If you have read what I have written... It depends on what rate the lawyers charge.. some firms vary Yes the law governs who we can marry but who would want to think of marriage when you are young and if you really wanna marry someone and they are not at the right age yet, they can wait. As for no more than one spouse thing is worse than failing a marriage, it's technically degrading both sexes as it is encouraging people to just use and dump those after you get bored and get left to one side. Are you in the same situation that you won't be able to meet the in-law (the person getting married) to get to know that person better? Coz negi can't due to work commitments and being in different states?
"who would want to think of marriage when you are young" a lot of people. though the point was you CANT marry whoever you want. you can choose within the confines of what is accepted in where you live. oh really, you are so quick to regurgitate the classic "free will" ramblings of the west, but not the "tolerance"? tell that to one of those Arab countries who allow multiple wives. who are you to say your idea of marriage is not degrading? you think disobeying your family's wishes is bravery. maybe they think you are degrading your family.
there were no circles. there is an undeniable huge problem with how this generation looks at marriage. it is not off topic because it applies to the OP as well. marriage has everything to do with family as well as a between 2 people (in the west). thus it is flawed to just announce to your family you get getting married when they have no prior knowledge you are even going out with someone. the second huge issue is the casual view of marriage. it clearly doesnt mean anything since you can divorce, and get remarried. i dont even know why you bother to be engaged. the major essence of marriage is supposedly the life long commitment. divorce clearly cancels that. thus marriage suddenly becomes no different than dating in most senses.
Meh it's not our personal view on marriage and divorce, it is reality.. It doesn't reflect on our personal idea upon marriage. Of course marriage is a long committment but others seem to take marriage as a joke and what not. Lol I'm engaged to prove that I will marry and will go through the "life long commitment" that I want to go through with my fiance and spend the rest of my life with. If I didn't want to I wouldn't have said yes...
nothing wrong with being a disney fan...hmph an ofc u can choose who you marry, even if u face opposition from peers and family, it is your choice in the end...
50% of the divorced couples said "yes" as well. if you go into marriage thinking divorce is even an option. that you can just back out of a commitment and "learn" then "remarry"; it is a waste of time and no different than dating. the worst thing is you brought it up to me while talking about free will. but of course im apparently the only one who sees a BIG problem...when free will is used as a crutch to go back on commitment, destroy tradition and meaning of marriage, and basically used to support doing w/e the heck people want. lets not forget this started out because i call out western marriage as "love and free will". even if you believe that, it was 50/50. shows how reliable general feelings are.
go read some twilight. you can choose within the confines of the society you are in. why is that so hard for disney fans to understand. just because belle said you only need love doesnt magically mean that is true. western marriage is just ONE type of culture. that has MANY limitations and is NOT "choose whoever you want". there wouldnt even be a same sex issue if this was not true. at the same time, certain Arab countries that are labeled as "repressive" allow marriage to more than one person at one time. the west does not. culture/society is the main difference. not who is basing their marriage on "love and free will" and certainly not one is able to "choose to marry whoever" and others cannot. as part of a society with a 50% divorce rate. the west is in NO POSITION to say ANYTHING about other cultures marriages. not the Arabs with their multiple wives, not the Indians with their arranged marriages, and not East Asian with the so called "face".
tbh when people gets married i don't think divorce will come to their minds. It only pops up when relationship has broken down or have come to non-existence.
lol there was a study that was made regarding divorces.. the more divorces you have, the less chance it is to actually be settling down for the rest of your life but anyways, i'd strive not to let a divorce happen >.> what if you have kids and you divorce? your kids wouldn't have the proper education given by both the mother AND the father.. again.. family values over personal enjoyment of love =\
Wah .. lol I kinda agreed w/ crazyman on some. Marriage is no longer like it used to be. The mentality has changed so much that marriage is more of a dating game now. @Dan .. so who's getting married in your family? Similar situation?? You need a PI referal?? lollll I believe a lot of ppl here are still too young to understand the true meaning of a marriage and family value.
Well, before you go off and agree with someone who steered your thread into a totally anti-western marriage tirade, I just want to remind everyone that eastern marriages aren't "all that" or any better than western or anything else. In many Arab countries, if one wants to go with a prostitute, they get religious "permission" from an Iman (muslim equivalent to a priest) who usually allows it so long as the applicant makes a donation to the the Iman. Thereafter (the sex act) they immediately divorce the prostitute. In other words, the clergy will offer its graces only after one pays. This religious pimping goes on every day, and is called "Mut'ah" (var Mutta; Muttah). In fact, Arab men are known to enter into such religiously sanctioned temporary "marriages" with underage girls in a situation that is, in reality, state sanctioned child rape. The religious authorities there have rules in place that essentially allow married adult men to fornicate with girls as young as nine years old. This phenomenon has been going on for years and has been the source of child trafficking for purposes of sex within the middle east and subcontinent. [video=youtube;7qJxuOjUltg]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7qJxuOjUltg"[/video] Another report (from a blog; sorry, didn't have time to vet a real source but I'll just used this as an illustration) is of a 9 year old girl "married" off: http://tundratabloid.blogspot.com/2009/03/ex-hezbollah-i-had-temporary-marriage.html Historically, marriages were often used as political insurance to cement alliances. This was evident when Korean princesses were sent to marry imperial Chinese leaders, and at other times, Chinese princesses were sent to marry the more powerful Turkic nomads, in a bid to prevent their attack of China. Even within peaceful times, marriages within China and India often were more familial economic contracts than personal choice. The wed couple literally had no say into who they married and often did not even meet their counterpart until the lifting of the veil within the marriage chamber. So yes, marriage is no longer like it used to be. That in and of itself is not necessarily a bad thing, IMHO.
^ I only agreed w/ crazy on "SOME" .. not everything. Also, let focus on regular common type of marriage .. come on now .. why talk about royal and wealthy families .. I don't care about them. I am sure they all have motives in their marriages. For us commoners, we're just shooting for a lifetime of happiness. I can understand some of the changes in marriage over the years but what I dislike about is the fact ppl going into marriage w/ the divorce/remarried option on their mind. That mentality is somehow disturbing.
^ Well I think when people get into marriage, they don't think about divorce/remarried... I mean who doesn't want to live with a person you hold most dear for the rest of your life? (*well, I guess you could argue that -_-) But I think knowing these option will make couples less encourage to solve simple problems in their lives but rather use divorce as an excuse to say, "It was never meant to be.. BS" Then there are also these evil bitches who marry a rich guy and divorce them to steal half of their assets and income...
i would agree with negiq i mean, there are plenty of people who, at the first sign of disagreement, divorce. they don't bother trying to overcome the disagreement. in a perfect relationship, it's absolutely impossible to agree on every single matter. you are not your partner, so it's given to disagree on some issues. the challenge is to overlook that, and move on and be stronger as a couple. if you divorce, i see that as a cowardly act to escape the challenge of trying to work things out and improve as a couple. yes, there are times when it gets as bad as cannot overlooking the matter, but im talking about little things that causes people to break up. if you think of divorce as an option, you will never have a happy life. this goes beyond the traditional/modern bullshit. if you plan on divorcing at the first sign of trouble, i find that despicable, and cowardly. @ AC: "It was never meant to be.. BS" fuck them i say they live in a fictitious world.
