Wow, that's an interesting solution... personally, IMO, not the right answer... but it's a solution. Depends on the relationship, for me. If it was someone I'd been together with for a long time and the fight we had was really that bad that he had to get drunk and that led to cheating, I'd probably forgive him. It'd probably take some work to learn to trust him again, but mistakes happen. The fact that he was honest enough to 'fess up also tells me he's sorry and wants to apologize and try to work past it.
happened to one of my friends. She gave in, accepted his apology and broke up awhile later anyways. She took quite a blow from it, and her friends werent very supportive but to say how stupid she was etc. Think twice before you decide.
I argee... you have to think twice before you decide because once chosen... you won't be able to change back easily.
i would only be able to forgive him if i was allowed to go out and do the same thing and he would forgive me for that otherwise no
yea.. I mean ya.. might as go get drunk yourself n cheat.. that way it's a 1 for 1 situation and everything's fair.
i think thats harsh too if u go and purposely do it. its also very immature. but if in the future u did accidentally cheat then, he should rele forgive u for it cos he did it before.
Thats pretty stubborn ... you're just doing damage to the both of you. You either forgive , or don't forgive him.
i think the thing is that people would want to try to forgive just because they still have feelings for that person...but i dont think the relatiosnhip can ever be the same as in there's always going to be that in between them..... I dont think i will be able to to forgive my partner....I'll probably take a break from the relationship and if he really wants to get together later on, then who knows, time will heal all wounds right?
Okay the child molester example is a little far-fetched. There is no physical, emotional or psychologically abuse in cheating. Sure, emotional and psychologically damage but that is different from abuse, especially when you're out to harm others and the harm done is consider a criminal act. But I am surprised at the range of replies. There is a lot to say about men and women since it appears men are more forgiving than women. Or maybe they don't believe in the exclusive relationship ordeal as strongly as women?? Just a thought. But I certainly don't believe in retaliation. If he/she cheats and you need to do the same thing to make a point, you're not any better than your cheating partner. You're falling into the same ugly category you've placed your partner in. At least show some class. I read or heard or seen somewhere something about "If you truly love your partner, you'll forgive your partner even if they cheated on you (intentionally or unintentionally) because love is about forgiveness, and the acting of cheating isn't going to decrease your love for your partner." What do you guys think about this?
couple years ago, i would've said NO. but now i think i will say yes if ONLY it was under your assume condition. but i'll be mad for at least 2 weeks before accepting him back into my life agian.
Love is about forgiveness but I don't believe it applies to all things. If your partner cheated on you, whether it was intentionally or not, he is still wrong. It is our decision to take him back or not, and we will still be right. If he cheated unintentionally, we will definitely question whether he is the right person because cheating is a reckless behavior. Sorry, if he cheated intentionally; the ethical way is to leave him for good. While there are people can accept cheaters because they love the person so much to leave him/her, there are also people who can't accept that kind of behavior; because that tragedy will eventually affect them emotionally/mentally. The acting of cheating will definitely decrease the love for your partner. You know what they say, "a cheater can never give you 100% trust, again." It's the same for your love to them, you will never love him/her fully again, maybe 99% but never 100%. Why should you give the cheater all your heart if they are only willing to give you half of theirs?
^^^ nice response....... The quote that you read, toshina, i have to disagree wtih. I dont think that love is about forgiveness, rather i think love is about acceptance of who your partner is. Becuase honestly speaking, I dont think anyone can forgive a partner who intentioanlly cheats on them. And as vangirl says, even if the partner cheats unintentionally, the damage is still done and the partner had allowed him/herself to fall into that trap, who is to say that history will not repeat itself? the relationship can never be the same again if either one of the partners cheats.
well ppl can forgive a cheating partner depending upon the circumstance, i mean if u had a large argument with ur gf or were on a break from ur partner and u got drunk and cheated, thats technically cheating but a lot of ppl think it is.
^ im assuming you mean not cheating when you are on a break, and i would have to say that is true because if you two are not together than the single game is clearly in affect... but girls see a break as literally a pending relationship... so anything that gives them a doubt about the other would potentionally lead to the pending becoming a declination... so yeah.... and no one should ever intentionally cheat because if you really have that mind set then you don't deserve to be in a meaningful relationship.... as a guy i fully understand the urge to want to conquer all the Manko but to do that stay single... but to be committed to a relationship you have to develop the disease of One-gina (taken from russell peters XD) love is not only about how well you can forgive or the acceptance of who your partner is, love is about a lot of things mixed together, love is unexplainable through words and can only be felt, oddly enough this quote is from the bible which was used in the movie and novel "A Walk to Remember" and happens to be a favorite quote of mine.....
i have forgive my partner for cheating on me BUT i have never forgotten that it has happened, and because of that i find it really hard for me to trust her again....
