Just wanna know what the general public think about this? Will first love for both the couples last forever? It's actually my story. I am currently going strong with my gf and both of us are first time lovers. Together for 5 years now. Normal arguments here and there..no big issues.. the one big thing is that we are apart from each other for...i am overseas studying, and go back once a year.. Some ppl do envy our relationship but some ppl also say that first love will never last forever.. -unsure-unsure
IMO: sometimes ppl have been with someone for so long they don't know any better or different sometimes ppl who been together for a long time will always try to work it out even if its terrible sometimes ppl who have been together for a long time don't want to let go because it will be time wasted the first person you met when you were first dating or interested in the opposite sex doesn't tell you much about what you are looking for in a person i've seen people who been together for a long time and when it came to finally taking the last step of marriage they realized that they were never really meant to be no matter how many years, first loves, HS sweet hearts, etc. time is never a determinant of anything, its the experience in the time spent, not how much time you have known the person, and even then there will be things that you will suddenly discover about someone a lot of first loves, especially those who have met when they were a lot younger experience these things. i am not saying that all first loves end up in a breakup but some do and these are some of the reasons i see.
in most cases, no, in some cases yes no evidence to support my theory tho, just guessing. 5 years....are you engaged?
well i was with my first love for 5 years but we ended up separating and i have been dating around but now i am single, first loves don't usually last but in some cases it does, if you don't mind the distance and you yourself do not regret looking for maybe someone better then by all means stay with her, don't limit yourself to a single person if you can't picture marrying her or at least stilll together 20 years down the line
lover as in first gf/bf, or lover as in slept with. It's interesting, because if it's your personality to never look for something new, you stilck with what your comfortable forever!!! (like if you order the same damn regular wonton noodles every time) than it could work if it's high school love, HA i laugh at you
Never say never. It's rather rare, but it's possible if both feels that they are with their "soulmate", the one they are comfortable with, if you both can see you two have a future together, getting married and stuff. I think you shouldn't wonder so much and just feel blessed.
so SOMETIMES i also wonder about this things...exactly the way u put it...i do wonder whether this things that u have mentioned...are they actually good things or bad things.. are they something which i should think about or should i just tuck it away and not think about it at all.? i dont want something like that to happen where by the time comes to marry then flaws and things start to pour in...its been 5 years still not too late but better late then never... no problems what so ever in the relationship..but maybe its because we still havent found them...only time can tell... i my self havent actually seen with my own eyes relationships like this...or maybe i'll only get to see it happen to my self and become living proof... thanks alot for your opinion... lala, cmon...i am only 21... wont even think about getting married yet... smallrinilady, guess this answers ur question...no doubt about it..i do get some ppl laughing but i am open for any opinions and suggestions... AkkiOnimusha, sorry to hear about that.. i am sure it was very very painful for you... we really dont mind the distance as we will be together with each other again after i graduate... i have no regrets that i have chosen this path... i have no regrets that i have gone this far as well... i am the type of person who doesn't tend to look so far down the road.. 20 years is a long way ahead to see... i still see FOG ahead...-what? neko-pochi, i like your positive thinking... i know i shouldnt wonder...i do feel blessed with what i have... then again..what defines soulmate? how do u know/feel that he/she is your soulmate when he/she is ur first love...you hvaent gone out to see the world.. this debate can go on and on.. thanks alot for your opinion neko.. i'll always remember what you say...
i've been wit my girl for 5yrs too. i never really have an argument wit her before. She yells at me but i never yell back because i dont think there's a point of arguing back and beside, i suk at it. But anyways, I hope we could last long enough......lol.
but is she ur first?? -what? wish u both all the very best in ur relationship and ur life...wish me toooo :jump:
that was me buddy... but we broke up. friends still. she was my first "love" but wasn't my first gf. but i was her first "love" and bf. first love can last forever... and it can't. the only reason i can figure out why first love doesn't work is that people can get curious to how other bf/gf would be like. they may wonder if other people treat their bf/gf better or not and what is it like being with them. this is something that they(everyone?) will always wonder about from time to time and are you really going to live your whole life not knowing?? we only have one life to live. "curiosity killed the cat"
how often do u hear that the person they married were their first bf/gf? Not often and almost never. so i say the percentage of it lasting is very slim.
Like neko-pochi said, never say never. Don't ever let someone that your relationship won't work. That's for you to decide. If it's going well for you, then be happy. If you think you're going to break up in the future, that mentality will start manifesting itself in your relationship and you really will breakup. It doesn't matter if it's your first love or your second or your tenth. If you really love her and you want it to work, you'll make it work and make it last. I'm in an LDR too and lots of people keep telling me that LDR's don't work. I almost believed them and nearly broke up with him until I realized I was being stupid. I love him and that's what counts. Best of luck to you! It takes a lot of maturity to be in a relationship for over 5 years and one that's an LDR too. I have tons of respect for you.
i guess curiosity DOES indeed kill the cat.. i think to sum it up, if someone's being curios, that means that person is still not satisfied with the other party.. which also means that the other party is still not good enough for him/her?? if u're satisfied then how come u are still curious to find out right? haha...i dont know..confusing..just my noob two cents... -unsure as a matter of fact, i my self haven't seen such a case..but because we havent seen with our own eyes doesnt mean there isnt such a case...maybe i'll be the "one of a kind"?? i'll stay strong no matter what it takes..try to get rid of all the negative thoughts negative comments..but the worst part is, my mum is abit not supportive as well.. she wants me to first know more gals before settling down with a gf...i cant turn back the clock now..but i do know other gals as friends but still now she's trying to get the hang of it..as she knows that i wont just break up just because of this reason.. I agree with u Morgaine, LDR is indeed tough...i've been away 2 years from her now..but see her at the end of the term... all those challenges u face overseas...the fishes out in the sea are a plenty..u can easily get distracted if not for a strong trust or bond between u and your partner... Best of Luck to you too..like u said..never say never...if u want it to work then it will work.!!
Love is the most unpredicatable thing, but i believe that if 2 people kept their faiths in one another and have trust in each other, the relationship can last, that is if u are able to put up with each others habits. I have seen first love lead to marriage. tho only 1 case out of many.
I hope so, been with my partner for 8 yrs now, and yeah, we've had our problems and arguements, but still 2gether. Married for a yr now so i believe 1st love can last as long as both are open with each other, willling to communicate and say sorry at the end of the day for anything no matter how small, just so theres a fresh start the nxt day!
usually the first relationship will not end in marriage. Usually ppl will find their spouse around late 20s
well... it's 'normal' for the first relationship ever not to last. although i have faith in mine, because my parents were each other's first love as well
ye first relationship can last forever, if u've chosen well and actually gone for someone u love, there is the same possibilty that she could be the one. theres no difference rele, its just that some ppl choose someone they don't actually love or are below their usual standards as their first to get the experience and as a training to step up. lol.
does first love last? i can't say....personally i have never dated before so i can't tell you my own opinion..(even tho i'm 21 myself), but from my perspective of all my friends..i would say that first love can last.. ex: i have a friend who met their other half during middle school, at first they were just regular friends and stuff then of course feelings start to develop for each other....and it went on...once high school was over...both of them went to different colleges and had to be separated....they thought that the relationship would be over...but guess what? they are still together and staying strong....now as both of my friends they are pursuing further into their careers and are getting married once the girl finishes her masters degree which is in 2010.... at first i really thought that they were going to separate but in the end they are still together...i was shocked to hear about their engagement (my friend proposed to her on the top of the empire state building..i was crying, it was just so romantic), then earlier this year they told me that they were gonna get married in 2010 and told me to get ready to be part of the bridemaids group....just goes to show you that love can last if you really want it to or just because your happy with your other half.... that was just the good part...now the bad thing is that...what if you had broken up ? wouldn't that be a waste of time? my health teacher had once told me that if you are bf/gf together for 2 years and the other half hasn't thought about yours future then move on...he said wasting 2 years is long enough if he/she don't want to get engage/married then you are wasting your time.....alot of people think that way nowadays...btw my health teacher is with his first love for 50 years now...^_^ my perspective is...do what you want and always take into fact that the pther party is happy...no matter what..what you want is for the best for both of you....breakup if it isn't working...work it out if you want to stay together...there is never a such a thing that's called impossible/or never.....life is life ^_^ hope my advice helps...and sorry for the long advise btw..^_^
ye usually if the first love is from ppl who are friends, they usually get to know one another and so they are already compatible before then even start dating and if the chemistry is there it usually lasts.
