Hi, I am a 23 year old. I was making out with a girl last night and it was the first time i had an opportunity to have sex but i wasn't getting a turn on. I was pushing and trying to get it but nothing happened. So we kept making out for a time period until like a long time afterwards when i did get the turn on and got oral. Does it normally take that long to get an erection and does anxious trying to get a turn on cause problems with getting it? This was meant to be my first time. Note**: I have only went out with this girl for 1 week, 3rd date. I would say i feel bad if i do her because i don't think i really like her in that way and that we don't really communicate and most of the time its more physical. She normally Initiates. Please provide guidance.
if you try to force yourself to get an erection too often you will over stimulate your penis and end up with erectile dysfunction.
^lmao you mean they already have one anyways maybe she wasn't turning you on? Try it with another chick, experiment.
dun need to feel bad...plus you said its her that initiates anyways... and mebe its your conscience...feeling bad..and you cant get it...?..
LMFAO hahahah well champ.. not everyone can be our fellow Hung Lo (shinobi) on this board. just face it man.. you can't get it up.. go pop some pills ya wee wee too soft n small for the job...
LOL, there's gotta be a Viagra ad in here somewhere... Seriously though, erectile dysfunction can either be physiologic (ie, there's something wrong with the mechanics of your body that it won't work to maintain a woodie...), or psychological (ie, performance anxiety, or true emotional inhibitions like the kind exhibited by sexual abuse victims). If you're able to spontaneously have erections (like guys in the morning waking up with a boner) then your problem is unlikely to be the former. -cool But, as you already stated, you really "...don't like her in that way" which I take to mean that she doesn't float your boat. With most guys, if the chick doesn't do it for you, then it's a difficult task to begin with. That is, it isn't because you can't get it up; it's because you have nothing to get it up for, so to speak. ie she doesn't turn you on enough for the woodie to happen... :rolleyes2: In that case, watch some good pron that you know will rock your socks, then tell her to take advantage of the ahem, ...situation, if you know what I mean. -sweat No offense H, but you remind me of a salmon swimming upstream; you get to shoot your load, but it ain't gonna be a happy ending, if you know what I mean, LOL... -dead
first time, I guess you felt some pressure and stress and that's why you can't get it up. Just relax and work your way to it.
lol dont need porn, just brown paper bag then ask for a handjob. well unless she rock that rosie o donnell body you bound to get turned on right? Other wise op might have a serious case of erectile dysfunction but i doubt that as op is a 23 year old virgin right.
lol . My main thoughts are maybe you fap too much and you couldn't get stimulated from the actual thing. or you weren't attracted enough to this chick. But there are dozens of other possibilities, if it happens consistently then maybe you should talk to a doctor. Sex isn't a professional sport so use of performance enhancing drugs is a-ok.
