Ok... here's the situation. I'm currently in a long distance relationship with my girlfriend. We lived together for a whole year, so basically just like a married couple. But she had to go back to HK because of family, and she won't be coming back any time soon. She's already left for 4 months.. and I'm planning to go to HK soon to see her. But we've been having a lot of arguments because I feel that she's changing... In the beginning, it was webcam, phone calls, text msgs, and IM's. Now, she doesn't even care if we dont talk for 1-2 weeks!? And the latest issue is that she went on a 4 day vacation to Hainan Islands without telling me anything! I was furious when I found out 2 days later when she got back. And I found out from someone else... The reason I was furious is because she still has contact with her ex. And her ex had previously sent her an email about going to Hainan together.. so I asked who she went with and why she didn't tell me anything about it. The answer she gave me was with her parents and that she didn't think she had to report it to me.. she used the word report... I think it's common maybe small talk that u can tell your bf that you're going on vacation? And now I'm just not sure if she's telling the truth or not.. was it with her parents or ex..!? Next issue is that she just got a job in HK and the ex gave her a bracelet and a watch as a gift for getting her 1st job. She's been wearing that watch everyday! And when I see her pictures on FB or something I just 眼火爆！Bothers me so much! Is it even right to take gifts from your ex? We all know that this dude is aiming for something here... Am I right to be mad/disturbed about this!? This is just a small part of our problems...sighs..
I'd be peeved about it if she was receiving gifts from her ex. As for the Hainan trip, who knows what really went on but if you cant trust her then what's the point of having a long distance relationship if you don't believe what she says. I'm a bit worried about the ex to say the least. Is she looking to stay in HK for a long time? If so, i'd probably just cut your losses and move on.
just hope she wasn't using you all that time....i dont think it's goin to work out judging by what you wrote
ooh yea... vacation in the Hainan Islands.. she was probably getting her freak on.. Careful of possible STDs now.. and living together for 1 year I'd hardly classify that as being close to a married couple.. lol
I'm going to have to agree with the general consensus that she is cheating on you. In her mind its probably not even really cheating, as its 'just' with her ex. If she's not willing to keep you up to date, even through like minor texts and stuff about how her vacation is going then there is a reason for it. It doesn't sound like she's worth your trust bro. Also 1 year is not a long time. Cut her from your life and move on, it will be hard at first but you'll be glad you did.
It's hard to say is she really getting with the ex and avoiding you, or are you too damn controlling to which she's tired of 'reporting' to you her every action and being the annoyed the hell out of.. hmm
Yes, I'd be mad if that happened. Accepting gifts from an ex (excluding bday presents) is a big red flag. No decent girl would do that.
To the OP, you're history. Does she really need to send you their wedding pictures too? Time to move on... Oh BTW, if you have any of "those" kinds of pictures of her; now would be the appropriate time to post 'em :Talktohand:
lol ralph is a dirty old man... do we need to start a new section.. 'Girl cheated on me, here's our pic/video together'
OF COURSE YOU HAVE THE REASON TO BE MAD. dude long distance sucks already, and ur case....THIS FARRRR AWAY. 人會變，月會圓!
Thanks guys... I just confirmed that her dad did not go to Hainan with her... Didn't get to ask her mom. Just need another chance to ask her mom now... Yes HK is faaar away, but hell I didnt expect her to change so fast...and they say guys r the first one's to be cheating in a relationship >.>
try to confirm with her mom first, if the mom didn't go then the answer is so clear to u. If I were you, I would just stop contacting her or "disappear" from her life. Trying to argue or knowing the truth might make you hurt even more.
Frickin called the Ex... he confirmed it... She keeps lying... now it's not her parents, but her sister.. all lies! Arguing...!
She's at work right now... still with the sister excuse and that she's working.. cant talk blah blah blah.. but she's on lunchtime. I am PISSED! Told me to call her at 9 and kept saying "好煩呀"... I know there's only 1 conclusion to this story.. But I really want to argue my lungs out right now!
