Okay here's the background: I'm asian, bf is white been together for 1yr and 8 mth met in college,los angeles both really love each other Situation: I've been in love for over a year and a half, and my bf is moving to san diego for medical school. this sounds dumb but i am deeply in love with this man, and i've already met his family and he's met mine. he's leaving next week and i have a horrible case of seperation anxiety. he told me that he isn't ready to leave and he doesnt want to. but he has to. and i feel like i'm a wreck right now, i have a horrible time controling my emotions and i keep crying for stupid reasons. he doesn't like talking on the phone, he doesnt like chatting online, and i feel like we wont work out in a long distant relationship but i've never been so in love with someone before. he's the most romantic guy i've ever met in my life, and i dont want to let go, i hope it works but i think its going to be difficult cuase i'm so needy.... any advice? ------------------------ Thanks for the advice guys.
your advice would be , make him talk on phone and online otherwise your both screwed ..... Its a bit harsh, but long distantance relationships without communication never works out
how far is san diego from LA??.. your situation is kinda the same as mine, bcos i go to university in a different city (from where i live) so when i come home from holidays the relationship is kinda L/D.. but he comes up to see me each month when he can and we talk on the phone every night lol, can't you two hook up on weekends or during holidays?
somethings already changed (ie him moving away) wats to say other stuff can't change? somethings gotta give to ensure it keeps going eg, him talking on phone more, webcam, etc etc or wats to stop u from moving there with him? =)
lol install a Spycam in his room, so u can check up on him, and when u see him: sneak his phone and check it for "Mysterious Calls" lol moving away = Freedom lol, and Freedom mean"free Choice " -devil
lol i dont think that she suspect her bf... hm... but i agreed to phil, u need to make him talk to u on phone or chatting, ... or break up and find new bf lol
lol, u gotta watch Marriage without a Fool, Love is not All around and L For Love L for Lies, lol lots of stuff you could learn, lol like they say, a couple that looks normal and safe, isnt a happy one, a relationship usually has many secrets ........
he don't like talking on the phone, he doesnt like chatting online or you could alway write letter to each other well if he don't like doing any of them the long distant relationship will never work out unless u go to see him very offten but it weird how come he don;t like talkin on the phone >.<
wow.... moving 120 miles away is definitely going to hurt..... honestly there isn't much you can do at this point.... you can try to schedule webcam chats.... but either than that...... meet ups will get hard to do after awhile and tiring...... the roundtrip drive for either of you two is already quite unpleasing
i only have some advice to maintain the long distance relationship 1. Define ur relationship- how deep are u into it 2. don't make unnecessary arguments - dont whine about every small things, be understandable 3. Show encouragement
you have to atleast use skype cam or similiar communication or the relationship might fail. i have been w/ my gf for a year but she recently moved back to japan. webcam is the only thing that is keeping the emotions strong between us or the relationship feels stale. luckly, i get to see her in a few months.
awww.... well akki said its 120miles away.... which is not too far right? i mean... u guys could see each other like one weekend a month or every 2 months? i do agree with the others... if he doesnt like talking on phone or chatting... he should try to learn how to like it lets hope he will do that when he misses u.... perhaps u guys will be hanging on the phone for hours after a while hehe ~ anyway, just see how it goes la... hope ur not too sad -flow
