i wont be stealing any attention she cares about anyways, the only people who will want to meet him and talk to him are my family (we dont know anyone else at the wedding) and she'll be too wrapped around her friends to care anyways(she's one of those friends before family people) he doesn't know, cause i dont need him to feel this way, obligation, that's why i'm going obligation, that is why i was invite besides i do want to go and see the rest of the family (i think 90% of the family feels the same way)
lol...some ppl eh.... m yiew meen....aka dont care about face.... all i can say is i feel bad for ur bf....
well well... srl you know what i would do? i wouldnt show up. im serious. if a family member doesnt give a flying shit about family, i dont give a flying shit about it. i wont go. and if they ask why you couldnt go, make up some shit that you had business trips else where.
just because it's a big wedding and money doesnt matter isnt the point. maybe she had the seating arrangement all thought out already and adding a person makes a difference. she is the bride and its her call. doesnt matter who pays. i agree that she is acting like a bit of a bitch about things but maybe she has her reasons. i had a big wedding and my husband invited some of his cousins bf/gf and didnt for others cause of the seating arrangements. he based it on who he was closer with. with a big wedding you cant make everyone happy.
babs is speaking quite a lot of sense here. that is true, i mean they might not have enough spaces for everybody and so they might not have invited ur bf cos they don't know him well.
yea i dont care either, like i said most of the family doesn't care but we're "bay mein" give face to her parents i care about her parents, and if it means a lot to them that I am there, and my bf is there, I will do it for them (they are the ones paying too) actually she knew about him coming more than two months ago, and she didn't start doing the seating arragments unti ltwo weeks ago
maybe due to doing the seating arrangements so late, she's found out there are not enough seats for everybody.
personally, i wouldn't bring an unwanted guest to her wedding, i mean, it is HER wedding. But if i felt so strongly about bringing him, i'd bring him anyway or not go at all ! Wedding rejections are pretty rude though...
Yes, it's true... bringing people that your family members might not know will probably make them unhappy because why would they want people that they don't know in her wedding...?
well this of it differently She knew he was coming two months ago, and she was alright, and kinda interested in meeting him now (after we've made plans) now she tells us no? Why wouldn't she said "no" MONTHS ago, when she first found out i find it even more rude that she's trying to disinvite people now
so she said yes in the beginning (2 months ago) and now she's saying no? did you mention that? i dont remember, anyhow, maybe back then she had the space for him and now that the seating arrangement is done there is no room or a major re-shuffling is required to make him fit and since you are coming in from out of town maybe she thought that you hadnt invited him yet or that he wasnt going to come. so when she found out he was definitley coming she had a spazz attack and she technically didnt disinvite him it was if you hadnt invited him yet dont but since you did already it's a "i suppose its ok" and it doesnt sound like she formally invited him in the first place ie: sending him an invitation. honestly, if this is the situation i think her nerves are getting the better of her. it's not easy planning a big wedding. perhaps you should just move on and stop being mad about the situation. he's going your going what's the problem. you said you were only going because of the family anyways so need to make the situation worse. go and enjoy your trip!
ok maybe i didn't mention that but she's always known he was coming, the entire family knows, i mean the entire extended family knows
