Asian Parents.

Dude, dont act like you're the only one having problems....these problems are nothing compare to what you're gonna face when u go to college and start working, and living the REAL adult's life.

 

Not being funny, how are you going to resolve or cope with this situation other than suck it up? Are you gonna throw in the towel and decide to leave home just to avoid it or to add more stress to your parents when they are (as you have quoted) they are arguing 24/7 already?
I mean if you are gonna be 16 soon, it means you will be off to college in like maybe 2 years time? Which means then you WON'T need to cope with this type of situations until you return home for vacation periods and they would more likely you leave you alone as you are in college they would want you to focus on your college work to do good.

If you truly still have the struggle about how to tell your parents that you are not interested in doing music as a college option or what not. Just sit them down and tell them, and tell them what you are interested in or what you are good at in school that could give you a better prospect when you finish college and you start on your career on whatever you wanted to do. That way you have that extra bit of option.

You complain that you are paying bills off your own back and doing chores etc, yes Ralp has pointed that that it is our responsibility but can't you see it as being "how sung" and kind of repaying back to what your parents have done for you?

 

back to the point of paying bills... mowing lawns, shovelling snow etc... realistically, how much is that going to earn you?
maybe just enough as some side pocket money for the occasional random thing u want, but i don't know how much that will help in going towards the actual bills like mortgages

any decent mortgage (well depends where u are in the world i guess?), sets you back like 3-4k a month on repayments alone
throwing in maybe $50 a month isn't going to get very far
as you mentioned, ur doing music and i'm sure it'd cost more than 50/hr just on classes

i'd feel that parents would probably be happier if u did the lawn mowing, cleaning house, etc, and they'd pay u pocked money for that instead.
of course they'd be even more happier if you did it all without them having to say anything - but being realistic, how many of us really do that? when it's your own place, then its guaranteed u have to do it yourself, because if no one does, nothing ever gets done.

if you want to do something useful, get a decent part time job where u can learn. u said u wanna do psych, work as an intern or work experience at a clinic, and at least you'll gain something that others wont. doing relevant work experience and all, is nothing abt $$, but just setting yourself up for uni and getting ahead of everyone else if u want to be successful

more often than not, only childs are spoilt in one way or another. whether u take advantage/abuse that or not, is another issue.

 

Lol these minor inconveniences are jokes compared to adulthood, and young adulthood problems are jokes compared to older adulthood problems.

Problems increase in difficulty as you grow older. The only option is to suck it up.

 

I feel like none of you are reading my posts, and are all focuused on what ralph said to me.

As I have posted many times. YES, I do understand my parents mean well, YES, I realize that I have to suck it up, and YES I now understand I have a lot of growing up to do.
So why bother telling me the same things as the last person said? Its like telling the same joke a hundred times to one person, It looses its meaning after a while
Don't take me wrong, I appreciate the feedback, advice and critiscm, but if the first 5 people said the same thing, why say it again?

 

I assume you know Jeff in real life? I say hit up Mix2 and sneak in some booze and get drunk

 

To me, learning music is a way to vent your emotions (whether it be anger, sadness, etc). Don't just play the music for the sake of it, because then of course you'll hate it. I had to play until grade 10 piano too, so I know your pain. All the pieces were worthless to me, and there were hardly any pieces that I even liked. I stopped there, because I can't deal with kids, much less teaching. So if you went into teaching or performer's now, well have fun with that (btw, BIG BANG BUCKS from teaching music, whether it be kids or older people).

But as for chores etc, you can't expect them to do them all, since you also live there (ie, they aren't your maids). They could easily be charging you "rent money" just for living there. Think about it, electricity, food, shelter, its all $$. They would appreciate your helping out in the house once in awhile (even if they don't say it) because it just means less stress on their back.

My point is, the way to cope is not to think of it as "sucking it up". But rather doing things in a way that would relieve them of their worries and stress upon you.

 

awwww.....hairbear....your still a ickle bb...!!!..and learning to play piano is greattt...!!!...


<3 guys who play music instruments...ho yau ying gahhh....^^



try and see things from your parents perspective...mebe and that helps....they just lub you jeh....

 

cause those are the only valid answers and thats what we think. We can't sugarcoat you and say oh poor thing, that would be downright lying.

 

just go with the flow and don't piss them off
and in a couple of years time, you'll look back and be happy =)

there's always issues in life, just a matter of how u deal with it
like intraland said, music is a form of destressing
it works... from experience =)

just sux now cos i can't play anymore and its more annoying because u know u used to be able to, and now u can't
and it feels like a big waste... all those years, all that $$... its worthless now
that said, i still prefer driving to destress... doesn't help without a car now tho

 

And plus 2 more years you can go your way...you can always just join the military that seems to be fast money although hard ass shit.

 

Living in a house with asian parents are tough, for example they tell you to do something for them and if you're not bothered they just diss you. It's life and you gotta live with it. I understand the argument stresses you out big time but once you get out of education and find a job, buy a house and problem solved.

 

^hahaha you twoooo remember APB is not real lifes yo! Lmaooo imagine you be like all dressed up in gang outfit or enforcers you get punked and beat up and laff in ya face hahahah... they be like who deez two pok guys lmaooo... But hey i know many who get out cant do shit join the military and get paid for school and living!

 

^^^^^yea join the military, altho the US military is getting overpowered (assuming u r american) and kicking pplz out.....

I joined years ago because i wanted to "protect"...and maybe i when i get out, ill be a cop and ill do things that the cop in Sante fe did.....who knos?

 

I have a friend who's in the reserves, he says its a good experience, and you get paid good money for it too, I'm considering doing it as a backup. But I think the spots are filled and you gotta wait till next year, but anyways, I'm seeing this in a new light and is beginning to understand what you're all trying to tell me. Thank you.

 

and what exactly is that?... care to reiterate what you understand?