Do you have expectations between friends and etc?

Discussion in 'Love and Relationships' started by Espresso, Jul 27, 2009.

  1. brown_bear

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    thas a very wise move...!!!...if she can carry on without you then why cant you....
    and like they say plenty more fish in the sea right...?..


    good luck~~~~!


    seeing as she doesnt really acknowledge your existence or care about you she doesnt
    'joi fu' your friendship anyways...so theres no point in you tryna make it work....
    at the moment you feel as though you dun have many close friends....but you'll soon
    meet more people and better friends who treat you WAYYY better that she does..
    and mebe this time you leave her for a few weeks she'll come to her senses..?...
     
  2. Espresso

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    I understood her to the point where she didn't need to say things like that, but I would understand. I told her what she did, so she knows. Like I said, I was really gonna ditch her @ the mall, because I felt completely disrespected.

    Every freaking time we hang, she gloats to me, what she did, and etc., but wouldn't invite me, or plan something WITH ME. The fuking phone thing, anticipating her friends call irks me. No use hanging if her mind is off in space.


    My other guy friend was like. I was always there to just anchor them, be a bigger person, arrange things, invite EVERYONE to keep things cool, but people don't do the same no more..
     
  3. Flames

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    I understand ya, but these kind of friend isn't a friend you should get close to, she's only taking advantage of ya, other than that you're nothing to them.
     
  4. Espresso

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    LOL

    I don't think we can get back together on the 'deep end relationship', just the close friendship part got damaged.

    I'm not in pursuit for that kind.

    I just wanna be secure.
     
  5. Flames

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    I can just tell you that if the phone call was from her friends asking her to go out, first thing she'll do is agree to go and ditch you there...
     
  6. Espresso

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    Yeah.

    Hard to just pass it off.

    7-9 year of friendship. LOL We were close, we had history, there's no changing in that.

    My friends suggested to avoid the approaches.

    After what happened this weekend, I think it's over. I got 0 friends now to talk to. Perhaps that's why I'm here. lol !! :sp_ike_d:
     
  7. Espresso

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    With in 30 min - 1 hour, she would be looking @ her phone 9/10 times. She would walk to her own corner, do text.

    In the car ride, she would text.

    She's probably texting to have someone call her.

    She would never ditch me like that, she kinda did b4 when we were 'deeper', and I did too. but I told myself i had NO OBLIGATIONS or RIGHTS and that I had to put up w/ her antics.

    I did confront her about this, a while back, but it wasn't serious. THIS TIME, it was serious.
     
  8. Espresso

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    Thanks you 2.

    I'm gonna go sleep, I gotta work and etc.,

    It really helps talking things out, but I also spoke with a few other friends, they were supportive of me and their suggestions were in lieu w/ you folks.
     
  9. Espresso

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    :rl:

    My friend tried to e-mail me lol, but it was a 1 sentence thing about some random stuff.

    I replied but left it at that.

    :stickpoke:

    I thought I'd share because I'm bored @ work.
     
  10. person

    person Well-Known Member

    Why the hell are you quoting so many times and posting them seperately? Just do it on one go, you're kind of spamming.

    To answer your thread, I don't really expect that much from my friends. Sure it'd be nice for them to clue me in on events and such, but most of the time I'm too busy to go, so I don't really mind.

    This reminds me of how last month it was my birthday and I planned this little dinner with a few of my close friends. I didn't go around telling everyone it was my birthday or it was coming up, and some of my friends got a little mad at me for telling them. In my mind I thought it would've been bad to brag about my bday since it comes off as wanting attention. Though that's just me.
     
  11. Espresso

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    This is odd.

    Because I was a 'best man' for a very good friend of mines a while back. The thing is, we hardly talked like we did anymore, we hardly hung out either as he and I had our own lives.

    He would sometimes talk about his birthday in front of me, yet I would always miss it, or etc. Of course we never got pissed about it either.

    Yet, we were friends, friends that didn't question the integrity of the other. Out of the blue, I would ask for money, and he would always spot me, right then and there w/o questioning me.

    And he would often, call me and ask me to help his inlaws move things in and out, and of course I'd help w/o hesitation.

    HAHAA
     
  12. 344 posts down the line you really shouldn't be posting like that, keep it in one post, use the edit button if you need to.

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    All i expect from a friend is honesty and reliability, if they don't meet these two conditions then they will be someone i know but i wont consider them an actual friend and i wont expect or ask anything of them.

    If i do consider you an actual friend then ill treat you like a brother.
     
  13. ervinaho

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    omg espresso. i'm shocked. I lost a best friend a week ago. She ditched me for she already got herself a boy friend. we are close friend and i tell her everything. I helped her the whole year, spending all my night and day waiting for her messages and hoping that i will always be there for her whenever she needs me. Lately, i am sick and of course, i hope she is there. I am and always there for her when she is down but this time when i need her, she left me. I though she is busy, but she has free time to text her man.(she sent it wrongly to my cellphone). lol..funny how things happened. i'm so frustrated and upset with her. I warned her with her bf..she is too young and he is not(33 years old). I'm worried if she is hurted. >.< but well, in the end, she says she doesnt understand why should i worried. I know her for more than a year, and that guy only a few months. lol...i'm sad.
     
  14. Espresso

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    erm...what?
     
  16. Espresso

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    ill post tonight it got cut off.
     
  17. ervinaho

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    o_O you didnt post there. D:
     
  18. Espresso

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    It is clearly wrong the age difference will affect her. But you have to remember, there will be plenty of people in and out your life. You need to find TRUE and REAL friends.

    I know my friend for 8+ year and I try my best to talk to her.

    Dont worry about her. Just forget her. FIND some REAL FRIEND !

    Look up in camera. SMILE ! =0
     
  19. [mJ9]

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    that's how you realise who's your true friends...i've known my best friend for 12years old and i can confirm that people change...

    ohh...LOL...gonna keep your advise,you never know...
     
  20. Espresso

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    well its just a vent.. i dunno anymore.. trusting is just hard for me now.. its like i dont have expectations too much, yet at the same time i do.. maybe im just too soft and too nice.