OK, quite simple really, I met a girl at a birthday party a couple of weeks ago. Although I am usaully quite good with girls, this time is different. She is not like all the other girls of my past. She is not materialistic, does not wear much makeup and is not really that fun and wild. But there is just something that seems to draw me towards her. I can't sleep at nights thinkabout her all the time and also she makes rediscover feelings I have not felt since my first gf years ago. I was hurt badly by my first gf, the one and only girl I ever loved and since then I kinda been "playing" with girls because I changed into what my brother describes as "a totally different person". I had one-night stands with girls, relationships that spaned from days to weeks (rarely ever months and even so only 1 or 2) and now I met someone I really like and I feel as though I can live with not flirting or fucking other girls as long as I have her. Its a scary feeling for me, cos I find myself quite nervous and not my usual confident self with her. Not like I make a fool or anything, but I am always more careful than usual and that leads to be being less confident looking and not as smooth as usual. After spending some time with her and chatting to her over the phone, I am starting to feel that there might be something there. I am really nervous and am just not hundred percent sure. In the past with other girls, I usually just "don't care" and so when it happens it happens. I am not a great looking guy, but I have good humour and I am very comfortable in flirting. I feel there are the usual signs she does like me like : 1) physical contact ~ she have gradually become more touchy where sometimes she would touch my arm while we are walking or while chatting. Also she would come up with excuses to make me touch her such as asking whether her back is very dark tanned (from boat trip she went to earlier) or telling me she needs to go workout cos she is getting a bit fat, then ask me to feel her belly and tell her if she is fat. 2) eye contact ~ when chatting I feel she does indeeed make direct eye contact with me and that her eye moves from my eyes to my lips every so oftenm which tells me she is very focused into listening to what I am saying. 3) remember everything I say ~ even when minor little things I mentioned briefly before, then enxt time we come out she would remember. Like minor things like I mentioned in a sentence that I don't like waiting. OK a very small detail and it wasn't even the main detail I was talking about. I was telling her something and that little detail just happend to be included in part of a sentence, yet next time I dated her she was slightly late and she was so appologetic and said "she was so sorry for being late cos she knew I hated waiting for ppl". 4) always willing\available ~ Whenever I asked her out or asked her to do something she has never turned me down. Unless she was actually busy (like had to go to school) where she would find an appropriate day to reschedule. However there are some things that make me confused: 1) Not always free to chat ~ it seems that most of the time I call her she is busy. She is either about to shower, or doing homework, or doing some of thing. Then she always tells me she will call me back and she always does even if its really late (like 1 a.m.). 2) She does not call me very often ~ most of the time, it is me calling her. I dunno if it is cos she is busy (oh, maybe i should say she goes to school during evenings and recently it was her bday so some days she met up with friends for dinner and stuff). In the past I would not call girls quite often to "just talk" but I have already broken this rule. Based on the summary of what I have discovered so far, maybe I best let you guys decide if she does have feeling towards me, likes me or just see me as friend. I want to tell her I like her but I will wait until the time is right. The fact that I do not think I should yet, prob means it ain;t the time. I can''t say I can usually tell, but it usually just happens, like I would take her hand when walking or leaving whatever. Just that I seem to be too scared to make a mistake I don't want to rely on my own instincts this time round. Please give advice. Its all apreciated guys THANKS!!!
rofl... u could be like flaming... ahahahah so u mention "next time i dated her", so are u2 2gether?? if u are, wat r u worrying abt? give it time... i'm sure u'll see wat she thinks of u etc plus, guys aren't meant to understand girls anyway... lolz as long as ur happy 2gether, its all good =)
it seems like she's developing feelings for u and is quite comfortable being with ya....so go for it.. its better to tell her how u feel now otherwise u might end of regretting it. she doesn't have a bf atm right? so all the more reason to confess
well the way you describe her actions a what not it seems like shes becoming very close to you and might like you =/ good thing is to tell her now then later like confess to her your feelings otherwise once the spark is gone you might regret cause maybe she moved on to someone else anyways best of luck to ya hope you get her
thanks everyone, i think i will tell her when i see her later this week. btw I have a question directed twards girls. If a guy tells you that they like you and say you did not, how would you react and would it be game over between the two of you? Cos from a guys perspective, the answer to that question wud be YES.
if it was out of the blue, I'd be shocked cos i hadn't really thought about whether i like them in that way or not. In terms of 'game over' , its not really game over, cos if they guy was persistent, then we'd still be good friends an it could develop into something me.... but game over happens, when the guy avoids the girl or vice versa after the confession, imo.
OK, I think I will tell her soon, but even she was to say NO, I will live on and not cry about it. I will be sad for a while but at least with no regrets and I will hopefully remain friends with her until she is ready to accept me. As for out of the blue, I do not think it will be out of the blue. I have hinted to her that I like her. For example earlier I mentioned we were out the other day and she arrived late and she was apologising and so on...then I said "it's alright, if a person is worth waiting for, then I would not mind waiting". Also I have subtlety told her a few times that she is pretty. I love that whever I tell her that she is pretty, she would light up. I mean she would smile a big smile and look so very happy and it makes me feel so warm inside as if I said that just to see that smile.
if someone is always pulling your sleeve does that also mean she loves you ? with pulling i mean almost ripp it off.. EVIL MUI?!?!?!?!?! nah on topic. you shouldnt be to focused on how much she calls you, and that you call her more, it doesnt really matter aslong she talks to you, and you say she is everytime busy.. but she does call you back right? just try if you dont try.. youll never know for sure
well she seems to know about ur feelings an she is responding to it in a positive way....so thats good. So now its just a matter of when u guna confess an how? but good luck -flow
pfft, I just did something like that few days ago and we're still friends, you're just over reacting...Now I shall go back hiding in my dark cave and plan something sinister
similar situation to me. your feelings are clear and you been getting positive messages from her so definitely confess and do it soon ^^ good luck
okies am going to be very negative here 1) physical contact ~ she have gradually become more touchy where sometimes she would touch my arm while we are walking or while chatting. Also she would come up with excuses to make me touch her such as asking whether her back is very dark tanned (from boat trip she went to earlier) or telling me she needs to go workout cos she is getting a bit fat, then ask me to feel her belly and tell her if she is fat. for me i would say that pretty much normal for a girl to do these lil thing like touchin arms, belli etc etc...when my friend said she fat i go and rub her belli and say yea your fat ur belli wobblin to much u need to slim down and she always wrap her arms around mine but it doesn;t mean that she likes me it mean that she close to me and not scary to have physical contact 2) eye contact ~ when chatting I feel she does indeeed make direct eye contact with me and that her eye moves from my eyes to my lips every so oftenm which tells me she is very focused into listening to what I am saying. 3) remember everything I say ~ even when minor little things I mentioned briefly before, then enxt time we come out she would remember. Like minor things like I mentioned in a sentence that I don't like waiting. OK a very small detail and it wasn't even the main detail I was talking about. I was telling her something and that little detail just happend to be included in part of a sentence, yet next time I dated her she was slightly late and she was so appologetic and said "she was so sorry for being late cos she knew I hated waiting for ppl". well of coz when your chattin to each other u goto have eye contactes it be rude to stare someone esle when someone chattin to you it mean your not payin enough attention to that person and maybe she just a good listener and as for bein late its just polite to say sorry when someone is waitinf for you 4) always willing\available ~ Whenever I asked her out or asked her to do something she has never turned me down. Unless she was actually busy (like had to go to school) where she would find an appropriate day to reschedule. maybe she just bored at home and got nothin else to do so might as well go out with u whenever u ask her to However there are some things that make me confused: 1) Not always free to chat ~ it seems that most of the time I call her she is busy. She is either about to shower, or doing homework, or doing some of thing. Then she always tells me she will call me back and she always does even if its really late (like 1 a.m.). if she busy of coz she wont' be able to be free to chat she rather finish her stuff first which is more important 2) She does not call me very often ~ most of the time, it is me calling her. I dunno if it is cos she is busy (oh, maybe i should say she goes to school during evenings and recently it was her bday so some days she met up with friends for dinner and stuff). In the past I would not call girls quite often to "just talk" but I have already broken this rule. well as u alway call her and she does not call u very often then it only mean that she don't like u that much if a girl likes you she will call u no matter how busy she is or when she even out havin dinner she will alway text you to tell u what she doing or text you to see how your doing well from what i been readin i think she only sees you as a friend oh and BTW SORRY for the negative thooughts but don;t listen to me i could be wrong and there no harm in tryin to ask her out good luck on that
go for it! You will never know if you don't try! But IMO expect the worst so if its the opposite you'll be happy to death! hahaha!
i would definitely go for a girl that makes my heart flutter... got nothing to lose really don't give up the chance
no need Uncle Kit, its all sorted ^^ but you can arrange something for me, not to have crappy cards when we play Big 2!!! >.< -880 score is a joke
@ede559 I think its time to go forward with the confession. Remember if you ask her, you have 50% chance yes and 50% chance no. If you don't ask at all thats a 100% chance no.
