^ LOL a one time thing means he's not going back to the other girl and leaving your ass scared, lonely, possibly raising kids all by yourself. not a 'better reason' as it wasn't even intentional... did he plan this evening from the get go and said.. I'mma kiss me a girl tonite? a lot of women are willing to go find excitement elsewhere if their husbands can't provide that for them.. hence theres a show called "Desperate Housewives" you think the producers just pulled that idea outta their ass?? Plus the 'wives' in that show is doing wayyy more than just kissing another dude. which brings me to my next point.. some women have different beliefs on what constitutes as cheating.. and they're willing to just let certain types of things go and be understanding of the mistake that their husband made. For you.. if your husband went to a strip club with some friends might be considered cheating.. lol but i mean hey.. that's just your level toleration... Maybe you can try putting him on a leash so he doesn't make any mistakes. and one final question.. are you willing to divorce your husband over him kissing a girl? and negiqboyz, you guys have been married for 2 years.. but how long have you guys dated before getting married?
i didnt say that id leave him straight away, (i probably would tho) but to answer ur question i have to be in the same situation first ecko... but if i dont have kids like negiq's wife, yes i probably would be leaning towards breaking up/getting divorced n if i wouldnt it would have HUGE impact on the relationship for me relationships are based on trust & honesty, when i commit to someone i am always positive n optimistic, i trust and assume that a guy wouldnt do that kinda stuff... meaning, if a guy tells me he wont cheat on me i will take his word for it....once the trust is broken im gonna go paranoid which would make it hard for us to have a good relationship i am perfectly aware of the fact that stuff that happen in the tv shows are based on stuff that happen in real life (blown outta proportion) but i guess im still optimistic.... yes, please call me old fashioned cuz i do believe in monogamy.... something that seems to be hard to find in a lotta ppl these days i know relationships go bad n get boring n sometimes guys need more excitement but if u are honest towards eachother u can talk abt it n try to find a solution? anyways, what i meant when i said "cheating is cheating" is that whatever the intentions/reasons are it always hurts to be betrayed.... even tho it was just a one time physical thing... in my eyes id see it as the guy messed with my trust n put everything on the line for a "kiss that didnt even meant anything" thank god it never happened to me yet *knock on wood* but i am pretty sure it would sting ive had girlfriends who got cheated on n its not something id want to have to go through.... if my husband would go to a stripclub for a bachelor party or a one time "boys night out" kinda thing n just watch n have drinks, i wouldnt care.... havin a lapdance/making out with a stripper is another story.... if cheating is okay, then why do ppl have relations n commitments? is it just a safety net so u wont end up alone? if cheating is okay for my "future bf" i dont see why i have to be in a relationship with him then i might as well call him my fling...? oh well, maybe im old fashioned...dunno *shrugs*
Dear neighboyz, Been chatting with you previously from some other thread. Seems like you have plenty of angst in you. Not a judgment at all. Perhaps its the urban grind, seems like you are an idealist who is trying your best to sell out to the idea of fast cars, money, girls and hell, a really good time. Who can blame you ? You probably climbing your way up the corp ladder, full of ambition perhaps. Everyone around you seems a little "mad". Thats your secret thought. Something unspoken. Yet you are always trying to get to grips with your spiritual good side. You ponder and examine your values from time to time, yet you couldn't figure it out as the jig saw you are trying to put together just seems to get larger as you grow older as more "success" comes your way. Temptation.. ah thats the word. You read the magazines, you look at the people and friends around you, everyone seems to preach to you fast and with quick witty punchlines, yet you know how sordid it could be that their lives could be too. You know of liars, cheaters, hypocrites who have progress far in all measures of "success", yet sometimes on some day, you catch yourself awake at night wondering what the "f***" does it all means. Good news. If you think you are alone, you are darn wrong. Countless good souls out there who are just trying to make a living are subjected to all this. Yet, this post smells vaguely like a horoscope reading. lol. You could laugh a little, and I want to assure you that there are some who can understand what you are going thru. Hope that helps. But above all, I urge you to tune into your spiritual side. Read and expose yourself more to more happy shinny people. And by that, I do not mean you should go register yourself in some seminars who would teach you to be happy in 21 steps. Happiness cannot be purchase from fast meal outlet. It takes time. And hell alot of time to see reflect and go deep into your spiritual core to find that balance. Perhaps, a Chinese proverb comes in handy now. "You can be in the apex of all kinds of disturbance, yet you remain still and wise." How does one reach that state of being ? That quite frankly, is what I consider the most important pursuit in life. One thing though, I think by trying to get yourself into a worthy cause, like your local charity or the SPCA can be a start. I am sure this might bring on a little cynical response from some or maybe from you yourself even. But light comes when you begin to expose yourself to the dire needs of others. Those who fall by the wayside who just needs a listening ear and a helping hand. Its not about "Feeling" good that you have helped someone. Its all about tuning in less to yourself, to the media, to the TV, to crap cheap fluff. I hope this post finds you well. Cheers
^^ broke him down and took him apart like 'hand shredded chicken' mobidoo modern day tripitaka on voyage to the west to spread the spiritual learnings of buddah.. "amitofu"
^hai mer? i think maybe im just more mature compared to u, i dont like playing with other ppl's feelings u can do whatever u want when ur single but when ur committed u should try n play by the rules
lol you did a good job.. he'll probably break down in tears after reading your comment n take a good look at his life.. -worship
Geee... just trying to offer a little comfort. And I have a theory about people who loves Chinese drama in general. Alot of us are idealist. Just my thoughts ! lol
I rather tell you what I am. I am the shredded chicken now lol. Alright I know you won't be contented with that reply.. so umm. Just put it this way. The world will never ran out of Love story, songs and movies. We all hanker for the ideal relationship, the perfect paradise where butterflies dance on endless fields of morning glory. Which actually just goes to prove that there are more idealist out there then we think there is. Reality is abit tuft to handle though. I guess we have to learn to make do. What we get most of the time are bruises, heartaches and sometimes brick loads of disappointment. I recently acquire a new skill though. That means I am mindful of where happy people are. What keeps and makes me happy and peaceful, I am determined to spend quality time with them and in them. What shakes that peace, I will try to understand and reflect. My conclusion. The root of all evil are TV reality shows, the news and bad food. lol. Stay off MSG. Its a happiness killer. I assure you that ! Simple joy would be a good cup of coffee, some good friends for a little gathering and keeping in contact with happy people who have found a way to balance things. As for angie, I like to see more of her kimono
lol well you'll be disappointed to know thats not her wearing that kimono.. so how do you feel about what neighboyz did? say what? lol
I thought it over and had a change of mind. It wasn't a big deal for the kissing so I am not gonna tell her. It doesn't mean a thing and telling my wife will only complicate things. If my heart was thumping and I was physically and sexually attracted to my female colleague; perhaps I would and should be concerned .. I guess my guiltless nature comes from the fact that it was really nothing. @ Ralph .. you're right on .. I was in between the guilt line but deep down inside, I really didn't feel like I have betrayed my wife in any way. That's why I said, I don't feel guilty. @Misscheek .. I personally don't consider this a cheating. Like Ecko or Fearless said, I didn't plan this night out to get to my female colleague, it was all down to the spur of the moment thing. I feel that if anything, it only proves that I love my wife more than I realize deep down. A fine female like my colleagues kissed me, I could've easily gone further but I didn't do so. Frankly, I didn't feel it .. physically .. a little .. emotional .. NO. To answer those who asked, we dated for about a year before marriage.
What Ralph did and about Cheek's kimono are link in a way. lol. We want what we can't have and when we have it, its still not good enough
Ah gee. Everyone is beautiful. I know this sound abit spacey, but hell, clothes are like avatar. A little fiction is a good thing Go to Japan for a blast and a good time.. I am sure you can get some kimono online
you want what you can't so that just too damn bad.. something something.. i can be your superman.. lol alright link it.. so what Angie can't have is a kimono, but she gets it, it's not good enough because she doesn't have the body to wear it? what Ralph couldn't have was enticing kiss from another female, and when he got it it wasnt as good?
