my mom always thinks shes right..i try to explain to her about something such as the way she acts towards me sometimes which is unneccessary and it kinda gets annoying..and she ends up goin on a rant like "oo everythings my fault" etc and it has nothing to do with the topic i was discussing...and if i say somethin its always me "talking back" -_-"
I understand how you are feeling, some parents are like that, for me it's my mom too. She really doesn't listen to what we have to say and thinks she's right most of the time (from silly things to serious issues). If you argue with her, sometimes she'll start raising her voice like whoever yelsl the loudest wins. I just try to walk away till she calms down. I think you already know this, we aren't the only people who goes through issues with our moms or dads or both. We just have to deal with it and if you can, talk with them when they are more calm. Sometimes they know they have issues but it's hard for them to admit it.
ugh my parents do that all the time too.. they always go "heya.. gno chooh sai, lay ahm sai" Yeah im all wrong, your all write and they always go "lee goh sui jai sang yut do book juy geh" this stupid son always talks back ....yeh...chinese parents yo..
Yeah, don't talk to them if its not necessary. Doing so just gives them another opportunity to nag you.
personally I already spend little time with my family, what with work, school, staying in my room studying... so there's really little opportunity to argue, unless its a family outing together or something (then there's always an argument one way or another). anyway, my opinions would be: 1. talk less to them, only if necessary (as above) 2. or if you want to "talk back", reason with them logically. if all else fails, just close your mouth and leave, before it gets even uglier.
yeehh, when i start arguing with my mum, i try to learn to step back really and just... lay low lol! .. just say "ok mum" "yes mum" "sorry mum" ... and she will stop moaning.. eventually.. hopefully.
Agree with your mother at all times, you can do something else afterwards but for f*** sake agree with her .. that will make her shut up. Thats all there is to a friendly relationship between mother and child XD
I agree with Xib. It's like rule #1 for men ... women are ALWAYS right ! ... that's also the case with your parents, so always agree at 1st and don't talk back (something called showing respect) ... ... AND then once they are off their high horse, try to reason with them in a NICE way. It's give and take (aka tactics). Fighting fire with fire isn't usually the most effective method.
You don't beat them, you let them think they win and manipulate them with cunning arguments coated with praise and respect -devil. How do I know? My GF uses this tactic on me and I keep falling for it ..
ya ive learned to stop talking and let her rant on so i dont make things worse. but it just gets frustrating sometimes >.<
man it takes me so much will power not to talk back to my mom. but sometimes she is just plain wrong and i can't let it go. and yeah she does that thing to try to guilt trip me like, saying she is all wrong and i'm right and she has a headache she doesn't want to talk anymore but then i ask her why she's always saying that and that she has no DO LEI. but blah. sometimes i just cry and she starts to apologize
lol u guys are weak sauce... 1) walking away is the dumbest thing to do... u just give them the biggest reason to go apeshit on you... 2) different parents have different scolding tactics, for example, not every parent wants their kids to look directly at them during the scolding, while some always want ur eyes on them... figure it out, and it'll be ez rather than just giving up and walking away like pussies... 3) there's no point in arguing... ask them straight out b4 they even go apeshit what the point of their argument is... i mean srsly there's no point in arguing what all ready happened 4) don't be a dumbass and totally ignore what ur parents just told u, there's a difference between trying to live a "free" life vs disobedience... it rly doesn't kill u to answer ur fone/give ur parents a call if ur gonna come home late... or telling ur parents where ur going... i found it a lot easier to have a life w/ my parents knowing than trying to sneak out every other night... srsly if u can't tell ur parents what ur doing, maybe it isn't the best idea... 5) finally, ranting bout ur parents is stupid... MOVE OUT... ffs... i've been saying this on the forum like forever... no one ever gets this... moving out, ur parents can't get on ur case... wanna live an adult life? move ur ass out like an adult... can't do it? then stfu and obey the owners of the house... same deal if u were at a friends house...
I agree. Especially the stfu and obey the owners part. lol Parents will always be parents. After you calm down and think about it in their perspective sometimes it might actually make sense (though of course, there are many times where they are just having a what the fuck moment. lol that happened with my dad a couple weeks ago. started yelling at me over nothing and then when I try to explain something to him in my normal voice he claimed I was talking back loudly. LOL I was just like whatever.)
basically ur parents care about u and if u can't take it u can move out, but lets be honest here, i the reason why ur parents may cause u anger is cos they care about u and they want to make sure that ur safe most of the time. sometimes they can be annoying but lets face it, they do so much for u that u should accept it.
The dumbest thing to do is continue to argue when both sides are heated, you walk away and talk things over when each side have calm down.
