first place, so if she's making you go through all this crap for her and she can't even understand that it's causing you problems, she's not worth it
since you guys are close friends... then she should know how you are feeling. If she still acts like this just break up with her. Would you want to lose your beauty/ $$$ over a person you don't really have feeling for?? if you make that decision you said keep it and not regret it.. hope it helps
mmm thx for the feedback guys. i think i was probably just having a bad day -whistle well i'm gonna give it a month or two and see how things go and work from there. talked with her about this stuff yesterday and she seems to understand... except for the little niggles here and there =p ps. talking on msn is way different to phone or in person... oh and we been going out for about 2 months now =S yeah i enjoy talkin to her on the phone. but there's a point where u just gotta use common sense and say. i really shouldnt be calling her on her mobile for 3 - 4 hours. and it's 4 oclock in the morning. u gotta draw the line somewhere =S i think i'm being pretty reasonable...
