What do u do when u lose feelings for one another?

Discussion in 'Love and Relationships' started by ah_wong201, Mar 3, 2008.

  1. ah_wong201

    ah_wong201 Well-Known Member

    its been 4 months since the start of my new relationship. now we're thinking bout breaking up. the feelings we had for one another just isn't there anymore. i feel really bad bout this and don't no what to do. i still try to do as much as i can but it doesn't seem that she is putting n e more in.

    when i was away for work she wasn't really on my mind cause of the scope of work i had to do was really stressing me out. when i come back for the weekends shes the first person i see and i feel really happy. but i don't see her showing the same feelings tworads me.

    i think i am to blame here cause of my work and that i can't always be there for her when she needs me. also when she wakes up, after school, after work, i'll be sleeping and getting ready for work later on. then when i wake up, i only talk to her a little and then i got to go to work. i'll talk to her during my break and sumtimes lunch but when i have to go back i can hear that shes really sad that i have to go.

    long story short.... we said that we'll wait a little first b4 coming to a conclusion. i don't want to let go cause we've been through so much that i don't want to say. any advice on how to relight this fire?
     
  2. tiffer858

    tiffer858 Well-Known Member

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    have a very romantic dinner?
     
  3. MissCheekS

    MissCheekS Reconnaîssant ❤

    Awwww....poor wongieeeee.....:(

    so sorry to hear this man... i remember u started a thread before u guys went out....=/

    *sigh*...anyways...seems like u still have feelings for her but shes losing em.... hmmm
    I understand....bad timing can really be a bitch especially in ur situation... shes a student nd ur working dif shifts....
    but hey.. so u guys see eachother every weekend? that should be enough...?

    hmmm... cant u ask ur supervisor if u can spend less time away so u can spend more time with her?

    Also... u can call her like...before work, during breaks or after work... i mean there should be an appropriate time at least once a day right?


    -flow wish u and ur girly all the best!
     
  4. ah_wong201

    ah_wong201 Well-Known Member

    hard to get her out cause she has a lot of hw to do for school. i wanted to bring her sumwhere tonite but she can't. i don't want to get in her way with school

    i can't ask my sup or manager to take time off cause my team needs me. on special projects i'm the only one that is capable to do the work.

    i do call her b4 work, during breaks, can't after work cause she still sleeping. its hard to find a really appropriate time to call. when i talk to her sumtimes it doesn't seem that she has anything to say to me

    for the last 3 weeks all we seen eachother was on the weekends. b4 i actually started projects for this year i was with her everyday. and then suddenly i'm not there much no more.
     
  5. MissCheekS

    MissCheekS Reconnaîssant ❤

    hmmm but she should be more understanding man...i mean its not like u want it....and ur spending weekends with her...i know its a lot less then before...but should be enough imo...unless shes like super needy =/

    and hey btw.... ur calling her every day....!!

    so talking to her on the phone everyday on weekdays + see her all weekend...

    what more could a girl ask for............quit ur job or something?

    i reckon shes lucky man...
     
  6. tiffer858

    tiffer858 Well-Known Member

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    you guys kinda have like too much going on... if you stop having feelings for her or vice versa then you are like only lying to yourself and that is good. but, can you really picture yourself with her in about 2 years and do you really love her that you guys can get married ?
     
  7. lee-lee

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    sounds a lot like where i was a few years ago.....
    anyhoo, how do u really feel about her? i mean, u know u like her...but
    just how much? and at the same time, how does she feel about u?
    from wat u wrote, it doesn't sound like she cares...but at the same time, that's
    ur interpretation. maybe she actually cares more for u then u realize. i know with
    me, i'm not really the over romantic kind and actually care more then i show.
    u can have that over demanding career and she can be over studying her studies
    and still have a successful relationship. having something outside of the relationship
    is good. if i did nothing but sit around and think of my bf, i would go nuts.
    anyways, good luck to u both!
     
  8. ah_wong201

    ah_wong201 Well-Known Member

    i don't no maybe cause i spoiled her with being with her a lot.

    i'm not going to quit my job for her though. i don't no...... i don't no what else i can do.....

    thats y we're not jumping into anything yet but let time tell us what to do. i could picture myself with her in like 2 years from now. marrying her i don't no yet.

    i still care for her n i still think bout her. i don't no i can't really tell how she feels bout me. sometimes i think i get mixed signals. girls r sumtimes hard to read
     
  9. fearless_fx

    fearless_fx Eugooglizer

    post pics of her, thats the only way whether i will be able to tell if its worth it
     
  10. Knoctur_nal

    Knoctur_nal |Force 10 from Navarone|

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    a bottle a hot oil...a boom box...and "sexual healing"...
     
  11. wind2000

    wind2000 Self Schemata

    Its a transition phase where you both need to readjust. Try talking to her about it and in your hand, send a little sms, small gestures or small gifts telling her that you miss her might be a good idea.
     
  12. lee-lee

    lee-lee Well-Known Member

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    haha...yes, we are hard to read. that's why u gotta talk to her.
    why won't boys just say what's on their mind? it would
    make things a lot easier. maybe she's feeling the same thing
    that u are feeling right now but doesn't know how to say it to u...

    fearless, i pray for ur gf.

    haha knoc...that isn't really sexy at all...

    awwwwwwwwww...wind...talk to my bf for me...tell him i like gifts too!!!
     
  13. ah_wong201

    ah_wong201 Well-Known Member

    sure fearless........ i'll do that later........

    nahh... we're not into that

    imma talk to her tomorrow bout this cause thats when shes free.... i hope its just a phase where we just re adjust...

    @ lee lee

    i always tell her whats on my mind. y can't girls tell us whats on their minds????
     
  14. Knoctur_nal

    Knoctur_nal |Force 10 from Navarone|

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    dont hate on the method fore u try las...
     
  15. lee-lee

    lee-lee Well-Known Member

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    so u actually have told her that u don't know how she feels about the relationship?
    and that the relationship feels like it isn't going anywhere?

    why try when it isn't appealing?
     
  16. Knoctur_nal

    Knoctur_nal |Force 10 from Navarone|

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    gota open the mind to new experiences las...feel free to miz it up and modify the technique to fit ur needs...
    in all seriousness, time and communication reoccurring theme aw201...gota kick the level of communicating..
     
  17. fearless_fx

    fearless_fx Eugooglizer

    atleast im not shallow.
     
  18. lee-lee

    lee-lee Well-Known Member

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    u? shallow? of course not....
    i'm sure all those girls in ur av have
    GREAT personalities!
     
  19. ah_wong201

    ah_wong201 Well-Known Member

    everytime i have sumthing on my mind i always tell her even if its good or bad. i never had any bad ones yet till now. i told her that sumtimes i need some time alone cause i work and i need to get my shit done.

    i feel that shes holding back on telling me things
     
  20. moor_moth

    moor_moth Well-Known Member

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    Does she have any friends that she talks too? maybe they can help you out and explain her situation