invited for the wrong reasons

Discussion in 'The Rant Section' started by smallrinilady, Dec 4, 2007.

  1. smallrinilady

    smallrinilady Well-Known Member

    I was invited to a house warming party yesterday
    I was really excited, more cause i haven't seen this friend for a long time, we kinda lost touch, and now that we live near one another, i've been trying to get back in touch with her for like a half year now

    so finally we're actually going to get to hang out?
    she invited me to come to her place

    WOHOOO
    so excited

    but then . .. why is she inviting me but not any of our other friends
    besides me there are a few others that I still hang out with who have also lost touch with her
    in fact some of them were even closer to her
    and i know one of them has been trying to get back in touch with her too
    why not inviting them too?



    then i found out
    she didn't invite me because she wanted to see me
    she invited me because she has a friend who is single and is trying to find some random single girl to hook him up with


    . . . .
    I dont know how to describe, i kinda feel like i'm being USED, but that doesn't seem like the right word.

    i really want to see her
    but i'm not sure i want to go anymore, especially if this is the reason i'm invited


    she's not even playing match making for MY sake, but for her other friend, i'm just a RANDOM person to her


    . . ..
    to bad i already told her i would go
    . . . .
     
  2. Loriegolaud

    Loriegolaud Member

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    Well if drinks are on her, then just go there have fun without her, bring some friends with you and ignore her.

    Afterward just forget about her
     
  3. wind2000

    wind2000 Self Schemata

    How did you find out about that? Maybe she heard that you were single and she wanted to do one stone two birds?
     
  4. idd dont think negative.. maybe you will get some advantage in the end xD
     
  5. shw

    shw Well-Known Member

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    free drinks and borrelnootjes?
     
  6. yes idd.. if shes trying to get advantage of urs just take revenge.. like drink alot.. but dont do weird stuff after ;P
     
  7. shw

    shw Well-Known Member

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    hahha-smart
     
  8. fearless_fx

    fearless_fx Eugooglizer

    lol who cares, just go enjoy yourself
     
  9. lol rini your life is quite eventful isnt it
     
  10. just do the some like dann avatar.. you sure get alot of fun ; P
     
  11. p3ps1c0la

    p3ps1c0la Well-Known Member

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    On the day just go kick it with ur friends and when she calls and asks why ur not there just say, "Oh, right, sorry I'm hang'n out with friends today, I'll call you later (but don't call)." That's atleast three disses at the same time.
     
  12. lee-lee

    lee-lee Well-Known Member

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    i agree. i think u think too much. just go have fun. u never know, he could be the ONE. if not, a good holiday fling? kidding kidding.
     
  13. Knoctur_nal

    Knoctur_nal |Force 10 from Navarone|

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    roll up..get some free grub..see this fem and this so called hookup..if ya not feeling it..head out...
     
  14. Remember the part of the Lords prayer that says "Lead us not into temptation but deliver us from evil"

    well if you must go then avoid alcohol and keep alert and sober.
     
  15. tricky7_

    tricky7_ Well-Known Member

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    I would prob not go, or I would go and stay for about 5 min or something. I hate that feeling of beeing used.
    And some advice: If she does this to you she not a friends, it doesn't matter how close you were in the past. If she really is thankful for your friendship and really loved you back then, she wouldn't make use of you. Go n get some better friends than her!
     
  16. shadowchi

    shadowchi ~~♫ ♫ ♪ Himitsu ♪ ♫ ♫ ~~

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    How did you find out that she is using you? (Wind mentioned this before).
    Did you found out yourself, or are you assuming this?

    Did told you this, that she is planning to hook you up with some random guy?
    I assume that this isn’t the case, otherwise you would turn down her invitation.

    But if you still get the feeling that she is ‘using’ you, I wouldn’t go to the ‘party’. -whistle
     
  17. megazone23

    megazone23 Well-Known Member

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    It couldn't really hurt to go, could it? Even if you are invited for such a reason. You still get to see your friend again. But then... would you know anyone else? It would be kind of weird if you didn't know anyone else. Parties is a good way to get back in touch, but if she is the host of the party, she's going to be so busy that, well, who knows, you may not have that much time to talk with her anyway. Maybe it's better to find another opportunity to hook up with your friend again, along with your other friends who weren't invited to the party.

    As for the hooking up part, just act not interested and the guy will back off. The worst thing for a guy is one word answers and silence because there's not much they can do if a girl's not interested.
     
  18. MissCheekS

    MissCheekS Reconnaîssant ❤

    puahahaha.....all for free food ehhh -lol
     
  19. smallrinilady

    smallrinilady Well-Known Member

    I dont like a boring life
    so i try to plan a lot of stuff to do


    oh that's what you ment
    hmm maybe



    I found out cause she told me
    i asked if i should bring any friends, i was trying to hint at her if our other friends were invited, cause i check the Evite guest list and didn't see any of our other friends on the list
    and she said, just girls
    and i'm like huh? so this a girly party?
    and she said no, just that one of her guy friends is single and wanted to meet some girls
    (so she's only inviting extra girls? does that mean for like him, not for her party)
    and then she even said "Single girls please"
    and she continued to tell me about the guy
    and said that that she doesn't have a lot of female friends, and the first person she thought of when he asked about "single girls" was ME
    .. . . .
    but i had already told her i would come before we had this conversation



    Well i'm going to go and see her anyways, and hopefuly maybe this will be a stepping stone to getting back in touch with her
    but if she's too busy, I'm going to stick around for like an hour and then leave
    no point to go to the party, if it's just so she can set up the guy, i dont care for that
     
  20. shw

    shw Well-Known Member

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    you are so lucky that you have people who hook you up....