Need Some Help =/

Discussion in 'Love and Relationships' started by ProjectD, Sep 6, 2008.

  1. ProjectD

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    i havent post here at all before so its the first time

    anyways well i met this girl in summer school and i ended up really liking her
    but we only started to talk like the last two weeks
    after summer school ended, i got her msn from a friend
    so we started talking, and all... after about three weeks i just summed up the courage to tell her i liked her

    (big problem is that we live pretty far away from each other, and i dont drive yet for another 3 months =/)
    and like she thought i was giving up, and she asked why guys give up so easily
    and so i was silent from then on
    i didnt really know what to say, T_T
    do long distant relationships work?
    what should i do? i need some advice guys

    really long post i know -_-'''

    advice would be much appreciated
     
    #1 ProjectD, Sep 6, 2008
    Last edited: Sep 6, 2008
  2. gawain187

    gawain187 Well-Known Member

    Doesnt make sense, so did you tell her or not?

    How far away do you live from each other?

    You did not give her enough reassurance

    They can work if the love is strong enough

    Talk to her
     
  3. ProjectD

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    haah thanks and yeah i did tell her
    maybe i should fix that part =/
    i live like 45 minute drive from her
    and since i dont drive yet... its pretty hard to meet up with her
    maybe i should say one more thing too... she doesnt get to go out to much
     
  4. gawain187

    gawain187 Well-Known Member

    Consider using public transport for the moment

    Then invite her out when she is avaliable
     
  5. MissCheekS

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    awww... 45 min is nothing n yeah like gawain mentioned before... public transport for the time being...
    whats 3 months if u really like the girl..
    my ex bf lived about 3hours by public transport lol....

    even if she dont get out much u guys can meet up like once a week right?

    if u really like her just go for it!
     
  6. sars4tw

    sars4tw Well-Known Member

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    45min it's an okay drive. Since you don't drive do consider using public transport. May take longer but it'll get you there.
    Most of the time long distance relationships doesn't work out. Lack of communication.
     
  7. Phoenix

    Phoenix *~Though she be but little, she is fierce~*

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    take the bus or sumfin...my bf goes to a diff college from me an thats like 2hrs away..so we do find it hard to meet up at times but we manage...=]

    if u both want it to work...then why wouldnt it work? good luck -flow
     
  8. gawain187

    gawain187 Well-Known Member

    Well there something called a mobile phone or msn messenger and now theres facebook.
     
  9. ProjectD

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    well i guess your right love does take some sacrfrices ><
    guess i will have to take public transportation for a while till i get my license
    thanks all
     
  10. Flames

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    Take public transport and visit her!
    Last girl I like lives 30min away from me by driving but 1 hour and something for trains. Went and gave her flowers on the sunday before her birthday at her workplace, after work(which is near where she lives). She was so happy.
     
  11. ProjectD

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    hmm thats a pretty good idea
     
  12. rsx

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    Seriously, if you really liked her, 45min drive should NOT be a problem. Like all the others have said, take public transportation there. Other alternatives include asking a close friend to drive you there or lie to your parents so they can drive you there (it's preferred that you tell them that you need to go there to visit a college or something).

    I've had several friends who've taken public transportation and gone the distance to visit their significant other. As long as it's within reaching distance, it can be done.

    Go for it.
     
  13. ProjectD

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    thanks man, thats a will do
     
  14. Flames

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    ^ Aren't you gonna go meet her now? Don't make things complicated, thats a barrier in stopping you going to meet her.
     
  15. ProjectD

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    RIGHT NOW?!?!?! its 9 pm here in Cali haha
    i mean it will show her im not giving up on her and how much she means to me
    but i think my parents would kill me lmao
     
  16. wind2000

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    45 min is short distance. During those 3 months that u wont be able to see her that often, take it as a test whether this relationship will work or not. Also, its a point for you when shes asking why guys give up so easily. Seems like its a hint that she likes u also. :)
     
  17. ProjectD

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    i was thinking that too... but lately i've been thinking really negatively haha
    but ill post some updates when i get around to talking to her
     
  18. reno

    reno Well-Known Member

    45 min is not that far away...

    plus, doesnt' mean u both can't find somewhere middle ground to go on dates...
    45min drive is not considered long distance! rofl...
    u'll be fine =)

    many times i've driven more than that just to see friends...
    but now that fuel is stupidly expensive... gotta think twice hahaha
     
  19. Morgaine

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    Lol, like everyone has said, 45 minutes isn't far. Try having to fly to see your significant other. Then we'll call it far. As it is, if you think she's worth it, 45 minutes isn't bad.

    And give yourself some credit, hey? You were willing to keep in touch with her even after summer school was over. Says a lot about you, from a girl's perspective, anyways. So go for it! Just keep building the relationship and see how it goes.
     
  20. bko1

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    you need interaction. online and in person, preferably. otherwise, it's downhill?