so i was looking at the "proof that god does not exist thread"... and see ppl getting defensive... so would u date a person who is religious if ur not or vice versa, if you are religious would u date someone who is not?
id date a guy whos religous as long as he respects me and he doesnt try to persuade me to believe in anything else in other words..respects me for how i am and doesnt want to change me
i agree with angie there. However, ve seen/experienced religious people attempting to convert during the relationship. In fact, many christians i know have the policy of only dating other christians, and beliving that there is no future for them if the other person is not christian as well. my friend just got dumped and the girl used this reason. 3 of my other friends also experienced the same thing. Also, I personally have had this girl try to convert me for a year. all of these events is actually what made me start ranting about religion in the first place. I cant stand the fact that people cant respect other people's beliefs and believe that their own is all there is. there was actually this friend of mine who said that she wouldn't date a non-christian because she doesnt want to live with a satanist. i find it disgusting that she would categorize non-christians as people who worship the devil or being bad people just cuz we dont have the same religion.
lol yeah, i know a girl who is seriously christian and im interested in her in spite of her h-core religiousness. if we were to get into a relationship im not sure how it would turn out though. i think i can make some good points in debating for the non-existance of god, and i think a single argument about christianity could destroy the entire relationship. I'm a pretty laid back dude though, so if we were to develop some unspoken agreement not to talk about religious shit then it could definitely work. However, i know the relationship would never be as deep as it could be seeing as we would believe in different things. maybe il just develop a House mentality - call hookers, watch internet porn, get addicted to painkillers and be a witty asshole to everybody (probably should get an M.D. first as well lol).
For sure if shes a h-core christian, it will not work out. Max is that you can only be her friend but never to a higher status without ruining yourself.
wow that girl in ur avatar has a face that is so visibly disproportional whats her name?? I think i like her left side better( thats our RIGHT side) . cover one half of her face and tell me which one u like better. lol
^haha frostshards...i dont' think it's disproportional...kinda looks like a lazy eye to me. but back to the topic...i'm religious. being religious has never been something my significant other had to have. i'm cool with it. u can believe it or not. ur choice.
ie check myself before i wreck myself eh. hahaha i dunno, im adventurous, who can be sure something can't work without givin'er a try first
it's ok if they are religious just not that they are soo religious they can't take even one slight criticism of their religion without getting all mad and crazy on me (luckily i never knew anyone who were like this...well at least not outside of my family). i usually only talk about religion in an un-conservative way with other non-religious people anyways (outside of this forum). also i rarely talk to girls i like about religion (who does) so i'm ok haha...oh yea like everyone said, as long as they don't try to assimilate you into their beliefs it's all good.
I'm religious and its actually up to the partner whether to go along with me or not...but if it's marrige, I have to accept that my partner would have to convert to being religious...thats how it is, n i can't change that..
u and a hardcore religious girl? not gonna work...ur so pervy lol all jokes aside...if shes hardcore religious im pretty sure shed like to talk about it which will be hard if ur plan is not to.... yeah....one side is bigger than the other thats kind of weird imo.... i dunno...maybe ur still young but...if ur partner is not religious and ur cool with that when u guys start....and when u get plans to get married u want her to become religious too.... she refuses....its gonna be a painful situation if u want a serious relationship u better find someone whos religious then...or else ur wasting ur time imo ur sort of saying....if ur not converting then its over...=/ nice....
in the long run it wouldn't work, you would only be part of her life, when she goes church without you, when she goes bible study without you, when she goes prayer meetings and other functions without you, all these things she wont be able to share with you. plus you doing any unchristian things will really annoy her and the more you do it the more it will be taken as disrespect to her and Christianity. If your not willing to become a Christian then its not worth it. Thats my opinion.
i have mixed feelings about it a part of me says it could work if there is mutual respects and they both accept eachother the way they are u must love eachother a lot though but another part of me says its quite hard to accept if u are really really into ur religion constantly debating about it must be tiring...
^ and if she is hardcore Christian then God comes first and the husband comes second so there will be little room for compromise.
ok...so moral of the story dont go with hardcore religious ppl if ur not and vice versa... it will save u a lotta shiet....
my mate broke up with his ex because her and her parents were just too religious. She invited him home one time and her dad was telling him off about his own religion and saying how he wouldn't have a future with her daughter etc etc....but yeah they did stay together for about a year and half secretly but yeah he eventually broke it with her for those reasons and more. But yeah i would prefer not to date anyone who is too into their religion because i know it will affect the relationship. OTH it really depends on the person too, if they won't push their thoughts onto you or they don't mind whether you are religiious or not then it shouldn't really matter.
hmm yeh i agree with most people above.. lol.. because.. i go to church, and i'd classify myself as a christian (although im still trying to be a better one.. >_<..im weaak!)... and yeh, i was out with someone who wasnt a christian for about.. 8 months?... at first it was ok.. he respected me..but as christians you really do want ur partner to believe in God as well.. and as christians we are told to like "preach the word of God..."...so yeh .. i tried evangelising to him.. but lets say it didnt work.. and i started getting bugged by ppl and friends asking me at church "whats it like going out with a non christian??" and even the "relationship" topic talks at church started to bug me.. its true..you arent supposed to be with non christians... but ..generally i still think that as long as ur partner does not distract you away from God (which mine did..and im no longer with him...due to that reason AND others reasons of course) and that they respect what you believe then all is ok.... =D
