Them as "relatives" like mine .. I really dislike my aunt. She always uses members of family especially my mom. I can't stand her. But I can't do anything because she's my mom's sister. I can't stop my mom from doing whatever cuz that's her family. Whenever I get into an argument, my mom will always pull this guilt trip on me so that I forgive and forget about it. This aunt of mine never apologize even though she's at fault. Of my 20+ years, my mom has been the one flipping the bills whenever we dine out. My mom doesn't work and her only allowance come from me every month whilst my aunt works and earns six digit income. Cheap skate .. pissed me off. My grandmom (mother's mother) is still alive so no one dare to speak up cuz no one want to my grandmother to be sad ... she's 98. But yeah, I can't stand relative like that .. better not to have any at all....a leecher...
Lol.... i totally know what u mean... my mum is a softie and i totally hate it... im not the only one EVERYONE in my family hates that... A few weeks ago my mum went to HK to take care of my grandmother who is sick n theres this uncle in HK.(HER YOUNGER BROTHER) she was staying with... he always yells n verbally abuses her... one example: he'd just ask her to mop the floor n my mum would do it....dude... hes got 2 daughters n a wife... why dont they do it? n if that isnt bad enough he verbally abuses her because he doesnt like the smell of the cleaning product she uses.... n if u think it cant get any worse... MY MUM DOESNT SAY ANYTHING BACK she pretends she doesnt care but who wouldnt.... So n then she calls me n whinges.............................n i say well say something back or just dont do what he commands.... n she'd say she doesnt wanna fight n that he's just "like that wth......i was sooo tempted to call him n tell him to stfu to my mum....but my mum asked me not to to keep "peace" anyway i told her to move out of his place or tell him to stop... eventually she moved to my other uncle Arghhhh.....hate it
i'm sure everyone has one of those family memebers... but luckily mine's not blood related to me... it's my mum's brother's wife... soooooo lucky i don't have her blood in me... *shivers* anyway... it seems like ur mum sees family more important than money or anything else... ur mum isn't just a softy that can't stand up for herself... she's just a very giving and forgiving person... like my dad... he's willing to give all the $$ in his bank to whoever needs it in the family whether on my mum's side or his side...
Sorry .. given and forgiven is one thing but to me her action is stupidity. I wouldn't let anyone walk all over nor use me. If I found out, I make sure that person pay me back double. Knowing laws is good cuz you can really drive these people to the ground with your pen or laptop.
yup .. and you know what .. she's probably like my mom .. easy to everyone else in her family and then causing a stir at home cuz we all be fucking mad at what happened and argument break out and the next thing we don't talk to each other .. over someone like that .. sigh.
lol isn't that exactly what's happening now? u may not be directly used, but ur hard earned money is paying for ur aunt's lunch... newayz i think u should man up here... as much as ur family says that u shouldn't argue for the sake of ur granny... a nuke might just go off once she, knock on wood, does pass away... then ur family would probably be worse off... and u gotta remember, who takes ur granny's place as head of the family once she is gone... if it's ur aunt, ur mom's not exactly gonna have a say in matters unless u step up for her... u'd be surprised how much power in the family u really have as your mother's son... either come to terms with it, or do something bout it... ranting here and fronting a "u hit me i'll hit u back harder" attitude is kinda sad...
I kind of understand the helping your younger brothers/sisters with stuff, since people gets used to it from there childhood, but there have to be a limit
There's no power struggle here .. my mother is the eldest child in her family so everything is like "reserved" for the younger ones .. that's her mentality. We don't even live together. I don't talk to my aunt anymore; but my mother usually sneak behind me and call her to check on my grandmother and stuffs. I don't want to push too hard on my mom cuz after all that's her sister and half of her family. I personally don't want stir up the fire and make my granny sad cuz she has done a lot for our family when I was younger. Anyway, the point, I completely and purposely left my aunt out in all family events. I simply don't associate with these type of leech.
like it or not, she is still your relatives. Blood is thicker than water... so she may be spoiled when she is young, hence explain her current behaviour. There's not really a whole lot you can do about it...
My mom isn't like that, but I wouldn't say she's too good herself. My mom has a bad relationship with my aunt (her twin) because my aunt always has the whole family go out for dinner. My aunt always picks fancy restaurants so at the end, the bill is quite a sum. Therefore, everyone has to chip in a lot of money. That's why my mom is always not happy with my aunt...
Welcome to America! Things are treated differently in here so either bare with it or join the club. Next time, you can force them to pay the bill.
