well i guess it depends if you like the girlfriend of boyfriend...... why put so much effort and patience if they bitch constantly??? you can sit there and take it if you really like the person...... i guess cos two strong personalities could be a freakin big problem
can be a bad move, cause if you say I'm not in the mood, chances are she would think you don't care about her feelings. Haha, I am too. My bf hates confrontation and when I do in on the phone, he tells me "not in the mood, and you know I hate phone conversations". when I confront him face to face he stays quiet, and I ask him "don't you have ANYTHING to say to it?" he says "what can I say?" The point is, I don't feel that he wants to help me get over the situation, I want his opinion and reassurance, cause whats the point saying to them how you feel or whatever, just for the not even say ANYTHING. May as well talk to a brick wall... which by the way I have said to him when I had a massive blowout with him. You just got to understand that communication is important, and reassurance is the key. It's hard, but hey... if you want thinga to work, just got to try and be understanding. And DON'T just agree to everything, cause it would be like in a FRIENDS episode where Ross agrees to something Rachel wrote on a long essay about her feelings, until he later scans it a bit, and realises that he DOESNT agree with it, then it leads to another blowout lol.
explain to them that they are being unreasonable and try to find a solution to it, such as talk about it or see a therapist..
try not to yell back. discuss it with them when they're more calm later. If they keep doing that, maybe it's not worth being with them. goodluck!
I'm soo short tempered =[ but it's so hard to for me to cool down. but what i mean by short tempered is that i get mad, but i don't start screaming like nuts. i just bottle up everything and be mad. and just be alone whereever i am. maybe i need to see a psychiatrist. but i think i get mad cause my bf spoiled me to be like that. he used to apologize for the wrong things he did. now.. he doesn't even care when i cry =(
communication is a big thing, my relationship went sour many times because the lack of communication....and normally it's me with the short temper...sometimes i just cant stand how she thinks sometimes... just like today, she told me she's been spending lots of money and decided to put off her eye examination til later coz she's gonna get yelled at by her mom for asking for more money... i really hate it when she treats her health like nothing... i want her to be healthy, we been dating for almost 8 years and i have considered marrying her, and if she continues like this, i dun kno how my kids would turn out, coz i would not my kids ot have health problems when they live...
when my gf do it....alot of the times...I just say sorry and keep my mouth shut...safes the arguement...not worth it tbh. Too many arguements hurts the relationship so I rather just keep my mouth shut, take it and hope it will get better.
i have anger problems and it got me into serious problems with my girlfriend...trying to change it...to alll the guys...definitly not good and shud be changed...my life wud be so different right now
I think the best way to deal with a bf/gf who has a short temper is just simply to talk to them about it. You need to explain that its not gonna work if you fight over every little thing. Just have an initial talk with them about the temper thing. If they care about you they will work on it. After that the next time they blow up just take a second. Calm down yourself and just talk to them about it. If you are as angry as they are going into a discussion its not gonna end well.
These are just a few of the answers to umm this question. I disagree with all of them LOL i dont think running away just for your own sake is the best idea. I mean, you want to help them and comfort them until things are going better and smoother.Make them understand that she/he is not alone and you're always there to help them. Leaving themselves to fight their own problems will probably take them twice as long to recover. and remember, this person is the person you like -_- so no throat-punching fearless -nono And what will they think? They would be even more sad/depressed/angered because you just left them alone.. i would hate it if the person i liked just went away and left me alone when im down.. this is just my opinion so yeahh
Lol, you got a point there. However, there are ppl who doesnt like interferences when they are upset or whatever. Even if you tried to help them, and if they are not ready, you will only make them worse. Point being is that we have to be sensitive as cases vary from person to person.
