Hi, I'm at a point in my life where I'm trying to (re)build my social circle but I'm having trouble cementing friendships. This is pretty much only with guys because with guys it's like "what do we do??".. with girls there's always something you can do -sorc like i meet people all the time at school, at work, at bars, etc. but I have trouble being like hey you want to hang out? (like back in middle school lol) I don't even know how to phrase the question anymore, it's like hey let's meet up to do what? lol... I don't really play sports anymore, if I invite them out to the bar or to a party I kind of don't really know them that well.. plus I'm at bars and parties to meet new people so I'm not even going to really interact with them. I don't really have a group of friends where I do stuff all the time with.. so a lot of times I'm struggling to fill my social schedule anybody have ideas?
Join some community...or a club or maybe join church everyone invites everyone over for dinners n stuff... mainly when i go out with guys or girls we always do the same thing like have dinner, have desert, c movies, come over to my place to hang out or go out shopping i have guy n girl friends.... most of them i met through skool, some via other friends n some via work.....
try and find friends with common social interests? but to be honest, with my closest friends we just do random stuff. maybe you have to have that first awkward moment of meeting them up and not knowing what to do, before you really hit it off with anyone
it depends on how the people you want to approach view on you. For example, if you are a bubble person than it is likely they will ask YOU instead to come out with them. So the best option from my point of view is to basically be nice and funny. Easy than do? well that is up to you lols. From experience, most of the time, people make friends with me, the main response is that i make people around me happy and laugh. Now about the group of friends, invite 2-3 people to come out with you regularly and than build on, believe me it works.
the best way to "make" friend is if u join a club or sth, cuz u all have more or less the same interests.... x)
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once you get older it does get harder to find good friends... unless you become friends with the people you work with...
well i kind of agree with akki and disagree with him cos i think that depends on where u live and the people themselves, for me i think u can make gd friends at university but u also have gd friends from high school too.
well from what i gather church is also a gd way to make friends, they are always welcoming to new people and it would be a gd place to start to find friends if u didn't have any, though clubs and societies is where most of my friends are from at university rather than my course.
Volunteer work? You can meet good people there. Clubs are a good choice too. I usually take on a sports with people that have the same interest as me =)
It's true though. As you age, it's harder and harder to meet and have friends that you can really blend well together. Just take it easy and let fate take it's way with things like these.
i'm a girl and i find is easier to be friends with guys...I mean the guys won't bother you talk to them but the girls could be angry
Making friends is more difficult as you age but that isn't the only factor. For those like myself who have moved from place to place for work; making friends is even harder. I don't stay around long enough to really get to know them. Now that I finally (let's hope so) settled, I have reconnected with friends but I am so loaded with family and work that I don't even find time to catch up in the day. When I do, I don't know what to talk about cuz they're not marry. Those I can probably still hang out with don't even live near me. I agree with some suggestions mentioned by others earlier - join an interest group, church, or whatever. However, this hasn't worked for me. I feel used when I joined these type of stuffs. I usually just meet people from work and party. I don''t hit the bar or club or whatever anymore.
it is difficult. Yeah, I'm basically in the same situation. I used to be super sociable, but now with all my friends spread out around the country... I am down to only a few friends that still live in the same city as me. I've been trying to broaden my circle, but for the most part, the chinese people in my community are stupid. Those are the cbc's that want to be white. They suck. I've basically found some of my old high school friends, and I'm hanging out with them. Of the new friends that I have, I don't really hang out with them at all...
