It's pretty tough what you're going through and you have people here trying to offer solutions with the best of intentions but are probably not making you feel much better. but in situations like these there's not usually much you can do to make it better.
Sup girl, if you need a rebound, holler. It feels bad being cheated. I'd confront him lightly about it and just see how he reacts. All of this does sound kinda fishy on his part. But there's always two sides to every story. Contrary to popular belief, men and women can coexist after being in a relationship together.
it sounds like : 1_ he still wants to be friend with you because he want to have a back up gf in case the new one doesnt work as you said they are in a long distance relationship at the moment and no one knows how it is going to be when she moves there 2 _ he feels guilty for lying and losing feelings toward you but this makes him more despicable because he doesnt even consider how you will feel if he is still being nice to you etc 3_ the less possible case, is that your information were false and he is a true gentleman for staying nice to you but that is RARE and nearly impossible for a male, also his excuse are kind of bullshit, you dont break up with a girl because her parents are too strict, that just means that he cant have sex with you .... consider this: if you love someone, dont you want to see that person happy ? if that person breaks up with you, it means that he isnt happy with you anymore so why continue this way? just let it go it is always hard to turn the page but time always heal even if it feels like its impossible to forget someone after xx years together and for confronting him or not: do it if you need to hate him in order to turn the page, if he says yes he were lying etc, you could start hating him, thats the best way to forget someone but you should play it smart and with dignity, just let it go, meet new people, new guys, make him regret for breaking up with you, no one likes depressing girls, radiant and in love girls are beautiful
Late 20s .. I think you're old enough to know ... Seriously, I am sure all parents want their kids to be happy regardless of how strict they are .. of course, they are some just darn crazy. Anyway, the guy break up with you over your parents (especially after 3 years) seems like a lousy excuse to me. He's cheating on you. First love never last and always hurt but time will heal everything .. sure ppl told you that already. You should move on and stop looking back and guess what had happened. If he truly love and care about you in the first place, he would brought the issue up and ya'll decided together the best resolve ... not breaking up like that .. 3 years is a long time.
lol@Ecko nice break down... he's your 1st love.. the 1st are always the hardest to get over... if he's moving on then you best do it.. find something to keep yourself busy
First of all, I dun think that at this stage of the breakup should you have any contact with him at all. Its just.....not healthy for u and for him. Since you have already said that you found out that he was chatting with other girls before the two of you even broke up, why would you even want to be with such guys? They are creeps!
Okay, I don't know what else to say since everyone above me already said it. All I can say is the ones that hasn't be said, "go with your instinct". Look into your heart and think logical about this guy. Is he worth getting back even if he might not love you?
Best would be move on with your life and forget about the past since the boy has move on with his life. The thing that he is still good to you maybe he feel miserable for breaking up with you. If you wish to forget about him, you might want to consider changing workplace or apply for another department to be put in charge. Think this as one of your life challenges. There are always up and down in life. As a matter of time, your wound would be heal.
Late 20? and your parents dont want you to date anyone? you should be thinking about getting married! But putting that aside i think you are a grown up girl to know that you have to give some time for the guy to realize how much he truly needs you. Remember it takes two to tango in love. Take it slow, go concentrate on yourself and be more social with your friends and family. If time shows that he dont love you and really want to leave you then, i believe you should invest in looking for another bf. You are in your late 20s you are not young anymore. For a girl you cannot wait forever.
i say move on. u know this within your heart of heart that if he really like/love u like he said he does, he'll find a way to make it work with you... no matter what... so listen to your gut feeling
