This is kinda a long story but to cut it short... My friend's bf thinks that she cheated on him Longish version from what i can remembeR (Yes i have bad memory ><") * Okiee so on Sunday night my friends bf was seein what my friend is up to (because they go to the same uni he was thinkin they could go back together) * She tells him she's at her cousins house gettin some cloth material for her mum * He asks her questions like how did u get there... did u drive there etc. * She tells him her cousin's husband is gonna drop her off * He thinks its odd so he waits outside her house for 3 hours (Since 9.30 - 11.15) Which when he forced me to listen to 'his' side of the story it changed from 3 hours to 2 ours then back to 1 hour then back to 2 When we pointed it out that it could of only been a max of 2 hours he flipped and was like to my friend why u tryna make me look stupid in front of ur friend? *Oki... My friends car and her mum's car is in the driveway (mums on holiday) and dad's car not in * He sees two people in the house so it must be my friend * She comes out with this guy (who he hates, he made my friend not speak to him for 3 years and only recently they have been talkin again through FB and becos we was goin clubbin last nite she was gonna give him a lift) * So they step outside the house, no questions asked he charges over and hits my friend round the face causin her to bust her ear drum now she can't hear properly in that ear (she went to hospital) Okieeee since when do u hit girls!?!?! Say whatever u want but imo under NO circumstances should i see the need for violence especially since he did not kno what had happened he just jumped to conclusions and just flipped! WTF man! Then he's TRYIN TO JUSTIFY his actions by sayin he was 'ANGRY'... So what that makes it ok now? Plus he had said before that he wouldnt hit girls and that its wrong Yet because in his eyes it was 'reasonable' to do so it's ok * Starts fightin with that boy, now he has a cut lip and needs stiches (IMO he DESERVES it!) He keeps bring this up that his lip is fukd... Ermm HELLO WHOS FAULT IS THAT?!!?!?!! Yet he doesnt shown much concern for my friend bein half deaf because of him * Now this boy starts bringin in his mum, her dad and mum into this and he's claimin that both sides will disown my friend because of what she's done Which bullshit cos she didnt do shit with that boy he's just so god damn paranoid and controlling! Yeah oki 3 years ago he demands her she doesnt talk to this boy he decides he doesnt like because he thinks he likes my friend and because he doesnt like the people that boy hangs around with OKAYYYY THEN.... HE IS SO DUMB * His mum comes down to their uni and 'talks' to them about it but basically takin his side and wont listen to her side of the story. She suggests they just leave it. Which i think they should!! This boy is mad! He's so damn scary and suicidal. He uses that as a tool against her! He keeps threatenin that he will end his life and sayin things like 'these are my last words' * Okieeee basically my friends dad is takin his side too She was tryin to explain to him what happened but he showed no interest what so ever and didnt even let her finish and was like la la la * The been arguin all night but he still doesnt believe her because 'apparently' they rang this boy up and he 'admitted' that he slept with my friend Basically he believes this boy over my friend and repeately asks her to 'tell the truth' * Then he forced me to listen to his side of the story... I was shittin myself cos he had a knife in his room at this point but anyways... Everytime i pointed somethin out he was like ur biased ur takin her side We were like WTF! I'm not biased cos i told my friend shes wrong for lying etc. But he obviously didnt want to listen to me because i wasnt showin sympathy towards his pathetic reasonin which i dont think i ever could until he realises what did Ok fine u was angry blah blah blah, oki i see that and yeah u might not have been able to control urself and hit her but til this day he doesnt feel there was anythin wrong with it He tells her 'u deserved it' Ok i swear to god this boy is fukd up so bad! Everytime we proved him wrong or somethin he kept kickin us outta his room then we left... The he opened his window and was wavin a knife around *Jumpin to this mornin* He sent a sms to my friend sayin his goodbyes and basically that hes goin to end his life So we're like WTF... Apparently he was gettin hold of a gun Seriously man is there any need for all this drama? I swear to goddddddddd he needs help Apparently his cousin was like basically if he kills himself then someones else is goin to aswell... In my eyes this boy is weak... Why does it have to come to death? Ok i understand in his point of view but all this stuff is too much There's no need for all this shit with 'I'm goin to kill myself becos of u' WTF MAN Seriously... Maybe he needs to evaulate the whole situation from another point of view and not his own And actually LISTEN to what she has to say And not bring everyone else into it Urgh this is fukd up!! Basically... This is what i think we happen She will finally persuade him and they will go back to 'nomal' until the next time somethin big happens Becos they argue all the time like unbelieveable!! It's so dumb! She will never be able to break free from him becos he just uses his pathetic 'I'm goin to kill myself' thing again She has been willin to move on away from him a long time ago but... I dont think its ever goin to happen [Sorry for the swearin ><"]
That guy is too emo..... I mean he is too pathetic, if he want to ends his life..... just do it then.... Dont blame others for you so-called I died because of her' suicide blackmails..... If you are a man, just do it then, instead of bitching. If he aint gonna do it, is he bitching about. Life is something valuable, if you gonna end your life this way, he need to see a docter. And btw he dont even got any proof, that she cheated on him.... , which basically wont matter anymore, since he wont change his thoughts about this matter. Since your friend and he broke up, wtf is he bitching about..... Do he want sympathy........, I mean he jumped to conclussions, he could atleast ask her first...... It isn't right too use force first, instead of talking it out. He is so pathetic, making such a fuss about this small *simple* matter <_<
They haven't broken up but basically they woulda done a long time ago But he used this 'I'm goin to die' thing So it was hard to leave him... I swear to god this boy is sucha loser He's basically believin this boy over his gf Yet he's askin her to prove to him she didnt do anythin... How can she prove that? It's his word against her's AND The number they rang was totally different so wtf man? My friend thinks hes makin it up about him ringin that boy up He is fukd in the head He's proper like show me ur FB msgs ur fone etc. He is :nuts:
You're way too beautiful girl That's why it'll never work You'll have me suicidal, suicidal When you say it's over....
your friend needs to leaves this guy and transfer somewhere else. if he's hitting her now what will happen later on. i know it was the first time but his anger should never be at the point of violence. her father needs a serious reality check. the guy hit his daughter!!! if a guy ever did that to me my dad would be after him with a butcher knife! he will never commit suicide. you need to make her listen to you and leave this guy. he's controlling her and making her alienate her friends. things are only going to get worse from here. this pyschological (sorry i cant spell) needs to stop now. this is a really tough situation for you and her so good luck and seek the help of others if you two cant manage alone MUI DONT BE ALONE WITH THIS FREAK AGAIN!!!! YOU DONT KNOW WHAT HE CAPABLE OF DOING
But serious... It's a big risk of what if he actually does commit suicide? Blame will be on her, how can u live with that guilt? I kno it's not her fault But its hard i kno.,. I've told her to leave him time ago like break away from him slowly but it never happened I told her man and yeh shes in the wrong too i told her that Like last nyt when they were arguin before we went out... Cos it was late we missed the last bus so she was like oh he might take us I was like are u mad? Ur arguin with him sayin that u should take his mum's advise and just leave it yet turn around and ask him for favours? I was like u cant do that...
-erm, what is his point.... Do he want to be with her or not......., If he want to be with her, starting this whole situation doesn't make any sense .... And if you want to be with her, you need to trust each other. (that is called a relationship) Which he basically lack....., not only that but also his head ic. And it was more a one sided love......, since he is the * I am going to kill myself if you leave* guy.... But anyways, that relationship is already finished, he dont need to get his ass proven that he is wrong. So he dont have a point to start bitching anyways. That guy sounds like a emo-stalker....
did I say it was funny!?! I was merely inserting to lyrics to a song which fits this situation... when the subject of suicide is at hand.. it is never a laughing matter.. for one.. if he was gonna really do it.. he woulda cut himself already instead of waving the damn thing around in front of her face.. either way dude is gonna need some psychiatric help.. cause one.. she's not obviously gonna stay with him.. and next person he meets, he's probably gonna try the same shit again..
too much to read (i hate reading). but i really wanna kno wat this is all about. Can someone try to generalize this?...lol. plz? thanks.
^ I kno how u feel i hate readin too Basically he thinks she cheated on him and now hes like ahhh im gonna kill myself now ><"
I full out agree with Ecko. This guy is whacked. He needs a check up and he's soo attached to your friend. I find it appalling that a guy is like that. To no longer care about your friend that is half-deaf now, is wrong. And her dad, I don't even have anything to say to that. This guy needs some psychiatric help, nowww
U what? U would hit ur gf because u THINK she cheated on u with no proof what so eveR No questions asked???!?!?!?! T_T
see... something like this would never happen to guys cuz guys have the "Man Code"... anyways... is there a reason why ur friend goes back to her bf?... it sounds more like she's still clinging on to him than the other way around... if you say she was able to move away from him, why hasn't she? what's keeping her there? a simple suicidal threat shouldn't be keeping her there... if anything it would keep you away... there's really no way your friend can win in this situation... the only way is if he decides to break up with her... safest way is to take the sms he sent to your friend to the police and have them deal with it... problem there is a social one, your friend might be outcasted by family and close friends of the family or whatever... but the alternative is to live in crisis till something big does happen... there is one last safe route that could make it all better, but it's a long shot... gather friends from your friends side... girls AND guys... and basically peer pressure her BF's existence out... come together and literally exile him... this of course only works if you and your friend have a group of mutually good friends...
What 'Man Code'? ; Yeahh i mean shes blehh too cos shes selfish too... Like omgZ was so gonna slap her for this From what i can see she's usin him becos then she has someone Cos this happened TWICE she had an oppotunity to get together with a guy But without it bein certain she still was clingin onto he current bf Even tho at the time they werent together... But its like hes a backup I told her to break away from him And shes like yeh i am but is she really? Pfft... tbh i dont think so For one i think its cos shes so used to him always bein there and hes there for her to fall backon And secondy cos she wants someone, she doesnt wanna give him up/loose what they have unless she has someone for defininate But I'm like... oki so what if u do find someone it doesnt mean u gonna be with them forever right? So what difference does it make breakin up with him now and/or when u find someone else? Basically... i dont think they would be in this situation if she had made up her damn mind and stuck to it Either break away from him or just stick with him and stop fukin about ><"
