So theres this girl i met around last year, and we became pretty close friends. We almost spent every week together and would talk on the phone and msn everyday. However, after awhile she got a little clingy, and her immature side got me annoyed, so I turned a little cold and a bit of an asshole to her without even noticing it... and one time I even said really hurtful words to her... We stopped talking for awhile after that, but after bumping into her again at the mall we started to talk and hang out again. Some time after that, her friend told me she used to like me, and after that I felt extremely bad for being such an asshole to her. A few months passed and slowly I've noticed i started to like her, but right when i've summoned enough courage to plan to tell her my feelings i found out she got a boyfriend. Then yeah.. now i regret what i did back then, and why i was so dumb. Her friend told me she doesn't really like her boyfriend, and that she still has feelings for me, but if that was true why would she still be with her boyfriend? She would tell me she liked me wouldnt she? Now i dont know if i should just give up, tell her i actually like her, or just wait until she breaks up with her boyfriend, adivce please :( , im feeling so down because of this.
Go tell her how you feel, if she feels the same way about you, she'll break up with her bf. it's better to express how you feel instead of bottling up inside
to start things off, two letters gg now, don't dwell on some thing that might be impossible. or you can dwell and wait for her, but the question is when? advice: talking to her and meeting her or (secretly dating) can change the outcome of her relation with her boyfriend, depending on how many times and where. LOL! i feel like the devil but i am not :angel: thank me if this is useful
to answer your question about why she has a boyfriend when she still has feelings for you: girls like to feel loved. sometimes they'll go as far as deceiving or lying to themselves for it. Go get her man, she's waiting.
well i was gonna tell her today so i phoned her today, and asked who she was with, and she said her boyfriend, so i was like.. "hey wanna come out to eat icecream tonight, its hot out" she sounded really excited for a second but she said she didn't wanna bus out too far from where she is now so she said no should i do it on the phone or try arranging another time to see her?
^ dont u have a car to pick her up? or u could be really sweet n impress her by catching a bus to c her, im sure theres icecream where shes at? Anyway, yeah, i guess her bf is her rebound thingy.... karma is a bitch eh... hopefully its not too late la...
Always been a bitch for me.... Cornettos?!?!?! Home Ice Cream man! Home Ice Cream! The name that rings a bell! headbang2
How committed do you think you both are committed to each other? There's always lots of fish in the water especially with summertime around the corner.
Thanks you all for replying, it's really something To clear up questions, I chose a rather far place because that area is really peaceful, and the scenery at night is pretty nice as well. I'm still a little young, so I can't get my license until July, thats why I rely on bus right now. I know I'm committed to her, but I dont know if she is, I tried finding another girl but shes the first girl I ever liked that I can be myself with, and whenver I'm with her I just feel so much more unstressed. Shes not the prettiest girl out there but I definitely know shes not ugly ! I think adding up all these qualities already make her special. So what should I do now? How should I ask her?
i do hope that you're right about her feelings toward you because otherwise you're stealing someone's girlfriend. Does she work or go to school?you could ask her to hangout after school
I think you should spend more time together and make sure that she really likes you and not her boyfriend before actually going into a relationship with her. You do not want to be involved in a "triangle" relationship (you, the girl, and her boyfriend). Ask her about her feelings before doing anything else.
yeah i wouldn't want to be in your spot lol. or the boyfriend XD i would suggest you back off, let her do make the decision if she is going to leave her boyfriend. :rl:
Since she is already in a relationship, it's kinda like *stealing her away from her current boyfriend* But you also stated that you *know* that she don't really like her boyfriend truthfully, so it's kinda unfair for that dude also. Why would someone drag on a relationship, if the *love* is one-sided and the personalities don't match. You can express your feelings to her, so at least she knows that you like her. (Don’t force/ put pressure her to decide to choose between you and him) Then it's all up to her to decide. (Maybe it's also unfair for that girl, cause you already unaware putting pressure on her then -unsure. making her to have a the image of *playing someone*) Maybe you should wait until they breakup,......... and then express your feelings to her. But if you really love her you shouldn't give a damn what others thinking.
Thanks again for the advice guys, So I've decided, I'm gonna distant myself from her for awhile... to think, decide and take a break I guess If that doesn't work, I'll just indirectly express my feelings to her, but not necessarily asking her out, since she already has a boyfriend, I'll wait and see just how committed I am to her.
Just go for it man . Drag her out and talk to her , but dont force her to do any decision . Otherwise , you are destroying yourself . p/s : Do not even think to have a GF if you do not have a car to drive .Girls are needy and they loved to be treated .