I just read this on a gossip page whilst waiting at the dentist cuz there was no other things to read to kill time. Anyway, it's funny (at least to me) but I am curious how would ya'll react to this. A couple has been married for over 3 years and then the wife/husband found out that their other half "WAS" gay/lesbian through friends. Do you kick him/her out of the house and start the divorce process? Length of marriage is not a factor; but honesty and knowing the facts especially your wife/husband; not from other sources. Accepting is another thing but at least things like this is discussed and in the open.
i wouldnt go as far as kicking out my husband straight away but id talk about it....a lot.... it would disgust me to find out my husband was gay n worse, not even lettting me know but maybe their bi-sexual n they were too embarrassed to tell....? in any case a lotta talking would be in order...
lol, hey that was the past... since you love your wife/husband, does it really matter what his/her past was? we all got secrets...
Lots of people are bi-sexual... Any well, if that person decided to marry him/her than I think he/she intented to live that way
i understand the fact that all guys wanna have a threesome... but what i cannot imagine is doing this kinda shit with ur long term partner/wife.... i dont know... why'd u wanna have sex with ur wife n another woman if u really love her.... i just cant understand....must be a guy thing?
i'm confused why would a person stay in a marriage and continue to have sex if they are gay, well i guess being with your bestfriend is comforting and coming out of the closet is a scary thing But i was be very mad to hear it from a 3rd source and not having my spouse talk to me about it I wouldn't kick them out of the house. I would help they reajust to a new life and eventually get the marriage anulled (sp?)
sarcasm aside... given the choices under the circumstance of whether u kick her out and start the divorce process, or live with the fact that she's bi... if i wanted the marriage to continue would that mean i'd have to force her to not be bi? or should i be able to take advantage of the fact that she is bi, which in doing so would let her fulfill her fantasies and my own? of course this sounds like more of a bonus for me... hell it is... but it doesn't mean i don't love my wife, or i love my wife any less...(for those that don't know me... i'm not married... :sp_ike_d lets face it, if marriage is the only way anyone can officially claim they love someone, and that's why u got married... ur "marriage" is gonna fail... marriage is a piece of paper, the ceremony is a self indulgent fantasy that women force men into doing, marriage is a business tool... love exists for those that believe in love, not a ring, not white dresses, not a house, 2 kids and a dog... if my wife was bi, and i loved her, but yet i have to force her from being bi or get divorced, that's bullshit...
If my partner is les or bi, talk it out with her. haha white dress somehow reminds me of funeral more than weddings LOL
it says was gay/lesbian, lol. anyway, i would be pretty surprised la. but since it's in the past, it doesn't matter anymore in the present, right?
Again, it all depends on how much they love each other. To me, loving one another is to accept all his/her characteristics, strengths and weaknesses, and no matter how he/she will be whether they are lesbian or gay, it will not change your feeling toward him/her because "LOVE" dominates everything.
^ wow ... LOVE dominates everything ... lol I don't know how "really" to react to this type of situation since I have never been through it myself and I am married. From a married guy's stand point, I think the issue here isn't about what s/he did in the past but the fact that it was never discussed between the couple. Especially with such intimacy details that you heard it through friends kinda set things on fire. "IF" I knew that my wife is a lesbian before our wedding, then at least I know and accept who she was and is now or I can move on. Love is the foundation of a marriage but that will not mean everything will be fine cuz of LOVE.. there has to be trust, honesty, and commitment. I will feel deceived if I heard that my wife is a lesbian before through her friends or whatever. Anyway, the point is that LOVE doesn't solve anything. It's naive and silly to think so.
hmmmm... depends on whether we have kids... and how old we r... if i was like 50 or 60 when i find out well guess i'm only looking for companion in this relationship anyway... as long as we get along and he's willing to play a hubby role then we'll keep on living together... if we're a young couple then maybe it's better to go seperate ways... pft... but it's not like i'll get married -lol
meh....im open minded i guess..... so if i found out they WAS gay (i mean come on, they married you and stuff...and surely you must of done all necessities a happy married couple does), the point is they married you and love you, and their past, yeah can talk about it and be like "hey how come you didn't tell me you used to swing that way before?" though you would most likely get an answer like "i didnt think it was necessary..." Seriously...unless you ask, I don't think this kind of information needs to be said... It would seem like an issue if you WERE to randomly bring it up "hey in the past i was actually gay"...wouldnt that make you think "uh...what? are you trying to tell me something? You dont love me no more do you! You are having a ffair with your best friend arent you!?!" or something ridiculous like that haha x
^ id still prefer my partner telling me tho...even tho i agree that u dont have to tell ur partner every little detail i do feel its good to know that he was gay... if u find out from someone else it would look and feel a bit awkward no?
how does this whole thing works? he/she was gay/lesbian and now he/she is straight? i thought once you turn gay, you can't go back. hehe
kicking out doesnt solve anything only to satisfy yourself, but i rather talk to them about it and actually try and understand more about that person. at the end of the day, if they feel uncomfortable talking about it, theres no need to force the issue on them.
i wont mind if my wife is bisexual hahahaha but if she still loves me its ok, she can call her girlfriend too
