Is Being Drunk An Excuse To Cheat?

For instance, say you've been dating this guy (or girl if you're a guy) for a little over 2 years, and throughout the course of the relationship, he has never done anything to hurt you. Then one day, he confesses to you that he has cheated on you one night while he was drunk and out with boyz.

His explanantion is that he got completely hammered and went home with a girl and had sex with her not fully knowing what the heck he was doing. He then insists that it meant NOTHING, and that they were just really, really drunk. He also claims that it was just a mistake, and that he really only loves you.

So if you were put in his girlfriend's position, would you forgive him and give him another chance?

I'm a girl and I guess I'm one of those types of people who are really forgiving. So in saying that I would probably give him another chance, just because he was being honest with me. I mean he was drunk, so I guess it doesn't really mean anything, right? I think as long as feelings aren't invested into it, then I'll be ok with forgiving him, just as long as he doesn't do it again. Hopefully though, I'll never have to make that decision with any of the guys I date in the future -sweat

 

Look, he doesn't have to confess in the first place. Right? He loves you! And for guys, sex and love are 2 different things. But, surely you would be better off without knowing. I wouldn't tell you if I were him because I wouldn't want to hurt the person I love.

 

nah, dun forgive -- u forgive and u give him a license to do it again, and again and then he can jst say he was drunk.

you have to be strng and have more respect for yourself i think

 

You should definately forgive him... but only if you like the idea of polygamy-whistle

edited for typo -sweat

 

No, being drunk is not an acceptable excuse, and I would not forgive him. I really don't see the correlation between being drunk and being a cheater. I would never be able to forgive a guy if he cheated on me, no matter what the circumstances are. Even if I do forgive him, I wouldn't continue my relationship with him & give him another chance to use my trust to his advantage. Girls forgive but they never ever forget. That, and I'm also under the mentality of "once a cheater, always a cheater."

& for those of you who are saying that sex & love are 2 different things, it doesn't matter whether it's pysical cheating or emotional cheating. Cheating is cheating regardless of it's nature!

I mean, if he gets drunk, goes home with a girl, and has sex with her... so every time he gets drunk, I'm going to get cheated on? That's not right. Subconsciously, he does not love me.

Anyway, cheating, in my book, is an absolute no and deserves a kick to the curb.

 

lol whoa that was a bit of stiff no... yeah?

I think you should forgive him if he was thinkin' about you while stickin' it to the other girl... like people say there is no Mr. Perfect... so if the guy was swerved off the Cuervo... gettin' nasty up on the dance flo'... give him a break -bigsmile

 

well obviously get him drunk and let him take advantage of you instead... -bigsmile

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Hello how can you ever convince to forgive. If someone really that drunk they can even walk if dont believe try to get really drunk. An excuase after a lie make him a liar we nevr forgive liar

 

I think the excuse 'I was drunk' should have a limit; but when it comes to sexual intercourse, then this is definitely not an excuse....and I think that if someone I love did that to me, there will always be a shadow that he will do it again. I know its hard to stick to our words sometimes when we say don't forgive him but I think you just have to be tough and stand on your ground. (otherwise, you will get hurt over and over again)>.<

 

yea be tough and lock him up in a cage like a lil bitch...

 

tell him this would be his last chance (just for his honesty) and he shouldn't be drunk if he cant control himself (of course if he loves u)
I mean just don't make it too easy for him or this would cause further problems

 

or... you can burn a mark on his arms reminding him of the shameful acts of which he has committed thus bringing him him a life-time of guilt for the sins that were brought upon you..

 

Why not just stamp the guy with your logo like they do with cows then? -clapclap

 

banish him to the depths of hades and make him fight for his sins...

 

Yeah I would give him the death sentence. Having sex with someone else is a big no no..... especially with an excuse like being hammered...I think it's a lame excuse. If he doesn't know how to drink with moderation and call it quits in front of the guys, how can you be sure that he won't pull someone like this again??

 

he can now do anything he want, and comeback saying he was wasted and dont know what happen. BullSHIT fuking liar