My mom was very strict.... my curfew was ridiculous... my mom expected me home at 5pm when i was 15/16.... -shock i was a pretty bad kid and very immature so i rebelled... i stayed out later on purpose and went back home late to yelling and i just took it... i once bleached my hair so my hair was like golden orange(?) and my mom just freaked out and tried to get me to dye my hair back black.... when i refused she kicked me out... took a few days for her to cope with it.... ever since it grew out i haven't dyed my hair again.... i took my mom for granted and now that im 21 i have a car, i have experienced living on my own, paying my own bills for electric/gas/cable/food, going out late and the such..... my mom has since diverted her "nagging" on my younger sister... i guess in a way i broke free, forcefully... she still sort of nags me but its normal.
^ YEH THOUGH THAS COZ YOU'RE A UBBBBBBER BAD KID... "SHE DIVERTED HER ATTENTION TO MY SIS" ....THAS COZ SHE PROLLY THINKS...ITS NO USE WITH YOU NO-MORES..-lol...
thats uber strict and traditional parents for you. You get around with this may be - you struck in traffic / u need to acompany your female friends home safely / you fell sleep on the street and just wake up at that time...
haha, interesting stories and comments... well, if they think im immature, guess il have to prove them wrong ... but how is the problem... lets just wait and see what comes up... i remember one time my parents didnt care what time i got back home... its only that started the whole thing come home early etc. this academic year... maybe my grades were bad... but they arent - really... OH WELL
It's rather hard for a kid to realize that he's still a kid. So are you immature? Of course you are. But do you see yourself that way? Of course you won't. Yeah... tell me about it, life's a bitch. On the other hand, don't bother trying to prove anything. The best that you can do is to follow their rules and talk if you have issues. If they don't see it your way, then learn to suck it up and do as you're told (BTW, that's probably the greatest sign of maturity, ie doing as you're told without bitching about it, even as you hate every second of it). Further, what do you think parents are, robots that have everything perfectly recorded or written down on a planner? Hell no, half the time, we're winging it just like you. I remember with my kids, sometimes, I just happen to remember shit and I'll tell them about it. One will invariably question as to why I didn't enforce the same rule with his sibling. Well, had I thought of it then, I would have; but I hadn't, so I didn't. However, since I had thought of it now, I'm enforcing it. Is it fair? Hell no. But that's the rule that they have to live by. My only consolation to them is, just hope that I'll forget again. Like kids, parents are no where near perfect either. But they do have more experience than you and they set the rules (if and when they remember to do so). So... was it your grades that set this off? Did you parents forget and suddenly remember to set rules? Who knows? But does it really matter? No; you just have to live by those rules until you move out and get your own place. Then you can call the shots and kick them out of your house whenever you want to, heh-heh-heh... -kekemad (I actually did that once to my mother as she tried to interfere with my own child rearing rules).
kinda off the original topic but took a day off to attend a memorial service for my late grandfather ... all my extended families were there. anyway, here's the story. My uncle told me that his daughter (my cousin) who is only 17 demanded him to get her a new car so she could drive to school. Her reason was that public transportation ain't safe these days and she stays at school late everyday; making her an easy target for thugs or whatsoever at the subway/bus stop. (both of her parents are executives who worked late hours so they can't pick her up everyday) The part he is odd about is that his daughter asked for a manual car instead of an automatic; especially when she barely passed her driving test with an automatic. The next thing was that she bought a lot "brand" name clothing which she hardly wear them or only a few times before she box them up in the attic. When he asked her stop buying the brand name clothes; her response was that you brought me into this world, it's your responsibilities and obligation to take care of me and give me the very best. what do ya'll think?? do kids really feel that way these days???
LOL... "I brought you into this world, and I'll take your ass out..." is a phrase that a buddy of mine always tells his kids. My suggestion, tell your uncle to change transfer his daughter to a school in a safer area, like perhaps a military school. That's giving her the very best. -devil
well .. she's the only daughter and the fact that both of them worked long hours, they hardly spend any quality time with the child. i guess it's their way of compensating the kid with the lost time and neglect. but these days, both parents working possibly longer hours are very typical so i was wondering if this is kinda of another trend with the youngsters?
From your comments, the impression I get is that the girl is rather spoiled and needs some firm limit setting. I remember reading about Korean parents who took their kids to a boot camp without first letting the kids know. They just drove out for what was supposed to be a country drive, and then dumped the brat into that setting. Needless to say, many kids freaked, wailed and cried. But thereafter learned that they were made of sterner stuff. In a rush? For a quick synopsis, just read the red highlighted lines. Something worth considering, eh? Even if you can't find the time to spend with the child, they still need direction.
oh what the flip? dude if she was my kid, i would beat her lol then again, i wouldn't let that happen in the first place. being executives or not, you have to balance work, and personal life. if too much work, kid becomes a brat. if too much personal, you can't make money. my dad is an exec, i didn't turn out to be spoiled like the brat. i want to be an exec too, i will have to learn his ways. @ralph that news article was a good read. although i don't agree with the fact that parents dupe their kids to military training, i definitely agree with the discipline aspect. altho i do believe you don't need to go to military school to learn such discipline, because you can find a martial art school that can do the same.
dude... do you not have the key to your home? well said dann and ralph. My first thought when reading the original post was 'The parents dont trust him/her' There was a point in my life where my parents hounded me; I was getting bad grades and spent alll my time playing computer games. They literally watched me when they could. They called me every hour when I was out. I decided I wanted to prove to them that they could trust me. I got my act together. I listened to them when they told me to do something, I kept my grades up and studied, without their pressure. I called them before they called me. My parents haven't even met a majority of my friends before. I made it a point to come home at a decent hour. This worked really well. My parents trust me to make good judgements and they trust themselves that they brought me up well. Sure there are still rules, but they aren't as strict. I'm not gonna try to get anymore than I already have because its amazing that they are giving me as much freedom as I have. I accept the fact that I'm still a kid and I dont know everything. I have plenty of friends that are most likely more responsible than I and their parents are strict. They get fussy over the smallest things and I'm happy that my mother understands that children grow up cause parents have a hard time believing that they're getting old and their kids are growing up. This is especially true if you are the oldest, youngest or only child in the family. That girl is just spoiled. And it sounds like they have nice money. First, that usually means they dont live in a bad area, and hence she is probably not at a 'bad' school. Second, if they do decide to give her a car, its not her choice what car she gets. She should just be lucky to even have a car, esp if they're willing to put her out on the road when she barely passed her test. As for the clothes, stop buying her clothes or letting her buy clothes. I personally never asked for a car or a cellphone or a set of house keys or a credit card. These were all given to me by my parents. I was surprised to recieve a cellphone even though I never bitched about not having one. This was probably cause they got tired of lending me theirs though. I didn't ask for a car, but my parents provided me with one to utilize. They actually offered to buy me a new one, but I declined. They gave me the house key cause they knew that being able to drive would mean I'm out more and that I'll need my own means of getting in and out of the house. Most of all, I never expected to recieve a credit card before I went to university, which is when my brothers got theirs. If I were the parents, what I would do: - Buy her an old used car. - take away any allowance or flow of money - if she needs gas money or something, she can ask me. Of course, I don't know your cousin personally, so maybe she wouldn't deserve that, but well whatever.
airree what you play then? And yea, its annoying when ur parents are calling you up and ask where you are and why ur not home yet, and yes... my parents also tried to lock me out.. but in the end, they are doing it cause they care about you, you might know this when your a bit older and can think on your own
wellll... I played free mmorpgs can your parents lock you out even if you have the key?? Cause I have the key to my house.. they can't lock me out then right?
ooof thats funky. : ( waitttt is it one of those chain thingys where you can only open it a little bit?
