The title makes me sound psycho, which is good now that I drew your attentions, please read on. I don't know why I'm revealing part of my life on Internet but I guess it's necessary this time...-_-2 Ok, I've known "Girl A" for 5 years. We haven't really been talking until a year and a half. I've always considered her as a good friend, saying things you wouldn't say to "normal friends" if I can say so. She has been dating her boyfriend for a little under 2 years when they broke up this June. I did my possible to comfort her because I was working out of town, and my next weekend off was only in mid July. I tried my possible. After I came back to town in August, she saw eachother quite often. She keeps ranting about her ex, which is normal, I guess. I try and tell her to forget about the past and look forward. Weeks pasted, and university started. We had less time to see eachother as friends. And slowly I kind of miss her and I started to admire her and I've fallen in love... I keep telling myself it can't be and nothing will happen. (side bar: She has a friend that goes to the same uni as her, and he's her good friend too). At first, I was happy that another one will be able to comfort her, keep her happy. (After a 2 yr relationship, must be quite hard) Then, she starts comparing me to the guy. It's nice at first to find someone similar to myself. After a while, she abuses it... like really. But I have to admit that he is really like me. But I think I've been dragging it for way too long and I need to tell her. If two people alike think more or less the same, he will probably make a move soon. The problem is I don't know how to approach her, what to say, what to do that grand day.. Plus! I've been crazy busy for the past week and haven't got time to reply to her messages and calls. She calls when I'm not around the phone or on the phone and she msn's me when i'm away or I'm on the Pocket PC ( don't know when i get msgged). Worst, today, she assumes that I've been ignoring her.... I'm not ignoring her I don't know wth to say. I really can't lose someone of such importance to me. Please help. Spark note version for you lazy bums: Idiot here screwed up his chance of dating a girl he knows for 5 yrs. the girl has been ignoring him due to some misunderstanding and he wants to make his move soon. what should the idiot do?
hahha lol on the spark note but just tell her that ur not ignoring her.. and biggest proof of that is cause you actully really like her atleast if she continue on the subject
why is everybody having problems confronting the one with the truth or make an effort to it? anyway try to talk to her or bring it in notes to her.
have some shots and then tell them. oh gordon, try to switch msn off when you are not able to respond. and switch your phone off when you are not near it. this way she and others know you are not available. it sounds like a lot of work but it can save your soul... no wait it was something else. it can avoid misunderstandings. tell her that you were busy, im sure she ll understand. if not give her a realitysmack.
clear this out first. then try to get together in the mall for cup of coffee or something else casual and tell her in babysteps. not like this ; hi how was your day. i love you . face to face is the best way to close the deal. ABC always be closing. Glen. told me
it will make it easier if you think this girl might feel the same way. I reckon the best way is just sort of lead onto that topic. Like bring up the topic about relationship life etc and slowly let her know how you feel. Do you think she likes you the way you like her?
It's not because you don't reply to her messages instantly that you ignore her, except if you don't reply at all. Nowadays, everyone is busy, so your girl should understand it -unsure Hope you can convince her of your love
thats probably the most important question (well one of them) if she really likes u, then that makes everything simple the only prob is if she doesn't, is she willing to accept wen u ask her out? just b urself, and tell her wat u think/feel shes known u long enuff to know wat ur saying is for real, so just see how everytrhing works out from there
Hi idiot Just kidding haha.... anyways....i dont understand....if u really like her...how can u be too busy to answer her calls or reply to her messages? how much time will it take to reply? a few mins? i dont believe in that bs...sorry Id take it as a hint that the guy is not into me...meaning..ur givin her the wrong impression.... so i would stop doing that if i were u... especially now uve got competition...and his advantage is that hes going to same uni...meaning they can spend more time with eachother...u better stup up ur game and show the girl u really like her... ask her out and just say it...if ur too shy...do it on the phone.. but u need it get it off ur chest....im sure u will feel better afterwards...at least u'll know where u stand la... come on.....ur a man....be a man!! u said "I really can't lose someone of such importance to me. Please help." take a risk and just tell her how u feel...u wont die if she rejects u.... ur the only one who can help urself... if u dont take the girl...someone else will....and u know it sooo....COME ON!!! Goodl luck!!
If you had the time to type that post up, you would've had the time to reply her emails, msn, calls, etc. I do understand that people can be busy, but are they that busy to a point where they can't take out 5-10 minutes a day to reply an email or make a quickie call? And as for 'confessing your love' to her, well, it is NOT a good idea to suddenly drop the bomb on her. I think... it should happen naturally. Usually if it's too sudden, they get 'a shock' and it goes bad from there. Unless if you're totally sure that she thinks the same way about you, then go ahead, drop the bomb
Say sorry and tell her the truth. Explain everything. MAkes yourself clear, then no more misunderstandings..
maybe start calling her more? and try to show that you like her a little and if you're scared of the other guy making a move, I'd suggest you just maybe ask her on a date haha I was totally hoping for a summary (no offense, just lazy =P) and BAM there's the sparknote! lol -rockon
ok... step 1: clear misunderstanding ----> mission accomplished step2: find a chance to tell her. in mission.
