About a year ago, the story started….We met each other at her work which was 2 hrs from the city that I live in. She works at like a gift shop, she was the nicest and sweetest girl I’ve laid my eyes upon, eventually I started talking to her, after visiting her two more times I asked for her number. From that point on it was crazy, we constantly talked each night on the phone, online, or text msg. She even introduced me to her friend and had talked to most of them online as well. We both really got to know each other a lot and it was the happiest time. Eventually we started to see each other, hanging out after she got off work. It was fun but one time something happen and we got intimate with each other. Afterward we still saw each other but eventually she didn’t want to because her bf didn’t like her staying out late and also for her to be talking with other guys. Soo therefore I didn’t see her anymore or talked to her for like two or three months. All sudden one day she called me seeing how I was doing and what I’ve been up to. Then it clicked again.. next thing you know, we both talked for like awhile laughing up a storm together. She eventually said good night and hung up, but txt msg me back saying it was nice talking to me again and she enjoy it a lot. From then on she would call me once every week or sometime once every two weeks, we would talk and make jokes at each other. I would also see her online sometime then we would chat together; sometime I would help her with her homework or brainstorm together for her essay. I knew sometime the reason she called me was the fact she isn’t happy or she just got into a fight w/ her bf. So therefore I never asked why she was sad or what happen, but instead I would tell her my funny stories and try to make her laugh instead. I really do like her a lot but both of us lived like 2 hrs apart so I probably couldn’t be there for her physically and beside she had a bf….if I can’t be with her, I just rather try to be there to make her happy and help her whenever she needed. Sometime I think for me to be waiting for this girl. Is it worth it? Am I wasting my time? Should I start dating or get a gf close by instead, but the problem was I didn’t find a girl like her…someone that’s able to make me laugh and have that special feeling. Even some of the prettiest one was good to look at but talking to them. Their personality didn’t click, somehow there wasn’t anyone that compare to her. ….. But to cut the story short, recently she text msg me to see how I was doing, then I learn that she just broke up with her bf a week ago. We made fun about it and she was laughing. I told her she would be fine and congratz on her being single again. She sounded happy and was excited about the single life…… Sooo you think it’s too soon to be asking her out? Or you think its ok for me to ask her to hang out again or for us to see each other instead? Craziest thing is I’m sorta nervous and scared, What if she say no .. ….. She currently still in school and she work part time at this new place (female underwear clothing store) on Fri,Sat,Sun. from like 10-9… any idea what I should do…? Thank you for reading my story, hope everyone have a great day .
I wouldnt wait for her... cuz i think shes using u as a backup....from the stuff u just said thats the feeling i get.... n she cheated cuz u guys got "intimate" when she was still with her ex bf... no matter what the excuse for that was....she might do the same thing to she called u when she had fights with her bf n stuff.....if she liked u she wouldve let u know already since shes single now.... i think shes using u
i would be i rage if i were the bf lol. she could also cheat on you one day! but than again, at your own risk anyways, yes it is too soon. You don't want to be the re-bound do you?
--I'm currently 25 and she is 22... -- yes she did say she liked me before, she thought i was cute and sweet that's why she gave me her number. I knw she might cheat on me too if we did hook up.. but her ex bf was an asshole and didn't treat her well so he somewhat sorta saw it coming. & he also cheated on her before awhile back but she forgave him. But that was before me n her met. -- I can't go on like this, not giving a try b/c i'm scared she'll cheat on me...i'll regret it, i feel that if i treat her well and be there for her and she still cheats on me...then seriously it's her lost. right? We shouldn't judge someone just from their past sometime people do learn and change for the better....just give them a try. lol.. right?? -innocent2
You know, whether she cheats on you or not is inconsequential. If you're going to enter a relationship like it's a business deal, with safety guarantees and performance clauses; then it's not a relationship. Those things are called contracts. You have to ask yourself, are you doing this because you love her? Simple yes or no will do. Being in love and committing to it means you're willing to take the risk that the other person will burn you, and you don't care. But if lawyering up is your first impulse, then forget it; you don't love her. Either way, only you know for sure how you really feel. Good luck with whatever you decide.
she's available... ur single... n u guys have feelings for each other... so y not go for it if u like her so much?? wot have u got to lose??
you're 25! be a man and dont be scared! just because she made a mistake before doesnt mean she'll do it again. I made a mistake before in a previous relationship and it never happened again. things happen! nobody's perfect! if you are scared to invest your time and emotions into her just to have her cheat on you then to be honest you are the one that doesnt deserve her. you should never feel that way about entering into a relationship. a relationship is suppose to be based on trust, respect and love. take one out and you dont have a relationship. perhaps you should really think about this. you say you love her and that no one else compares but at the same time you think that the 2 hours you live apart is going to cause problems cause you cant be there physically for her. dude is 2 hours not 12!!!!! and have you even tried to keep your options about other girls? you cant put someone on a pedestal. it's not fair to anyone! is this girl just the girl that you couldnt get and that's why she's so important?
"but her ex bf was an asshole and didn't treat her well" says her u know? there are always 2 sides to the story....and you only heard hers... nothing against her....but i still say go for it...life is full risk and chances...take them... 25 and 22 is perfect amount of years apart i'd say... imo, it seems that you already have made up your mind and your here only to reassure yourself....hoping to see some comments of encouragement....which has been given above...
dude...from ur second post it sounds as tho u dont trust her already... how can u have a relationship with someone u dont trust obviously its not just abt hookin up with her or sex cuz u like her a lot.... so yeah.... its ur call.... take a risk with her or just walk away....
Ill refrain from making any judgments about her personality since I do not know her. I won't accept your claim that her ex was an asshole since you're biased but the real circumstances are also unclear. Regardless, of what happened in that situation I think the real question is very simple. Do you want to be with her? Don't think... pretend you have 10 seconds to answer this question. There will always be situations that you think and have to worry about, that's life. I was always a very cautious type, and was scared to go into a relationship. I still think that my suddenly asking my current gf out was very impulsive based on my personality. But it honestly was the best decision Ive made in my life. Hope that helps you. Goodluck
fromt he information u have given states that your r in the friend zone. u might be her best guy friend but not boyfriend material. call her up to hang out but dont look into more then a friend. at least not anytime soon. u can get out of this friend zone but it might not happen. if u ask her out so to speak now u will juss be the rebound guy. hope this helps
