well, after my 1st relationship ended up with me and my girl fallin out with each other, ive tried to move on to other girls, but my ex - after comin down london - ive stil have them feelings towards her, but cannot allow myself to - because i dnt want her to go through like in the past agen. I can still speak to her as a friend, but ive been holding back so much (in other words speaking to her a few times here and there) after she came down to visit me and my sister and stayin over for 2 nights as wel.. any views on this? Or I dont deserve another chance with her agen? She's comin down london for uni this sept which is giving me some options to see her like after uni or when I wna ask her out for lunch/dinner together..
Why r u asking if u deserve another chance? Did u treat her badly? =/? if no, then i dunno whats stopping you... if u think ur sure u REALLY like her n not just THINK u like her (which happens sometimes for some reasons when exes meet each other again =/) then I'd say give it a go.... It will be up to her to decide if she wants to give u another shot
well it depends what happened in the past first. but then again there is no harm in trying rele. only she can tell u whether u have a second chance or not.
There is no harm in asking. The important thing to keep in mind is to analyze your past situation; what led to the ultimate break-up earlier? If you don't know, the relationship will end up the same.
By the sounds of things there is regret there of what you have done to her in the past and it doesn't sound good.. All you said that you and her had a lot of rows but you haven't given much details, IMO you sounded like you have treated her very badly the fact that you won't allow her to come back to you or let her back into your life. But then in saying that it means that you do know what is going wrong with you in your behlaf and you can do thingsi n all your might to change yourself if you like her that much and not cuase no more arguments and what not to let her go again. Uni is a time where she will meet new people so before she gets swept off her feet by another guy ask her.. before it's too late
hmmmm... i'm having a bit of trouble understanding... from what i can c if u have feelings for her and she has feelings for u and both of u r single... and u guys r not gonna seperated by distance in Sep then go for it... what's stopping u??
I would say it depends on what your falling out was. If it's something you two can reconcile and move on from, then why not take the chance? Sometimes two people need to mature a little more and the relationship can work. But if it was something that is either non-reconcilable or it's something that was constantly cropping up in your relationship (like something you two were always fighting about on and off), then maybe it's not a good idea.
What happened in the past? It really depends on that. If the problem as to why you guys broke up was something you both could not help, by giving the relationship another shot doesn't mean the problem will go away. It isn't about whether you deserve another chance, rather whether the reason why you guys broke up is done and gone. Just because you guys start all over doesn't mean that problem isn't there anymore.
there wasnt any rows between us, there was only this one occasion I fell for a girl - but that turned out to be lust only and that feeling barely lasted like a wk..i called her (the ex i want bk) after failin to arrange to meet up agen - cos she lives too far in my opinion, but hopefully this time can be kinder - cos shes comin down london for uni this sept, so i can see her a lot more this time round.. she's the perfect gf in my opinion, and i left her in such a stupid way (ie sayin we're over by the phone) - but this time, i want to make amends and more importantly..i want her bk
i take it you was sooo tempted to cheat on her.. basicly you can't trust yourself to new temptations that are around i can tell that you really like her but can you push yourself that far that you won't give into temptation and have thoughts that you had? also if you really like your ex, you would have travelled to meet up with her whether you knew she was coming to london for uni or not;....
i talked to my mates bout this last night, n they discovered im likin her now for the wrong reasons - which is a bombshell to even think about havin another chance of relationship together agen..i had quite a big spat with my mates bout it - they showed how i dnt deserve her, sayin im selfish and act too rashly - or in the spur of the moment, prolly hatin me nw, cos i argued with them and tryin to reject their help..nw i dno whether i do want to get my ex bk nw.. im such a prick for doin that to my mates when they were tryin to give me advice..haiis..there goes my pride that i gotta swallow or risk not bein friends with them agen
bros before hoes i think that's what htye are saying too.. but at the end of the day i gathered your friends are saying the right things and harsh truths about you don't deserve the girl, like i said before you must have treated that bad that even your friends saying that you are getting back with her because you can't get her out of your mind but when it comes to the fact you found someone new, you might end up ditching her again..
put you - bbsumgirl in my shoes - wht would u do nw? Wait a while - be a close friend to her and see how long that feelin lasts - as in to see if its just a temporary crush/infactuation? n wht about my mates...should i jst apologize to them bout arguin with them ?
i would just apologise for not accepting their advise but you still stand what you believe in and as for your ex, i would just go with the flow, don't purposely go and see her or meet up with her, if she asks to meet up, meet up but as friends and spend time with your friends more than this ex otherwise you will keep thinking that you still want her although it maybe infactuation
erm.. sorry if i killed the conversation! it's good to be great friends again and see what happens afterwards, and see if you rly rly like her or not... and as negiqboys said- there's no harm in asking
