How do you maintain a social life after college? I attended college at a different state and moving back feels a bit awkward. I've been back for about a month, I tried contacting and connecting with my buddies from high school but it seems like they are avoiding me or up to the same old stuff ( it bores me). I just realized it but it seems like most of my friends are from college, and now that i moved back home I feel like i dont have a group to socialize with. Since, it's the weekend i'm going to brainstorm some ideas to start off my upcoming week and hopefully maintain the social lifestyle i once had. What are some ideas you would suggest? comments, suggestions, concerns
After high school, military service, college and career changes, I found the exact same problem of no longer having those social contacts that I felt was important to my life. But, one begins to learn to adapt and you'll find that the contacts that do persistently stay with you through your life are your best and most important friends. This is a lifelong social culling process that everyone goes through; some don't and fall instead, into imaginary worlds afforded by virtual game universes that don't really offer meaningful relationships. One good friend that has lasted trough the years for me was a total stranger that I'd met in a hospital corridor, while both my wife and his were coincidentally in the delivery room simultaneously undergoing labor. From that friendship both of our sons have also likewise developed their own lifelong friendship as they sort of grew up together, more like cousins than friends. Both are in college now. At any rate, your 'how does one meet people' request is an age old social conundrum. My suggestion is that you take a course in your local college about a subject that you have an interest in but never had the time nor opportunity to do before. This affords you two things; it gains you knowledge about something that you have some degree of desire to know, and most of all, it gets you out of the house and into another circle of real live people that you must interact with (ie not virtual, not shielded by the net, not avatars). Good luck in life
i wonder about this sometimes, but isn't your next ring of friends your coworker friends? assuming you have a job that is.
i can't never really mix with my co-workers... we do hang out occasionally but it's just very different. college friends come from all sorts of different states and cities so it's hard to get together like it used to... high-school friends from my hometown are still my closest buddies
tho i guess, if u didn't have friends in college, u wouldn't have to worry about it afterwards LOL but otherwise, its always going ot be hard everyone moves in different paths and its just part of life there's always the few that you are close to, that usually you'll keep in contact with there's usually social clubs or social drinks, so then u meet a few social friends and take it from there
awww Aznguy123....welcome back..not seen you on PA for agess....recognise your avy....^^ ermm....i think ralphie..has suggested a good idea..of going to do a course of some kind and make more friends..?....sometimes i find meeting up with old school friends is good... but the convos are sometimes limited to only talking about the "good ol' days"..and then it sorta gets a bit boring...
Thanks, Brown Bear, Just wanted to add that probably the worst place to try to meet new people is in a bar. Just about everyone there is on the prowl and most people tend to not invest a lot of effort in true human relationships. It's all about sexual gratification mostly and otherwise if not getting lucky, then getting drunk is an easy fall back reason. One may start off with the best intentions, but then wake up the next morning next to someone that they'd rather not remember, or worst, in an alley with emptied upturned pockets LOL...
I would love to know the answer to this question as well. :/ I also find that hanging out with high school buddies can get repetitive and we definitely talk a lot about "the old days". I basically meet up with high school friends about once every half a year to catch up. Lucky for me, most of my college friends all live relatively close to me (an hour away). I can usually get together with someone to hangout approximately twice a month. Since I'm only on summer break, I'm not sure how it changes when you graduate. What would you do when you came home for breaks? If you're bored with the things you do with your high school friends, you could always suggest a new activity to do?
"But, one begins to learn to adapt and you'll find that the contacts that do persistently stay with you through your life are your best and most important friends." -light bulb came on!!!! Great stuff!! In the future, I hope you respond to my threads so much experience and wisdom!
you mean that we can never be real friends???? i used to believe in UK meeting and what about the failed Cali Meeting!!!??? My hope is all lost my life lost purpose now i shall give up!!!! like airree sed foreveralone!
