7 months ago, I started going out with my sort of ex girlfriend. In about march we confessed love etc. but we broke up just last month because she said she wasn't feeling me the way she did in the beginning. But we both agreed that we wouldn't be seeing anyone and now, I'm trying to be friends to see if she can feel the same way about me again. If it doesn't work, I'll next her, but she's the only girl I'm interested in right now and I don't know how to get her from 'friends' to all over me again. Any help would be massively appreciated.
lol why would you even want to get back? if you broke up once, there was a reason for it. and if she says no, why do you even try to force her lol
She hasn't said no, I haven't asked her to go out with me again yet. And she hasn't been seeing anyone ever since we broke up, to the best of my knowledge.
wth is "I'll next her"? LOL if she wasn't feeling the same way, then she's not gonna feel the same ever again (from a girl's perspective). But you still really like/love her, i guess it doesn't hurt to try again -- hint it, like reminiscing the old days...show her something that once tied you guys together, & tell her what you think.......(OMG i'm so into drama ><;'). Don't fancy & over do it, simple & straight.
get over it buddy .. ain't gonna work out regardless of how hard you try ... love should be mutual attraction effortlessly .. not working to be loved ..
LOL the agreement to avoid seeing other people kinda contradicts your desire to re-gain her attraction. As long as she knows you're not going anywhere, she won't desire you because there is no sense of urgency. Fu-k the agreement, start seeing other people, and let the chips lie where they fall. :biggthumpup: If there is anything there, she'll come back to you. Otherwise, at least you'll have options.
Even though she didn't say "no," it seems like she just want to be distant from you. What she needs right now is a break from you, so this means that "being friends" right now will not be possible. I don't suggest you to force her to like you again. It just doesn't work. It happened to me once, and I don't like it when guys "control" me to like them again. It's almost like forcing me to go back to that dark hole that I just got myself out of. Put yourself in her position. Imagine a ex-girlfriend that you would absolutely not date again making you like her back. How would you feel?
I do think that it is possible to become friends again with your ex-boy/girlfriend, like one of my friends. He broke up with his girlfriend after two years, but their friendship remained. They still talk to each other occasionally. Now, he told me that they feel better when he and the girl are friends rather than in a relationship. Friendship?Relationship? Maybe that girl think that it is better to be friends rather than being in a relationship. I agree that girls do not like to be controlled or forced to do something that they do not want. This will not be a problem in a friendship, but it will in a relationship. More or less, you and the girl are controlling each other. Anyway, that is my opinion. If you still have feel for her, try becoming friends, BUT DO NOT FORCE HER TO LIKE YOU!!!
I can't though, I'm not attracted to anyone else. And I'm not going to force her into liking me again, I just want to attempt try to make her like me again.
wow, you are brave for trying to get back with your ex :jump: did you know, getting back with an ex is taboo? its like, eating left over food, doesn;t taste nice and doesn't present it self nicely lol.
There's a big risk involved with this, as trying to get back together again may entail having her hate you all the more. I remember once breaking up with a girl and didn't really think much of it. Then about 8 months later, as I was out with a new GF eating lunch; we happened to bump into my ex and a mutual friend, who were also in the same restaurant. We exchanged pleasantries and each went about our business. The next day, I get a call from that mutual friend, who then told me my ex tearfully poured her heart out to her saying, in effect, that she had thought that she and I were eventually going to get back together. She was crushed when she finally realized that I was already seeing someone else, and it also put me on notice to avoid her. :Talktohand: The moral of this is, you're really setting yourself up here. Russell Peters said it best with his line "...somebody gonna get a hurt real bad..." :stickpoke: I suggest you move on.
plx dont turn into a stalker/crazy person. have you realised yet that kiddys who say they love each other have no idea what the word actually means, for that reason im hesitant with that word because it has lost its meaning.
^ owned. but seriously, it most likely won't work out so why don't you smooth suggest being friends with benefits... lol
i think its not possible to make someone go all over you again. 2 options, - wait for a miracle to happen and she might just have feelings for you again or - you drop your feelings and move on
i think playin hard to get always works...get her jealous or show her that u can get girls too...then if she does actually care she will ask u and stuff...if she cares there is still a chance and hope...but u hav to play hard to get!
Hey buddy, I was in the same situation that u were in several years ago. When a girl saids "no" it means "no". So, move on or you'll end up getting hurt even more.
