Having a pretty rough week. Me right now: me as I would like to be: Need ideas of how to cheer myself up. gogogogo. -surr
Oh boy..... there really isn't much you can do.... just let it ride. We can pretend to give you "great" ideas about how to mask the pain but you know full well there ain't nothing that will rid itself of losing something you held so special on an emotional level. The only true bit of advice I have is..... the sooner you accept the fact that things have changed and circumstances have played out not in your favor the sooner and smaller the time lapse of recovery will be. Easier said then done.... I know... I've been there. Queue up the sad songs and eventually the pain will fade.
Sorry to hear that bud. I'm never the one to lay around and let it pass, because that'll just make me think about it even more, and amplify the shitty feeling. Grab all of your best buddies, go do a boys night out. I find the company of peers really works in taking my mind off girl related problems.
how long was the long term? if it was like 2 years then it might be a little hard to cope if you're still attached but if it was mutual then i guess it's easier? I think for me losing a friend was harder to cope with and relationships, you can just find a better one. Now that you're single you can go out and have some fun =)
Well, simply put, to love someone is to court pain. Anyway, what you're going through now is like a scrape on the knee; a little pain at first but it will subside. The wound will heal as time goes by. Let me share a story with you. When I was in grad school (during class lecture), we were once visited by a dog. The dog entered the class fearlessly, wagging its tail and wandering amongst us seated students, getting all the attention he wanted. The students, of course, responded with pats and caresses, prompting one of the young ladies in the class to observe dryly, "this is so typical of my life. Here I've been hurting all evening with loneliness because my boyfriend just dumped me and not a person has offered me an understanding touch. A stray dog wanders in and is shwoered with affection! There is something very wrong with that." I responded to the gal, by saying: maybe it's not so crazy. The dog came in and by his actions told us he was open to loving. His message was simple, nonthreatening and clear. She, on the other hand, just sat there stoically, revealing nothing. We're not mind readers. Sometimes a person just got to speak up, or at least give some hints.
Yeah it was a 2 year relationship. I agree with all points made so far. I know there isn't a single solution to heartache. I suppose like all pain it takes time to heal. Negiq, I have a hard time believing your story but I appreciate the sentiment, and I agree that love and pain often do go hand in hand.
Sorry to hear that dude. I would say the only option is move on, go out with your friends. Just don't stay at home by yourself, you'll just think about it and stuff.
^ Friends indeed help to get your mind off of things but you can't be with company all the time... and the more you avoid acceptance, which is a long process of thinking about the past and weighing it with your future, the longer it will take for you to be completely OK with the situation.
Well .. the gal in the story is an attorney and a municipal judge but you know what? She is still SINGLE. She still acts like back in old school days. You should learn, accept, and move on. Put yourself out there if you want changes. Seriously, who would like to get close with a sullen, depressed guy? Everyone wanna stay away from DRAMA.
I actually find it that company of friends actually help me accept my predicament. But that's just me.
awww there there fear *pat pat* it'll all be over soon =] arent any of you curious whut happened..??..were your 2 jobs too busy for her..?? or did you choose ya lexus over her..
lexus will always be with u... unless it gets written off >.< go for a few cruises and all will be fine =)
I don't say it doesn't help... because support plays a big part, but you definitely need to face yourself eventually.
naw i'll answer, she broke up with me because she said the relationship was too hard, being as it was long distance (2 hrs apart) Also, she mentioned wanting to try being with other people... I think there was a commitment issue there. I dunno, I never thought of myself as being a totally dedicated guy, but I was to her and I never would have ended it unless I had a really serious reason, nor would I have cheated on her. Ah well though, im a realist... few things last forever. Move on and move forward right?
The Husband Store A brand new store has just opened in New York City that sells Husbands. When women go to choose a husband, they have to follow the instructions at the entrance: "You may visit this store ONLY ONCE! There are 6 floors and the value of the products increase as you ascend the flights. You may choose any item from a particular floor or may choose to go up to the next floor, but you CANNOT go back down except to exit the building!" So, a woman goes to the Husband Store to find a husband. The 1st floor sign reads: Floor 1 - These men have jobs. The 2nd floor sign reads: Floor 2 - These men Have Jobs and Love Kids. The 3rd floor sign reads: Floor 3 - These men Have Jobs, Love Kids and are extremely good looking. "Wow," she thinks, but feels compelled to keep going. She goes to the 4th floor and The sign reads: Floor 4 - These men Have Jobs, Love Kids, are Drop-dead Good Looking and Help with Housework. "Oh, mercy me!" she exclaims, "I can hardly stand it!" Still, she goes to the 5th floor and The sign reads: Floor 5 - These men Have Jobs, Love Kids, are Drop-dead Gorgeous, help with Housework and Have A Strong Romantic Streak. She is so tempted to stay, but she goes to the 6th floor and the sign reads: Floor 6 - You are visitor 31,456,012 to this floor. There are no men on this floor. This floor exists solely as proof that women are impossible to please. Thank you for shopping at the Husband Store. To avoid gender bias charges, the store's owner opens a New Wives store just across the street. The 1st floor has wives who love sex. The 2nd floor has wives who love sex and have money. The 3rd through 6th floors have never been visited.
