-lol i agree... it's just a kiss... i'm not encouraging cheating... but unlike most ppl i don't expect 100% loyalty... a marriage is spending the rest of ur life with this one person u pick... n it's really hard for someone not to make any mistakes during that time... it's up to u whether u wanna keep it up with this girl at work... but it sounds a lil risky coz i dunno if any of ur colleagues speaks to ur wife... just b careful not to hurt her...
no offence if you dont feel guilty it might be: (in my opinion) 1) you are getting not getting satisfied through sex life or getting any excitement from your wife even though you love her very much 2) coz the girl that you kissed seems very irresistable to you and she might seem like an ideal girl in your mind 3) you might be one of the very old China people who wants to have several wives 4) you sub-conscience wants you to "bow 2 lie" (have an affair....) =/
I would be very careful if I were you and not go too far into the relationship: 1. She works at the same job you do 2. Since she just graduated from school I'm assuming that she's young and she may get emotionally attached. The reason that you may not feel guilty is because since the girl is in the same profession as you are you may feel more of an emotional bond with her. But then again it was just a kiss but I have seen it far too many times when the husband after being married for 15-20 years has an affair and divorces the wife for a younger colleague.
you dont expect 100% loyalty but would/do you give 100% loyalty????-detect naa i wasn't talking about law, i was talking about marriage
How long have you been married first of all? No one has taken that fact into consideration before leaving their comment.. If you've been married with her for a long time.. that one kiss could be just a spur of the moment something spontaneous exciting kinda thing. You still obviously love your wife... and you think about the event but not the girl I assume? Therefore you don't feel guilty cause it was just a spontaneous thing and that you have no real feelings for the girl.. But.. if that's not the case.. then listen to the rest of the people comments.. lol
^cheating is cheating... so what if it was just a one time thing... so what if they've been married for a long time....a "better reason" for cheating doesnt exist.... so what if the wife didnt provide him enough excitement it doesnt mean its ok to kiss someone else if ur married n ur wife cheated would u b like "oh yeah, we've been married for 10 years, I guess its more okay" cheating is cheating it always hurts to be cheated on....
thanks for all your comments .. i still dunno now. we have been married for almost 2 years and nothing has happen between us - argument, fighting, or whatever. it may be stress like some of you've mentioned or spur of the moment or subconscious reassurance .. i supposed i'll find out eventually. i can't deny i have always attracted to white gals .. especially with soft lips and blue eyes. in fact, i mostly dated white gals in my past but never been in any long term relationship though. all of my lr have been azn gals. as far as the office goes, i am not too concerned. we're in different department and on different floor despite the same building. my wife doesn't know anyone except the friend who got me the job but he wasn't there. anyhow, i am planning to tell my wife later tonight. i see no reason to hide .. if i can't even be honest to my family, i just think it's sad. the fact that i didn't feel guilty about it kinda make feel that it's not a big deal and after all, it was just a kiss.
^its a good thing ur gonna be honest n tell her.... well...i wish u good luck la... she might not care like some other ppl say since it didnt mean anything.... oh well....maybe im just a cry baby... i dun wanna scare u but id be pretty messed up even if it meant nothing... so be prepared for anything.... hey, just outta curiosity, what would u think if she did the exact same thing to u? how would u respond?
"fam sum lo" haha true that they will fight over you everyday and u will feel like they are annoying and you would feel.. i can't be arsed with them anymore lol + negiqboys... good on u that u will tell ur wifey ... otherwise.. i think honesty is the essential thing in a relationship...
maybe you dont feel guilty since you know you still love ur wife, and it was " only a kiss". but on the other hand, you still cheated on her, but guess you can't do much about how you feel.. edit: ow forgot to read the 2nd page :$
depends on how u define cheating... but i can't promise i'll never make a mistake for the rest of my life... i love andy with all my heart but i still like Daniel Wu anyway the standards for women n men r different... not many guys r willing to put up with wearing "green hat"
Only a kiss? Hmmm... Suppose your wife suddenly told you that there's a new guy at the market and while he was helping her load some groceries into the car, she couldn't help herself; she suddenly grabbed him and did the ole tongue dance ass grope thingy for about five minutes? Would you assign her any guilt? My guess is, that you certainly would. I think deep down inside, you sense that what you did was a form of betrayal of her trust in you, and no matter how you want to dance around it (and your words to the contrary) you really do feel guilt. That's why you're questioning your actions in the relatively safety of the forum here. If you did something that would cause no guilt at all (like: took a shit, picked your nose, ate breakfast, farted, etc) would you write about it here? Of course not. Hence, by writing to begin with, IMHO you're conflicted about this, and internal emotional conflict is almost ALWAYS an indication of.... (drum roll please) Guilty Feelings. In other words, YOU realized you've been a bad boy. -shock My suggestion? Take it as a lesson learned. You have physical urges and you're handicapped (like most men) by a moral fiber that is only so-so when presented with a hot babe two inches from your face. Stay away from the girl for the sake of your marriage, OR... tell your wife you need a divorce (that carrying on in secret shit never works because they generally always find out). Oh, and post a pic of the babe so that we can all see what the hell you're willing to risk your marriage for a piece of... :laugh: (just kidding, couldn't help myself) And Good Luck with whatever you do...
"Fearless", you overcomplicated youself. When I talk about "sexual drive", I mean that the sexual fantasies, excitement, affection that you have toward the other mate and it is totally different from "penis". In fact, they are two totally different thing. I say that when a guy kisses another girl even when he has a wife, it is OK because maybe that girl has some feelings or affections that caught his attention and that might come from his "sexual drive". In this sense, sexual drive means that what drives a person to do what he does, like kissing another girl. In negiqboyz's example, what makes him to kiss the girl even when he has a wife is the affection or feeling that he has for the other girl, which in turn, "drives" him to kiss her. It just an internal "feeling" that guys/or girls will have if they are in a similar situation. It can be both, psychological and physiological, that causes these feelings. But anyway, thanks for your criticism. Especially, in terms of feelings, it is hard to express in words how I think someone will feel or act in certain situations. Maybe things that I say are a little bit deep that you misunderstand. I will try to be more explicit next time...
