It doesn't matter what she did in the past i dont care, all i want is to be with her. & if you ask me right now do i love her . I can definitly say "yes i do, " . but the sad reality is i just got my heart smash into pieces..i dont even know what is going on.. please someone tell me...i probably know but i just need another girl opinon. so we been talking couple nights before and she mention that her spring break is coming up. One night she txt me saying "U don't come up here anymore?." so later i txt her "saying i do go up there sometime would you wanna have lunch or dinner together it's been soo long"..she txt me back saying " Id would love to just give me a call or txt whenever you're up here". I was soo Happy my heart jump with joy and i felt like superman... So i txt her saying" how about monday , i'll be there by 2 are u going to be free because i have Mon,Tue, Wed off."... she txt me back saying " I alrdy made plans for monday" then i txt her saying "alrite that's cool, how about Tue"...she txt saying " i was going to take my drive exam,but i'll call you tomorrow, i'm soo sleepy now"...so i told her good night..So nxt day (Monday) she didn't call me like she said she would..soo i'm like fuck whatever..I drove up there anyway to hang out with my friends for St. Patrick Day. while i was there (Tuesday) i txt her saying " hey i'm here today and tomorrow just want to see if your able to hang out for alittle bit". she never called or txt me back until later that night she txt me saying " are you here right now, what r u doing?" soo i call her right away and she sounded sad..her voice was really soft saying she is at home and sleepy...so i told her already go get some sleep..good night... soo the nxt day (Wed) i txt her in the morning saying " good morning how are u feelign today? did u sleep well, are you free today for lunch or dinner before i have to go back home, let me now " ...the whole day i waited but she didn't txt me or call me back....sooo i couldn't wait anymore...i figure whatever i'll just call her now...i called but she didn't pick up, soo i finally think i'm such a retard..i just drove home........now she still hasn't called or txt me. I dont know what happen.? i'm starting to worried if she's ok.? now i don't feel like superman..i feel just superstupid. I dont know why?.. Is it true nice people finish last.. I probably shouldn't be nice anymore... I'm sooo confused. Please if anyone the read the stuff i wrote and understand it.. please let me know.
there could be the odd thing that her cell may have been lost or trashed or something, or it may also be possible that she is actually really tired? I'm hoping she didn't decide to get back with her ex. Give her some time (like a day or two?) and message her again. You never know what wacked out stuff could've happened.
your giving her too much attention...really... take a break...she has you where she wants you thats the problem with a lot of guys these days options...nobody wants something they can have so easy...
Update. : It's been a long long time, just wanted to update the situation. Well basically me and her just became really great friend and continue talking on the phone & txt. but about 4 weeks ago I finally meant her again. I stop by her work and totally surprised her. wow it's been a year since i last saw her and she totally freaked out. i still remember her face and expression. she was laughing and smiling. She mention that i look soo different now. i just giggled, it made me felt sooo happy. I asked her, if she was free to get dinner after work..but she wasn't able to because she already made plan with her roommate the day. Soo there i go waiting again, but it was ok..at least i got to see her again finally, but later that night she txt me seeing if i was still up there and wanted to see if i was free to have lunch with her the next day. Therefore the next day we both when to lunch together at the mall and it was soo funny. everything was so special, we both laugh and goofed around like little kids. Afterward We both went shopping together, she helped me pick out sunglasses and I help her shop for bra & underwear at Victoria Secrets. She was like wow..u're like my girlfriend...u know so much about girl stuff, it's soo fun shopping with you. i just giggled and smiled...she then bought us ice cream and we talked more. She told me she was leaving for LA tomorrow so she need to go home and pack. I took her home and she gave me a hug. she txt me alittle bit later after i drop her off saying " drive safe !!! I had alot of fun today thanks I laugh at you a lot kk, We can hang out again next time when i get back " That night she called me seeing if i got back safe and we continue talking...she phone battery was low and it eventually died and it felt so sad. I didnt talk to her for awhile until she txt me from LA saying "Hey do you need anything in LA". i txt her back saying " Yes, I do. I need you to come back here safe & happy w/ a big smile whenever i see you again. Help me get that . Thank You".. She only went for 4 days but when she came back...one night she txt me saying " Miss U " ...i was really happy knowing she did....but anyway to cut this story short... she is leaving for NY today for 3 weeks...before she left last night i was talking to her on the phone. Something Crazy happen...We were just talking and making fun of eachother..i was mentioning her to have fun and be safe. she asked me why did i care soo much about her, I told her you're very important to me, I dont want anything to happen to you. She giggled and she was like "Wow...i never had anyone that care so much about me like you..u make me really happy." I told her to be honest...I like you, not just a friend...i like you more then that..i hope you can be my gf? " ...she started laughing and was like oh my GOSH... " That's soo sweet"..I can't believe I finally told you..she was like it's ok..i had a feeling you like me already..i can't believe you still like me tho..because it's been like a year now...i thought you would have found someone else. I explain to her why i waiting and why no other girl could replace that feeling i have for her...she ask me " so do you want me to be your gf then"...I say "only if you want to..because i dont want you to become my gf just because u feel sorry for me and that i'm nice to you"...She explain to me she was scared..right now she doesn't want a bf because she worried we'll break up..and we won't be friend anymore, she like how stuff are between us. We're like Brother and Sister.... she can't imagine how bad it would be for her if we hated eachother, if we did break up. She explain how she just broke up with her ex like 3 months ago..she enjoy her single life now..she doesn't want a controling bf...I finally then open up to her and told her everything i felt..saying that i'm not a contorling type..i respect you and your space..u can still go out and enjoy ur life with ur friend...just because u're my gf doesn't mean u have to give up anything..I still want you to be happy. I just want you to be happy. Don't worry about us not being friend if one day we seriously break up...I can't promise you that we can be together forever...but what i can promise is that we both will remain great friend forever..whatever happen..i'll still care about u. She was like ...wow. I really need to think about it, i'm soo confused. i dont know what to do..?? So i told her i can't believe i finally told you how i felt..i waited this long to tell u.. I'll give you time to think..just enjoy NY and whenever you come back just let me know..I told her it's ok if you're scared..I'll ask you out again in 7 years..She was like "What??? 7 year is a long time.i'll be 30." ..eheheh yah..and i'll be 33..wow.anyway i need to cut this short...soo basically..that's the Story now... HOPEFULLY it would have a good ending and a start of a new relationship...or I'll just remain the same and i'll remain as her friend...and i'll try to ask her out again in 7 years. ... ...( If it's meant to be, It'll meant to be)............
damn sorry if this isnt what u want to hear but from the sounds of it.. her answers said it all. first she knew u liked her. secondly she keeps on mentioning u two being friends, good friends.. she is confused. seriously i dont think she likes u more than a friend but as a brother dude. hopefully her time in ny will make her realizes how good of a guy u r n might consider u. for now it doesnt sound too good.
ur really sweet n all that (too sweet imo)....but i think she just wants u to have fun with....she knows u guys have been close before so i think its kinda inappropriate to say i miss u n to take u to victoria's secret (i def wouldnt do that with a guy friend i was "intimate" with before but only wanna be friends with now)... kinda weird no? not saying that shes playin u but i think shes just not interested in having a romantic relationship with u.... maybe shes just using u to boost her ego or something....???
This isn't a good sign at all, you dont say these things to some potential *boyfriend*/*guy like like*, unless they are gay. So she basically already gave you a hint . What the hell, she already knew you like her more than a friend..... And she had 1 whole year to think about it. So why does she need more time to think about this??? If you like someone or have feeling for someone, any normal person would atleast imagined how it would be with that particalur guy/girl. So basically, you dont have to think about this....... Why shouldn't you need time to think about it?, about the possible risks.... If you need to consider the pros and cos about being with that particular girl/guy, it wouldnt be a relationship at all. (like some have mentioned earlier in this thread) worst scenerio I don't think she is going to give you a *clear* answer to you, so you will end up being confused. And still think you have a chance with her. So she doesnt give you a *die heart* answer (Maybe she doesn't want to end the friendship with you/ dont want to be akward with you) Best scenerio She says yes (most unlikely, in mine opinion) Or ofcourse she can reject you, and still be good friends. Atleast you have done you part, and it's now all up to her. Good luck (lol, omg, only female opinions... nvm then)
Honestly I knew I was deep in the friend zone with her. I understand after telling her this, it wouldn't be a good turn out for me. But I'm still glad i told her how i felt about her. I'll never regret doing that. I appreciated everyone that had put the time into reading my forum and the people that share their opinon on this. I sincerely Thank You Everyone. . . She probably going to reject becoming my gf, but I'm still Happy . GooD Bye. - Take care.
not saying its not good la, its ok, having a negative answer n trying to move on is better than wasting ur time n keep wondering i guess.... u seem like a nice guy, u will surely meet someone who will like u n deserves u... good luck
awww...you are sucha sweeet guy...and im kinda surprised theres still people like you... this is kinda like a movieeee...too good to be true.......and i dunno from whut you said.. she hasnt given you an answer YET..so you still have a chance....have some faith la.... and and and if she really does say no...hey at least you tried right....no regrets...... plus she dunno whut shes missing if she says no....im sure you'll find your gf soon..... if she does say yeshh..we're happy for you after all this wait.....congrats...^^... hope you tell us the ending....-flow
you seem to be a nice guy and i think you should wait and have no regrets. wait for her reply and if it's a no,then you definitely have to move on
Hey ! quick question...It's been a week and i haven't heard anything from her. I'm starting to worry if she is ok & if she made it to NY safe.. do you think i should call or txt her see how she doing and etc. or should i wait and let her contact me first....??? if i wait..maybe she think i dont care anymore about her..awww..what do you female think?? Without her in my life, it seem time goes slower then normal..... -sleep.... thinking about someone that isn't here suckssss... :wiggle:
^ umm..if youre reallly worried...txt her... times going slowww coz you keep thinking about herr...mebe ya should find something to do to take your mind off her for a while....go out and hang out with your friends for a bit or something.. good luck~~~!
this is crzy funny..i was thinking bout txting her..she txt me first..saying " hey how are you doing ahaha, i'll be back tmrrw " does that mean anything????
Hi everyone, I just wanted to give everyone a quick update on the Story. .. I started this tread calling it "The Story (Waiting Story)". for everyone who believe in faith and true love...don't ever give up. The situation might be hard, but at the end if you really want something and is honest about it.. miracle does happen. after losing all hope about this girl...i was realy confused and sad. I waiting so long for her, but when she came back from NY. There was nothing..she would say yah let go hang out together over the phone..but she never show up or she would say she can't because she been really busy with school.... Honestly at the point i thought fine it's time to move on. I met this really pretty korean girl at the mall, she work at this store i usually shop at, i sorta started talking to her and was able to get her number and was planing to go out on a date. seriously life is really weird sometime..that night guess who called me>? yep the girl i waited for soo long all sudden out of no way called me on the same night that i was planing to move on and was going out. I ended up talking to her and totally time went by soo fast, next thing i know the korea girl from the mall called me, i was like SHIT!..GOD are you seriously playing with my mind..i didn't know what to do..should i still go out with this new girl or stay back talking to the same one? at that moment i decided to stay back.. I told the new girl i was sorry and explained to her i'm not really ready to be dating..i'm still not over this other girl in my life. She said it's fine and she actually wish me good luck. so after that moment i knew that i had to do..i couldn't play mr. nice anymore..if i wanted her i had to jump onto the boat and tell her..even if it was to lose her as a friend. No more friend ... I decided to do something really romantic for her, it was her birthday and i was going all out. I guess to cut the story short...the plan worked, it didn't just wrk because of the romantic thing that i did for her, but it was everything that led up to the last moment one month ago....at the last day i was her..i gave her a letter..within the letter i wish her a great life and i wish her well...i didn't wanted to be her bf anymore.but most important i wanted her to be happy instead. i explain to her everything i felt and how i really wish she would met someone great later in her life and she needed to take care herself. Relationship works in the most weird way..when u want something it doesn't show up..but when you want to let go.....it end up on your hand. Honestly when i wrote the letter...i was telling myself it's time to let her go and i guess we're not meant to beeee............We've been dating for a month now...and It has been the great, even tho we're 2 hrs apart from eachother we talk to eachother every night and we try to see eachother once every two week. Thank you for everyone support and advise throughout this time..i'm very happy to read each of your response. I wish everyone the best in life and IF you really care about someone, as long as you dont give up, everything will work out at the end. Almost 3 years later, i finally got the girl i waited for, now i'm going to treasure her and love her .... HAve a Great Day.
