If we consider the history of the institution of marriage, all of us would agree that it started at the time of creation itself. Man and woman are different both biologically and in mental makeup. However, the creation would not continue if man and woman do not come together. The physical and emotional needs unite man and woman and marriages take place. Till the beginning of the twentieth century, joint families and lifetime single marriages were quite prevalent. Divorces were few and far in between. However, things started changing as more and more women took up careers and achieved financial independence. The dependence of women on men declined and even small disagreements were magnified to a large extent that they were considered to be impinging on the individuality. Let us consider the top 15 reasons why couples break up: 1. Desire to be independent. 2. Getting attracted to another person. 3. Infidelity. 4. Physical incompatibility. 5. Less attracted to the person in a sexual way. 6. Lack of proper body maintenance, like becoming too fat. 7. Conflict in tastes and desires. 8. Continuous nagging. 9. Comparing the man or woman to others constantly 10. Imparting unsolicited advice all the time 11. Addiction to alcohol or drugs 12. Deterioration in the health of one spouse or suffering from incurable ailments like HIV 13. Physical and mental abuse and exhibiting sadistic tendencies 14. Ignoring or showing disrespect to friends and relatives of one spouse 15. Impotency or inability to bear children. *What do you all think about the top 15 reasons above?
Communication is a huge reason, or so I hear Also I think trying *new* things is important too. My friend wants to leave his gf because she's boring at sex <.<
for some reasons i think couples breaking up because of infidelity, getting bored, attracted to someone else...so basically i think all of them are true.
I think most, if not all, of these "reasons" are excuses on a relative scale. It all boils down to not enough love going on. 1. Desire to be independent. Independence and a relationship (or even marriage) are not exclusive, unless by independence one means to live on a deserted island, ALONE. 2. Getting attracted to another person. Not enough love, not any more. 3. Infidelity. Same as above. 4. Physical incompatibility. As in, unsatisfying sex? Well, if a relationship is based solely on sex drive, I wouldn't have much hope for it to begin with, after all, one (or two) cannot have sex like bunnies until 80. 5. Less attracted to the person in a sexual way. Same as 2 and 3. Not enough love to sustain the relationship. 6. Lack of proper body maintenance, like becoming too fat. Unless the couple was the perfect specimen of human beings when they first got together, I have to say they just learned to live with flaws... Until the flaw becomes to great to tolerate. 7. Conflict in tastes and desires. It changes so rapidly it is unreliable. Can you say your favourite piece of clothing, idol, job, or even cuisine will remain the same in the next 50 years? 8. Continuous nagging. It's a mistake that the relationship even began. 9. Comparing the man or woman to others constantly Same as 6 and 7, it's just not enough love to be considerate towards the feelings of the "criticized". 10. Imparting unsolicited advice all the time Same with 8 and 9. Sometimes silence IS golden. 11. Addiction to alcohol or drugs AA can come in handy. 12. Deterioration in the health of one spouse or suffering from incurable ailments like HIV Okay... it again ties back to infidelity, because unless said person is HIV+ BEFORE the relationship, he/she would not DEVELOP HIV out of the blue. It's a matter of mutual understanding and trust... And death is not even a valid reason! Break-up implies conscious choice, death is not something one can bargain with. 13. Physical and mental abuse and exhibiting sadistic tendencies Again, not something that can develop overnight. There would have been clues, just that people tend to turn a blind eye to them when they are "madly in love" 14. Ignoring or showing disrespect to friends and relatives of one spouse Like 12 and 13, it's either a one-time thing, like a bad day, or it's a general attitude problem which anyone with proper eyesight can see... 15. Impotency or inability to bear children. If it's even a valid excuse to break up, it should happen before commitment is considered. All in all, it all boils down to the definition of break up, is it disintegration of marriage or just a parting of ways of a couple in a relationship? Sometimes, somethings are not meant to be and it WILL go down with a blast if forced or if reason is neglected... I don't mean to sound like a sap or anything, but love does conquer all in this case, if one care another more than anything else in the world, any flaw can be forgiven and overlooked. Everything else is just excuses in fanciful wrappings to make one feel better for not loving enough...
A couple somewhere in the world had 2 times of sex each day for over 60 years... till one of them died so it is possible! :stickpoke: and we both know that nowadays a lot of people think alot easier about marriage... some people just dont think like the way we do about marriage
Did the person who died died of cardiac arrest, like, DURING sex? Just thought I should ask. Sex is not something that is reliable, and there are people who cannot afford to have sex (a VERY exhausting and taxing activity) physically.
religion can be a reason as well... perhaps like not in the top 15 reasons of breaking up lol.... i've kinda learnt that when someone is too nice to you...and is like too good of a person... it makes you compare yourself to them.. and you feel as though you have to really force yourself to put more effort in even when, in the odd few times, you cant be bothered.....- to be as nice to them as they are to you.. x_X... if that makes sense... which really isn't good =_=... which then leads to... perfect boyfriends/girlfriends who meet up to all the points you write down for like.. "ideal boy/girl" isn't good either haha.. imperfections of people are what makes a relationship grow stronger really... and when you overcome some problems together... you understand each other more
how come arguing about money/kids/in-laws/ etc aren't on the list? A lot of ppl actually break up over financial probs...
hmmm..... maybe we should make it like top 40 or top 50 to include more relevent reasons. hahahaha......
Even though i find some of the ones listed a bit trivial to divorce over, I knw some pple have broken up with more pathetic and stupid reasons, so i guess those top 15s are quite reasonable!
for me i feel like it's the guy not at the same level in life as me. i am growing and learning from life experience and he remains to stay at the same spot.. very dissapointing.
i think no6 n no12 is not always true... cos if u loved each other truly u would be by each other's side n wouldnt mind...n try to help each other out...
lol so we gotta avoid all these to have a happy relationship, i'd laugh at ppl who avoid all these and still break up lol
