I don't know what to do.

Discussion in 'Love and Relationships' started by shadow111, Nov 28, 2007.

  1. shadow111

    shadow111 New Member

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    Well, i sorta have a girlfriend, except shes not really my girlfriend.. yet -innocent A lot of people have said that she likes me and even a bling person can see that etc etc.. i like her too and its all good. We've said to each other that we love each other on the phone.. hugged her a few times.. it sounds sweet ehh? -lol but.. i know she stil likes me and all.. but she doesnt really think of me as an important person in her life.. our relationship sometimes fluctuates.. sometimes really good sometimes bad.. and its been bad lately.. i know that she likes her best friends better than me by alot.. she always on the phone with them like everynight.. so im really confusedd.. i text her sometimes but she sometimes she doesnt reply because shes over her phone plan limit..
    on msn, she always talks to her friends first and i know because she takes ages to reply to me.. so does she actually like me? what should i do... :(
     
  2. honkiebonkie

    honkiebonkie Well-Known Member

    maybe... just talk to her about it on the phone??-sweat
     
  3. MissCheekS

    MissCheekS Reconnaîssant ❤

    errr....right....she loves u, tells u that, u guys hug and all.... but.... ur not important?
    hmmm....thats an interesting one...
    ehm maybes shes the friends before bf type of girl?

    ok....when i like someone id give him most of my attention....but thats just me...

    if u dont like it just tell her u want more attention in a subtle way
     
  4. hmm. when i like someone, i still give equal attention to both friends and gf. but thats just me. lol
     
  5. chi_man

    chi_man Well-Known Member

    I guess she just saw you as a friend?
     
  6. wind2000

    wind2000 Self Schemata

    Shes only treating you as a friend. Just take it easy with her, dont get your expectations too high.
     
  7. reno

    reno Well-Known Member

    just speak to her more seriously about it
    if u really do like her, then just ask her officially to be ur gf :p
    then it's all settled? =)
     
  8. zero_c

    zero_c Well-Known Member

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    Hey, I'm in the same situation, but I'm on the other end. My I hooked up with a girl that I met at my friends party. We went on a few dates, its clear that she likes me and I think I like her. So yes we are going out. But, I only really call her once a week and when I'm talking to her I'm not really paying attention to her. I don't know why, but I don't have that "I can't wait to talk to her" kind of feeling. I rather devote my time to doing stuff with my friends rather than her.... Its not like I don't like her.
     
  9. wind2000

    wind2000 Self Schemata

    Is her best friend a guy or girl?
     
  10. aniking_7

    aniking_7 Well-Known Member

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    She probably like you but thought she is making you happy so don't have to talk so much to you.
     
  11. mikeyh

    mikeyh Well-Known Member

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    i think you should ask her so that won't bother you anymore.
     
  12. smallrinilady

    smallrinilady Well-Known Member

    you've said "I Love You"s but just hugging?
    that sounds really weird

    honestly she might like you, but sounds like your not a priority
    so, eh, she might be using you to fill in time,
    i wouldn't trust someone so off the mark
     
  13. honkiebonkie

    honkiebonkie Well-Known Member

    did you them to have sex or something LOL :p
     
  14. yip

    yip Well-Known Member

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    umm, ure sayin she may like u a bit, but not so much

    well she doesnt love u then, cos shes not givin u much attention
     
  15. shadow111

    shadow111 New Member

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    i dont think i can do that yet.. its kinda a bit too .. awkward.. shes a really fun and always jokes around

    i do that too.. i love her and my friends.. maybe occasionally ill give more attention to her, and reject friends to go out with her,, but none of that is happening.. :(

    dont think its that simple..

    maybe its easier to relate with you... why dont you have the "icant wait to talk to her" feeling? i always have it, always thinking about her.... if you like or even love that person, wouldnt you want to be with her? you take prefer to stay with friends than her?? thats weird :( maybe you guys have the same perspective..

    they're all girls.. like 5 of them


    i dont really want to give up yet.. ;)
     
  16. mikeyh

    mikeyh Well-Known Member

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    Then what you gonna do now?? That's what i want to know.
    If it was me i would ask her if she really like me but it just me.
     
  17. hoi_lee

    hoi_lee Well-Known Member

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    maybe she's just a bit nervous when she talks to you on msn, and that she's ranting to her friends saying "oh my god his talking to me!" some girls are very good at hiding their feelings -^_^

    just keep talking to her whenever you see her, and find common interests . haha, don't worry, love grows with time

    good luck!
     
  18. xmichelly

    xmichelly Well-Known Member

    hmm well no offense but doesn't seem like she really loves you that much if she isn't even paying attention to you

    this may be way off mark but maybe she just doesn't want to be in a relationship so she just brushes you off. you should talk to her about it and clear up what her real feelings are
     
  19. honkiebonkie

    honkiebonkie Well-Known Member

    haha everyones so negative... except that comment ^
     
  20. Mango99

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    Yeah, your girl might only think of you as a good friend, but then lots of girls love chatting to their girl friends especially when they're in their early teens. Some girls can talk forever and never get tired of it but it doesn't mean she doesn't find you important. Don't lose heart.