If you met a girl who had a child would you still consider geting into a serious relationship with h

Discussion in 'Love and Relationships' started by master_g, Jan 16, 2010.

  1. and vice versa for the girls.
     
  2. bbgirlsum

    bbgirlsum Well-Known Member

    it depends how dedicated he is to his kids.. if he is it means that he shows responsibilities so i would consider a serious one..

    if he isn't one of those dad's that doesn't take part in his kid's life because he chose not to because he's a junkie or a dole person then no coz it means he'll do it to our kids if it gets that far..
     
  3. zack55555

    zack55555 Well-Known Member

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    ha, this one is easy. NO.
     
  4. bbgirlsum

    bbgirlsum Well-Known Member

    Reason?

    If a girl has a child doesn't necessarily she is a sponge or a slut...
    She may have been cohabitating for a long while with her ex with a child and the love just wasn't there
     
  5. blkperc

    blkperc Well-Known Member

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    i would have to say no, definitely going on the friends only list.
    first of all, the kid might not even like you, and problems can even come up later on when the kid grows up and wants to know who their biological father is.
     
  6. zack55555

    zack55555 Well-Known Member

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    I didn't say anything about slut or anything like that.

    The reason is simple, because there are plenty of (thousands?) other nice single girls around waiting for me to love. Why her?

    People often get too caught up with situations like this ended up being miserable. Of course not all cases are like that.

    It's just like having an affair with a married person, they said it's true love. I say it's naive and stupid.

    That's my opinion. Don't get mad. Peace :)
     
  7. sha.x

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    I think it depends how much you love him/her. I mean the kid's a part of him/her, so if ur able to go through any obstacles with the one u love... u should be able to accept his/her everything (including the kid). It's not something easy to do... I mean, when u truly want to have a relationship with someone it's because that person is worth it...
     
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  8. bbgirlsum

    bbgirlsum Well-Known Member

    it can be easily done for not finding out who their biological father is if that kid was old enough and the fact they DO know who their biological father is? If you did not have those problems would u? Seems like you're one that is lazy and do not want to committment to the one u love IF the one you love did have a secret child etc
     
  9. lilx13aby

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    If u really thinks she is the one, then why not, i mean she had a past, doesnt everyone has one. Besides if u guys going ot start over a new family, i dotn think a child would matter, they are innocent is these situation. If u really think taht person is the one, why let her past be an wall between you two, besides kids are nice to have around as well.
     
  10. Shini_D

    Shini_D Well-Known Member

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    It depends on the situation...
    I mean if the man had kids and no wife, and the woman who persued him also had kids but no husband, then it can be like a mutual thing, because they are in similar situations and have a better understanding of one another.

    If I chased a guy who had a kid...it would depend on how much I fall for the guy first, then how old the kid is... I mean... If that kid is older than I thought that he could pass off as my kid brother then its a no no because it's just like...uh.....

    Really depends on how much I like the guy...
     
  11. ynot138

    ynot138 Well-Known Member

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    Yes , of course. If you love her enough, you will try to love everything about her, her kids, her parents, her siblings, her attitude, ................
     
  12. negiqboyz

    negiqboyz Well-Known Member

    Doesn't take a genius to figure that out .. of course not. Seriously, who want extra baggages .. now .. unless you too have baggages yourself, then it's a different story. Regardless of how one feels .. at the end, it's in the of FATE. If things are meant to be that way, then you can't hide nor change it.
     
  13. ataea

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    If you really did love her, you'd love the child as well, since they are a part of her. Same thing goes for a guy who is raising a child. I would love the child as a part of him... But if you're talking about pure dating with no seriousness, then I can see why you wouldn't want to add a child to that.
     
  14. [mJ9]

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    No because i don't want extra baggage and i don't think the child would like me unless the kid doesn't have a mother anymore...

    This reminds me of HIMYM,where Ted would have married a woman with a kid,finally,the woman marries the father of the kid again..it's just a series but this situation happens