i am sure there are a lot sites where people use as outlets for their problems but most people usually fall into the "coping" condition. meaning .. i did it and now i am feeling this or that .. in real life, it's different. i am not sure if you understand what i am saying .. this is different from a regular break-up but marriage, baby, and friendship are involved .. there's no waiting time in real life; gotta ask around family and friends for immediate advice cuz you're can potentially be a father/mother.... not putting the post here and wait for others to reply; as if you even get decent responses .. if that didn't get through to you .. how about this .. if your friend suddenly died in a car accident; do you think the family has the time to put up a post asking how to plan the funeral, where's to buy a cheap casket or whatever? NO. The family is probably distraught by the news and blanked out from even thinking of the computer.
Your scenerio where DEATH is involved is way too serious to be compared with OP's suspected EX pregnancy. I don't find it odd to ask for opinions about suspected EX pregnacy online. At this point, OP may be considering all other people's recommendations to deal with his concern. Sometimes online help can be very helpful especially if one lacks a social network or even a supportive one. Maybe OP already asked for opinions from friends and family, but didn't find it helpful so he went online to ask? Or maybe he wants to keep himself annonymous from the rest of the world so he prefers to ask online? Even though if he doesn't fall into any of the possible factors that I've just mentioned, asking about EX and pregnancy online for advices are not uncommon even if it's just after two hours of hearing the news. Whereas your scenerio where "a friend dies," that is way too out of the line. There is more intense pain and grieve if one's close one dies (b/c it is certain) as opposed to a suspected EX pregnancy where chances are 50/50. OP most likely was not enduring any deep intense emotion because even he doesn't know the truth yet, it's just suspected. For instance, I suspect I'm pregnant but I'm not sure yet, so I go online to ask for advices by revealing my symptoms. I don't get a pregnancy test done now because the stores and clinics are closed, so asking online would relieve some of my anxiety and answer some of my questions.
Assume that she was cheating on you to begin with, and got pregnant with your friend; that's why she's marrying him instead of you. Inotherwords, your best friend was probably doggin your ole lady behind your back all this time and knocked her up. You only think it's yours, but the girl probably knows for sure who it belongs to... :rolleyes2: Take off the green hat and move on...
ruin there wedding or if ur friend doesnt know that it could be ur baby, tell him and he might break up with her, and that would make you and ur ex even.
wow, this sounds tooo unreal.... does your friend actually know the truth to this? he would have a breakdown once he finds out...
