there are some questions I wonder about people when they get married I want to more the opinions of those who aren't married, but intend to one day and for those who have gotten married, what did you think of these questions before you were married, and now how have those answers changed 1) What will happen to your external relationships, do you keep them? maybe you keep them, but not as closely? maybe you lose them all together 2) will you tell them EVERYTHING about you? will they learn about your entire past? is there anything you will hide from the past will they know everything about your current days together? are there parts of you that you will keep hidden from them? 3) will you become one unit? Not within the first 5 years, but being married 25 years later, will all your activities be done together? hobbies? ect. How much independance will you keep from one another? 4) will you treat your partner's parents as if they were your own? 5) will bank accounts still be separate? you pay half, i pay half, or is your money and my money become our money now these questions are floating through your head, do you think any of these answers would change after children are introduced into the picture? now
1) What will happen to your external relationships, do you keep them? maybe you keep them, but not as closely? maybe you lose them all together I think ill keep in touch with my friends even tho im married. Marriage is not a bond that ties my time only to her since interactions with others are equally as important with your wife as with others. 2) will you tell them EVERYTHING about you? Of course, she's my wife, why should i hide anything? will they learn about your entire past? is there anything you will hide from the past will they know everything about your current days together? are there parts of you that you will keep hidden from them? If she asks me, ill tell her anything that she wishes to know. 3) will you become one unit? Not within the first 5 years, but being married 25 years later, will all your activities be done together? hobbies? ect. I definitely hope that we will still be a unit after 25 yrs of marriage. Not only planning to be a unit for a short period of time only. My definition of marriage is my better half thru out my life till i die. How much independance will you keep from one another? Wtv suits her best. 4) will you treat your partner's parents as if they were your own? Of course. Chinese has a saying that you not only love your wife but also her family. If you truly love your wife, you would love her family also. 5) will bank accounts still be separate? you pay half, i pay half, or is your money and my money become our money? My wife will share the same account with me, no point in having 2 accounts. Whats the point of marriage when you have to delineate your belongings? If have to be 50/50, ill keep her as a gf only then.
1) What will happen to your external relationships, do you keep them? maybe you keep them, but not as closely? maybe you lose them all together i think i would keep them.. i would WANT to keep them closely but i think since u spend a lot of time with one person.. those relationships would dissipate a bit.. 2) will you tell them EVERYTHING about you? i think everyone deserves to have their own privacy and secrets even when ur married.. it's not that u delibrately keep things from them but somethings may never come up, right? so you would kind of have secrets anyway.. :S:S 3) will you become one unit? Not within the first 5 years, but being married 25 years later, will all your activities be done together? hobbies? ect. How much independance will you keep from one another? personally i would perfer to have some independence from each other we need time apart too hahahah 4) will you treat your partner's parents as if they were your own? you would naturally love them, i think.. but it'll always be different from your own 5) will bank accounts still be separate? you pay half, i pay half, or is your money and my money become our money i would have a joint account preferably.. we work to make money together for our family, right?
Here's a reply from someone who's been married for a few yrs. 1) What will happen to your external relationships, do you keep them? maybe you keep them, but not as closely? maybe you lose them all together I still stay in touch with all my friends, male and female, which has been that way even before marriage. I try to include the wife in any activity I have with them, but if she's not interested, I still hang out with them. My wife trusts me and I, her. 2) will you tell them EVERYTHING about you? will they learn about your entire past? is there anything you will hide from the past will they know everything about your current days together? are there parts of you that you will keep hidden from them? I'm pretty much an open book with my wife and she pretty much knows all there is to know about me....at least the important things. I would assume that both partners know each other quite well anyhow before they decide to commit to each other. 3) will you become one unit? Not within the first 5 years, but being married 25 years later, will all your activities be done together? hobbies? ect. How much independance will you keep from one another? No. Everyone is different and that's what makes a relationship interesting. I will like some things my wife is into and participate with her, and the same vice versa. However, I have hobbies of my own my wife will not enjoy, and I will continue pursuing those interests on my own time. Everyone needs time to themselves. 4) will you treat your partner's parents as if they were your own? Yes, and I already do. 5) will bank accounts still be separate? you pay half, i pay half, or is your money and my money become our money Joint. It's the only fair way and it keeps the relationship open. now these questions are floating through your head, do you think any of these answers would change after children are introduced into the picture? No, children will only suck more money and time out from both people, but interests and personalities will not change much.
Someone is not married but will definitely get married one of these days. 1) What will happen to your external relationships, do you keep them? maybe you keep them, but not as closely? maybe you lose them all together I will still keep my friends. although i will include my wife in the things we plan. i'm sure that i'll spend less time with my friends; considering how i will also be spending time with my wife's friends and ALSO quality time with my wife. but i think a true friend will understand that fact. 2) will you tell them EVERYTHING about you? will they learn about your entire past? is there anything you will hide from the past will they know everything about your current days together? are there parts of you that you will keep hidden from them? i don't believe in secrecy. it's tiring. if she asks, i'll tell. if not, then i'll tell her when i remember them. 3) will you become one unit? Not within the first 5 years, but being married 25 years later, will all your activities be done together? hobbies? ect. How much independance will you keep from one another? i would hope that we'll be an unit forever. but it depends alot on the girl i'll be marrying - whether she wants to be in that unit or separate unit. same goes with independence. 4) will you treat your partner's parents as if they were your own? yes. it's just respect for my wife. whether the treatment is sincere or not with her parents will depend on how her parents treat me. 5) will bank accounts still be separate? you pay half, i pay half, or is your money and my money become our money how about her money become my money? hehe ... i hope to have a pool of money that we put in together and spend together. but it also depends on the girl; how she wants it to be.
1) What will happen to your external relationships, do you keep them? maybe you keep them, but not as closely? maybe you lose them all together of couse the relationship still remains ..... it doesn't mean that once you are married you should not have any other friends 2) will you tell them EVERYTHING about you? will they learn about your entire past? is there anything you will hide from the past will they know everything about your current days together? are there parts of you that you will keep hidden from them? i believe everyone will have some privacy of their own...some people choose not to disclose all ..... for myself i would love to have some secret of my own ..... i do not want to be an open book for everyone .... as for the past ... i do not think it will matter much as i am looking forward to my life and the present not living in the past 3) will you become one unit? Not within the first 5 years, but being married 25 years later, will all your activities be done together? hobbies? ect. How much independance will you keep from one another? marriage can happen at any time and place .... it doesn't matter when ... as long as both are happy and would like to spend the rest of the live together it doesn't matter .... activities and hobbies can be created together.... as long as the love remain unchange forever 4) will you treat your partner's parents as if they were your own? of couse ..... there must be respect towards them.... they are also part of my life and therefore i would gain additional parents in my life 5) will bank accounts still be separate? you pay half, i pay half, or is your money and my money become our money well in terms of finance i would prefer to have separate and a joint account ..... at least i still have some privacy on my financial standing ...... but anyway i do believe when 2 person get together there must be respect and trust between them .... it doesn't matter if others think negative ..... as long as both are in line with what they do and think ......
1) What will happen to your external relationships, do you keep them? maybe you keep them, but not as closely? maybe you lose them all together Since I've been married most of my external relationships have been kept. My wedding brought out some of the true colors of my friends so now i have a better idea of who they are. Being married doesnt mean you lose the friends you have with others. 2) will you tell them EVERYTHING about you? will they learn about your entire past? is there anything you will hide from the past will they know everything about your current days together? are there parts of you that you will keep hidden from them? There are some things that just dont get discussed... I dont want to know about my husband's sex life prior to us being together. He doesnt need to know about some of the people i've dated in my life. only the past needs to remain on the shelf but honestly who doesnt hide things from people they care about. 3) will you become one unit? Not within the first 5 years, but being married 25 years later, will all your activities be done together? hobbies? ect. How much independance will you keep from one another? each person needs to have their own activities. cant be joined at the hip. doing things seperatley makes the time you do spend together more enjoyable. 4) will you treat your partner's parents as if they were your own? My husband is a mama's boy!!!! but she's ok, we live with her but we do our own thing. we dont even eat together so i treat her very well. 5) will bank accounts still be separate? you pay half, i pay half, or is your money and my money become our money Financials should always be separate with borders when it comes to bills.
My best friend who was my maid of honor created all this huge drama during my reception because her boyfriend (our best man) got drunk. he ended up drinking about 3 bottles of hard liquor so that my husband wouldnt have to drink. he did his duty and ended up getting kicked to the curb because of it. she wouldnt let him back into the house so our other friends took him in for the night. during his whole drunkeness he confessed how much he loves my husband (like a brother not gay) and would do anything for us as long as we were happy. so needless to say after causing a huge scene and bitching to my mother in law about things it put a hamper on our friendship. during the day when we were taking our phototgraphs she was so busy bitching and complaining about the weather and not being able to smoke a full cigarette that my sister (my bridesmaid) became furious because my friend didnt even help me hold my train on my dress. things are starting to get back on track but i will never forget that day and the additional stress i was caused. because of all her drama, i was able to really find out who cared about me as a friend. my life long friend that i've known since i was 5 never left my side. he was constantly there for me making sure i was ok and enjoying my wedding.
nope... but i do want a pic of me wearing a wedding dress... i wonder how much those studio pics r gonna cost me -lol
just pretend ur going to get married and u wanna try on the dresses and then get sum1 to snap a few pics! then its all freeeee =D hahahaha
Actually you dont need a wedding for stuff like this to show You just need to be in a situation regarding planning an event, mixed with lots of stress!!!! It will show who is a leader, who is a follower Shows who has ideas, whose are logical and whose are creative Shows who is commitment, and who is just following the crowd And especially shows you cares about what parts! Actually me and my friend are planning on doing that Me and my friend just love posing for the camera in costumes (well many of you know i'm a cosplayer) so we're planning on setting up a wedding photo shoot for us She'll be the groom, and i'll be the bride It works cause she's a total tom-boy, and i'm totally girly girly when it comes to fashion We're both straight, but sometimes for fun we act like we're dating, Tee Hee Hee
I guess I should do this sometime too during the thread 1) What will happen to your external relationships, do you keep them? maybe you keep them, but not as closely? maybe you lose them all together I will keep them, but i dont think not as close, so any that were aquaintences I will lose 2) will you tell them EVERYTHING about you? will they learn about your entire past? is there anything you will hide from the past will they know everything about your current days together? are there parts of you that you will keep hidden from them? Honestly I've hidden things about my past, and I think i probebly will keep certain things about my past, but I believe that once we are together everything is open, so from that forward, EVERYTHING will be shared, so they will know everything about me from "now" and forever 3) will you become one unit? Not within the first 5 years, but being married 25 years later, will all your activities be done together? hobbies? ect. How much independance will you keep from one another? I agree with a lot of people, for the first five years I will stay myself, but after 20 years, I will hope we become one unit 4) will you treat your partner's parents as if they were your own? As long as they treat me well, I will treat them like my own parent, but if they hate me, I will treat them good, but it will be fake 5) will bank accounts still be separate? you pay half, i pay half, or is your money and my money become our money I feel that if your married and your finiacially separate, your not trusting one another, and there is always that strange barrier, it makes me so uncomfortable to even go "Dutch" during a date now these questions are floating through your head, do you think any of these answers would change after children are introduced into the picture? I think the only difference is that everything that will happen, will be sped up more quickly, like the independance issue and the friends thing now[/QUOTE]
Umm, that is a complex web of questions for which there are multiple possibilities. The fact that you are asking those questions is a sure sign that your have recognised in a logical approach that marriage is a risky partnership. The truth is , it is a risky and unpredictable union! I imagine that trip to HK has crystallised matters to a mature position!
