What should i do, i know we both did have feelings for each other but that was years ago, but recently all ii could do was think about her, everytime she was sad i would stop at nothing to see her smile again. I'm sure of my feelings for her but what if i confessed and she doesnt feel the same? I feel like i could destroy this friendship we have built:/ I really dont want this to haunt me, or turn out like the wedding dress MV... but i dont know if talking about it would be the right choice Theres also a few barriers between us, didnt friend groups and OH yeah shes a year older than me which... looks sorta bad for her... Any opinions ? anyone ever had to deal with this shitty situation like this? :(>.<-smileb
lol, age isn't a problem. thats the least of your worries. If she's still interested in her well....you should be able to tell? idk happened to a close friend of mine, i ended up shoving her away lol. haha my bad, i think we are in opposite positions.....but we're still good friends, glad to see she found someone she is happy with
u could do nothing, and then nothing will happen... and u may and go wonder, what if u can go do something about it, and then either, it'll b the best decision ever or it'd be hard to stay friends and everything will be different forever i guess it happens all the time with close friends between guys/girls just make the most of it and don't regret it =) even if you do nothing, it still won't be the same because u know how u feel
How old are you? I don't know but most "boys/young men" have a phase where they get attached easily. Yes, you can move forward and ask her out rather than wondering the "what if" and if things don't work out, at least you tried it. However, have thought about "what if we have mutual feeling but over time, I learned she really isn't what I wanted; just a phase thing." I just think that when it comes to relationship, if ya'll clicked, ya'll would hit it off right away. People who usually fall for "friends" are the older type where their circle of friends have grown smaller .. don't go out as much or what not .. meeting less ppl .. lol .. so they're more mature and know what they want; not sure if you know what i am saying. at the end of the day, you gotta weigh what's more important to you .. a "potential" love relationship or a lasting friendship?
my friend was in a situation like this. He and this girl was best friend and they can't be with each other because she was with some guy and married him. But a year later the girl got divorced and now they are together. Its card to say confessing to each other. Either you wreck a good friendship because shit like this can make it feel odd around each other after you confessed or both of you be together and be happy... like before when i posted my situation everyone was just saying show her some signs and see how she reacts to them =P
the girl would be the only worrying about the age issue (like i did x.x). but if you relaly like her, it doesnt matter at all. no friend groups like no mutual friends? oh that suck i know....all i can say is, love can overcome anything (mostly). just tell her, better late than sorry. at least you tried
LOVE can OVERCOME ANYthing .. WTF .. how old are you? Seriously, I really didn't expect that coming out from you Kay. A real and lasting relationship doesn't base simply on LOVE but a lot of things. It's naive and gullible to think otherwise. That's why I asked earlier, how old is the OP?
Age is just a number. I keep getting older, the girls I keep crushing on keeps staying the same age, so the age gap is getting wider LOL. But, I don't think age really matters. Though, from what I notice is that older girls tend to be the dominant one in the relationship. I'd say just go for it. As they say, the one you marry will also turn out to be your best friend in life, as well. Most of the girls I fell for were just friends to begin with and then developed into something else, eventually. And if I did pursue after something more than just friends, some of them I stayed friends with, some of them I didn't. It just depends on whether you make it awkward or not if it does not happen the way you wanted it to. edit: And I don't think it really matters how old the OP is. Yes, i agree that younger guys tend to get attached to girls easier, but whether it'll work out or not depends on how much both of them want it. I've had friends that were dating the SAME person since grade 6, and they're still together, 12 years later. So, who cares how old you are?
My man, I am stuck in the exact same situation. It's really hard because you don't know what the other persons thinking. Sometimes you over think things and think they're a sign but sometimes it's really not. It's hard to be best friends with someone yearning for them but you don't want to open up because you'd risk it all. If she doesn't feel the same, it's hard to stay friends because it's awkward. For me it's that piece where I can't see her as my best friend because I'll still be in love, and I can't hang out with someone that I can't take care of and love as my significant other because it hurts too much. But at the same time, if you don't make a move, nothing will happen. It really sucks man.
better to confess n see how she feels about u... if u just keep on hiding it n find out afterwards of if she falls for someone else in the meanwhile ur gonna regret it n be wasting ur time!! good luck!
Yeah what cheeks said, better to know now then regret later. as i said above, a friend of mine liked me but didnt say anything...i could tell. then i decided b4 things got too far to end it, and we stopped talking for like 2 years. we're sort of friends on the same level again now. but yeah, if sh'es a really close friend, and you drag it too long. when things don't go your way it'll end up awkward and there'll be a distance time.....as in a period of time where yall keep distance.
Yeah im sorta young, im 16 and shes 17 soon, she is going to uni the coming year which rally sucks and id be stuck in high school >.< but i assure you what i feel for her are true, and no i dont think its a phase because ive always known about these feelings but just never shown them for almost 4 years now... And sorry that i havnt really replied recently ive been busy with school and stuff and havnt had access to a computer!!!
age isnt the issue, but if shes a really close friend, then a relationship may only be just for the moment nd if things go sour then well everything becomes awkward. u know, like really its a risk if yall get together nd things dont work out or if you tell her and she doesnt then things could be the same as it is. like ive told upper years that i've liked them, we ended up remaining as friends just ignore the past.
16 n 17 isnt that much of a difference in numbers... what matters is that ur mature.... u could b 18 n still act like a kiddo.... still no good! so depends on ur behavior!
