Apparently my bf is talking to one of his classmate. She seems to be romantically interested in him. She spam his facebook wall with her messages. My bf even ignored me on aim to talk just to her. I waited half an hour for a response. I confronted him, and he said he was just playing a game. But his wall messages contradicted that, so he said that he wanted to sleep. So now she doesn't write on his wall anymore but send him private messages. Anyway, she is a close friend of his ex too. He seems to talk to her about his ex too. I am not sure if he is romantically interested in her or not, but I feel like I am being neglected. If he is not interested, i just dont want her to lead her on. I am also afraid that they spend more time together might create some more than friend's spark. I have never met her before. They hang out outside of school, like she visited him at work. He never told me about it, until a friend told me that she saw them together. Anyway, I just feel neglected. What should I do? What do you think? I am over suspicious or what? Also he always bring his ex gf up. It bothers me a bit. I told him that, but he said it is part of his past, he can't not mention it. Geez. I dont know. I really need some serious advices. Please help me.:eat:
oh u dun have worry abt the developing sparks beyond fds coz they r already sparkling... n ur a very smart girl checking his facebook n confronted him... but being the smart cookie n digging to the bottom of things kinda drove him away... yes he's wrong... he's been bad a bad boy but did it to any good to ur relationship?? so u just want to know the truth or u wanna safe the relationship?? if ur looking for the truth just keep digging... but the truth mite hurt... if u wanna safe the relationship now's the time to act like a perfect gf... like one of those in The Stanford Wives... wait around for him to get over his lil crush... then he mite realise ur better...
aww....you should give him an ultimatum an tell how u feel..and maybe work out a compromise or sometihng... if he keeps this up...u might be better off with someone else...sorry.. cos he aint giving u respect, neglecting you...etc -flow
^ well that isn't always true... acting like the perfect gf but fake about it isn't going to get anywhere.... if he is interested in her seriously confront him about it... be prepared for the worst... im a guy myself and if i did this to my gf she would have a huge fit and probably dump me... digging through his FB for the answer are going to tough now that he knows you are on to him.... i say check his phone for his text messages...
yes the truth does hurt at times...an then you'd regret digging but at least u'll get closure an then u can decide whether to dump him or stay with him.. if the talkin doesnt work....then dig an dump...
in what way is he bringing up his ex? like comparing you two? just talking about what they did? i think that's a little insensitive if he still does it even after you asked but that could just be a personality thing as for him hiding things from you and lying that's just BAD BAD BAD BAD this could end badly . . . . if you can't trust a person, how can you well . .. how can you anything trust is like the most important, because without trust everything else is just meaningless
You should ask him for the truth and nothing else! If nothing is changing after a while... You can just forget about him... Coz he's not worth waiting for!
-lol ... i'm not trying to teach her bad stuff... i'm just asking wot she wants out of this relationship... dumping the guy n finding someone new would b the easiest thing to do... she's still young n pretty... got plenty of time to shop around... but if she doesn't wanna lose him... keep digging or confronting will only push him away... just because a guy got caught lying doesn't mean he'll want forgiveness :bowdown: he mite find it easier to leave...
Ur bf doesnt sound nice... the fact that hes lying means hes hiding something... otherwise why wouldnt he be upfront about it even if he just kept it from u cuz he didnt want to make u feel unhappy its wrong. n yeah i agree with phoenix, give him an ultimatum, make him choose n if hes not willing to id suggest u make a choice for him n let him go
Thank you everyone for commenting. I really like him, so I do not want to push him away. But I want to get to the bottom of this. I can never seriously talk to him about this issue without him getting mad or distracted me with other comments like she is not pretty, she is just a friend. Should I just ignore it and stay with him, until I know who he wants to be with.
Btw, I think Dawn comment was witty. Dawn meant well, but I am could be a little hot headed so I can't act like that and hide my emotions. If I am mad or happy, it shows
kooslee...u sound so nice....=(...too nice... would u break up with him if u know theres more than friendship going on tho?
its just that some guys take advantage of girls who are too nice... u should read a book "why men marry bitches" n u will understand i personally wouldnt allow my bf to have such secretive activities if he has contact with a girl he should b upfront about it... it means hes honest n has nothing to hide right?
hack into his facebook? that is too obvious. He will blame it is my fault even if i find out anything. Missangiecheeks, I agree with you that he should be secretive, but when I asked him about it. He said I am intruding his life. He feels like I am suffocating him. He never said anything like that until she came along. I know he likes me, but he is lifting weight, and dwelling a lot on his images. Is that a sign for a new potential love interest. Where could I find that book? Not sure if i am the bitch material, but that book sounds interesting.
I dont know id it is a sign but... all the other things are already telling u something is not right would it be ok for u to do the same thing to him? i think not... i know u like him but...come on girl... show him whos the boss!! a guy whos behaving like this... so dodgy....is he worth keeping? U sound like a nice girl...im sure that if u guys would break up ud easily find another guy! ur still young, if this guy aint right for u just move on! dunno where ur from but heres a link : http://www.amazon.com/Why-Men-Marry-Bitches-Winning/dp/074327637X
