hey guys, remeber me? well i find that on this forum is the only place where i can tell all my feelings, so here it goes...i just ended a 3 year relationship with my gf, i ended it with her is because wen im with her my feelings are not there, and i have so many things to take care of such as school, work and piano lessons, and volunteer at church and all these crap so many things to do, but when i was with her i felt like i had no freedom to explore anything i want and wen i was with her i keep on thinking about what IF i broke up with her? and now i did the only thing is why is it when im with her i dont have feelings for her, but when im not with her i feel bad? i feel the guilt inside of me, but i feel that this was the right thing to do, and i dont want to feel hella bad then end up going back to her, im a very sensitive and soft person, im very weak when it comes to this love thing...tell me i did the right thing? and tell me what i should do to stay strong....
lol...tell u u did the right thing? the only right thing is the thing that feels right? does that make any sense? im guessin its just a phase u gotta go through... after breaking up u miss the other person at first....but it doesnt mean uve got feelings for him/her ur just used to her company and attention i guess....
If you feel better now, so you have make the right choice. Maybe you need time to recover yourself. It's never easy to stop a long relationship and do as if nothing would be never happened. This story is a part of you, and it need time to come back in your new life. If you realise you miss girlfriend after a moment, well, maybe you need her more than you think. Let time to time.
so does that make u a christian?? n u watch porn n have sex before marriage?? anyway... u knew this day would come sooner or later... if u had to throw away a pair of shoes u've be wearing for the past 3 yrs u'd still feel bad... but once u buy urself a better pair u'll forget abt the old ones... everytime u feel bad just think abt the past suffocating life u've been living in... then ask urself do u really wanna go back to all of that??
at what point does he mention the word porn. besides u don't necessarily need to be a dedicated christian to help out at a church. volunteering is excellent, giving back to the community. anyway back to the original topic, u are going to feel pain because u've been with her so long, 3 years is a long time in a relationship but u will get over it and then move on and the faster u move on the better for u. besides she's probably feeling heartbroken herself but the best thing to do is to stay strong. as u said if the feelings are gone then they are theres no point leading someone on.
At this point, i honestly think that you should go talk to your fellow Christians that you are closed to cuz from all the things that you have said on PA, you seem to be in a very troubled phase in your life.
quit your whining. did you do the right thing? yes! and tell me what i should do to stay strong. go fixed yourself before you go find another girl.
hmmm, everybody makes mistake even if they are a christian, i volunteer at church is because i want to help the poor, back then when my mom was lil she was really poor and everything i got now, GOD gave it to me, i truly believe in GOD, but hey we are all sinner, and read the bible, read JOBS, you'll get what i mean, and also just cause you follow the ten commandments doesnt mean you'll go heaven, i have faith in GOD all day everyday, he's the only GOD, and also, do not judge me cause of the things i post in the other forum atleast im man enough to say it out unlike some other people out there try to act like they dont do it, yea right. and here's a thing, if you are a good christian, encourage others, not trying to judge them by what they are doing wrong, then how does that earn you a place in heaven? getting GOD's gift later on does not mean you need to compete with others, such as "you watch porn and have sex before marriage" , you act like you never did, and if u didnt im sure you done something wrong in the past that is totally wrong, you dont see me trying to judge you because i let GOD decide not me, and also thanks for all the people who gave me comments, thanks, and the rest gave me rude comments, fuck off cause bitch atleast im not afraid to speak like your bitch ass, find something new to say about instead of the same old shit. ONLY GOD CAN JUDGE ME, BITCH YOU AINT
Whut??? dudeeee...are u normal? who u calling a bitch and why? why u gotta be like that? is everyone supposed to tell u what u wanna hear? i know its xmas but u aint in a fantasy world?
From one Christian to another, this kind of attitude is rather prideful no? Besides, no one is judging you, so relax. You dont have to get all defensive and start swearing at ppl. In addition, you post on a public forum where ppl can make their opinions; if you cant take any comments, i would suggest not to post details about your personal life. Merry Christmas to you and may you find the solution to your problems.
dude read my post, is not i cant take their fucking comments, is they keep saying the same old shit, over and over again GOD DAMM DO YOU GUYS SPEAK ENGLISH!?!?!??!? FUCK all of you fob ass mother fuckers
All i can say is that you got some issues. Also, stop swearing and trying to insult ppl cuz it makes yourself look like an immature kid which im pretty sure thats what you are in real life. -rolleyes
what the fuck is up with this thread. calm the fuck down. continue with this attitude and this thread will be fucked.period.
If your going to post stuff you have to expect negative and positive comments. If you wanted to brake it off with her just brake it off. You do not have to justify yourself by saying how busy you are and all the things that you do. If it was time to move on then move on. I think you really need to find yourself so that you can be strong for yourself. What you said was true that people should not be judgmental and not all people are perfect, but I personally think that you should not rely or get irradiated by what people think of you especially by people you never met before. Man up and take responsibilities for your own actions. If you want to change then change, if you don't want to change then so be it. You are responsible for your own life, don't worry about what others may say; if you believe that it was the right thing to do then it was. That's all there is to it.
hmmmm i guess i'm the bitch ur talking abt?? -lol but u really need to chill... if u truely think what ur doing is ok then... just tell us wot u believe in... i've heard of priests raping lil boys n Christians holding orgies... i also have Christian fds who's over 25 n still virgins (boys)... as a non Christian (or at least someone that doesn't study or own a bible) i'm just curious at wot ur values r... just tell me... no need to f*ck me... i'm not promiscuous -whistle n ppl post comments according to wot u've told us... some sympathize u, others mite not... if u only want the candy then maybe leave a msg... otherwise we're just gonna post wot we think... it's a cruel world...
I just broke up with my boyfriend of 4 years a couple of months ago. He says he doesn't feel the same way anymore and I didn't hold him back even when I think I do still love him. It's pretty hard but I really realize there's no point staying with someone who doesn't care for you anymore. He feels stressed whenever we talk after the breakup and I think he's suffering from guilt. There's really no need to justify the reason why you broke up. People just do and no matter what the reason is, they are still broken up right? The only reason you are giving reasons is probably that you do feel guilty so you need to make it seem like there was a really good reason why you had to break up. And of course there's no need to curse around. The reason why you're posting here is you want comments right? There are always good ones and bad. The only way to stay strong is probably to be sure you made the right decision. You're the one doing the breaking up and she's the one who got hurt. You should be coping better than her. Only time could tell if it was the wrong decision. If it's the right thing, it's probably better for you. If it was the wrong decision, you would regret and you would just have to learn from this experience. Perhaps in a long shot, your ex partner will realize being in a relationship with a person who no longer loved her and cared for her was more painful in a long shot than a clean break up.
