Today, I found out my girlfriend cheated on me and I feel sad.The kicker is the person she cheat on me with, is my best friend. So this morning, I went to his work place, and beat him up and got him fired from his job. I ran out of the building before the guards caught me. I felt so bad ass for doing that. The cops came and arrested me a said I was charge with assault, but was dropped after because my ex convince my former best friend to drop the charges. My ex calls me and wants to talk to me. I go out to meet her at a restaurant, upon arriving I see her and the douche sitting there waiting for me. The douche starting saying that I don't deserve her and he had been banging her for 6 months. And during this time, she sat there was silent and didn't say anything and she started to cry. So I ordered some food, because if I was going to get some verbal abuse I mind as well have full stomach. I waited for him to finish what he had to say, and i asked my ex is she had anything to say to me and she just kept quite. So, I got up and left. Man, what a crappy way to start the weekend, I guess I'll just lock myself in my room and cry myself to sleep listening to love songs.
good on u to sit there and let him just ramble on not a great start to the weekend, but better for you in the long term =)
There's no need to feel bad over people that treat you wrongly. Chin up! Your ex-best friend is right. You don't deserve her, you deserve better
You got him fired from his job by you going in and fighting with him? How did that work out :| Also, it's a pretty shit feeling knowing how badly you've been betrayed, but assuming your story is legit you handled it like a boss so far. Not going to discourage you from sitting in your room and moping about shit, that's just a part of the recovery phase... but on the bright side you just cut out two extremely toxic people from your life. A girl that really cares for you wouldn't have done this to you. And a friend that is actually your friend would never have gotten involved with her. Fuck them. People come and go in your life, this is just a lesson in the importance of choosing the right kind of people. We've all made similar mistakes to some degree in this fashion... yours is kind of to the extreme. Rebuild and recover, brotato. Whenever I experience bullshit like this I just tell myself the world was spinning for millions of years before I got here and will continue to do so after I'm gone. The universe doesn't give a shit about your problems. Just enjoy life as much as you can for as long as you can and make things count. You'll find another friend, and you'll find another girl. All of this has happened before and all of it will happen again.
From what I was told, when i went to confront him his boss had clients in his office and they were in a middle of an meeting. On that day, I pretty much went straight to my buddies cubicle, and ask him to step outside so we can talk. When he saw me, he got aggressive and started getting loud & very hostile. So I got angry and started talking loud and that's when he hit me, then I got pissed and fought back. After I ran out, I got phone call from a acquittance that also worked in the department, telling that the douche got fired and tried to get the details why it happened.
It's true that they did terrible things to you, but were you really horrible to your ex? That part of the story worries me. If you were a complete asshole to her, then you might have just been getting what was coming to you? I hope that wasn't the case and they were just icky people that you're better off not having in your life.
Here's the ironic thing about attraction and relationships it's almost a like 'paradox'... The reason women cheat is usually due to the partner being way too nice and not challenging enough. If OP was really horrible to his ex-gf, I doubt she would be cheating on him... So, the better question for OP would be.. Were you being way too nice to your ex-gf?
Does that still justify the cheating? And the betrayal of a "best friend"? If he was indeed acting like an asshole to her, then fine, a break up is warranted, NOT cheating with a best friend. Assuming he did act like an asshole and deserve it, the fact that the ex chose the option of cheating with his best friend, and his best friend consenting to the cheating is enormous. And if he did act like an asshole (not saying OP did, but just hypothetically), there are other ways of handling it. Not cheating and betrayal by two people who supposedly should be the most important to OP. So regardless of the way OP may have acted, the focus of this topic is the betrayal by a loved one with a best friend, also a loved one. This is worst than slicing the chest open, cutting out the organs, without anesthetics and being conscious.
Eh, well I'm not saying that two wrongs make a right. Only wondering about things more logically and taking a step back from the situation (sometimes that helps). Like: was more going on than this just happened and they were terrible or was there more than once victim in the story and numerous perpetrators? Either way it sounds like it was a terrible situation and I'm glad for all who were involved that it's now over (though the recovery will take time).
Actually, the relationship we had lasted for almost 5 years, there has been up and downs and it was never perfect. The only thing that I think caused it was because we haven't been spending time with her this past year. We use see each other 5 days a week, and now before the break up we see each other 2 days a week. yeah, I can be a jerk sometimes but who hasn't? People always assume it's the guys fault and the girls are never at fault. I wanted to find out why she did what she did, but didn't say anything, so doesn't that show you that she knew she was in the wrong? And for the douche to say to me that he banging her for 6 month while she was there, show any respect to her? thanks Dan, for questioning some people about situation. If I was a shitty boyfriend then just break up with me, there's no need to betray me. I'm going to move with my life, thanks to some other friends we are going tonight and getting drunk.
man that sucks... i been there too ... girls are more evil then guys when it comes to this kinda thing because everyone believes them automatically.
Yea, unfortunately when it comes to things like this, most of the time, logic is through straight out of the window. As for OP, shit really sucks, but like fearless said, at least you have two "toxic" people out of your life. I'm sorry this situation happened to you though.
2 days a week is NOT the problem. If my gf gets upset easily if she doesn't get to see me 5 days a week, I would drop her like a hot potato. I don't need someone who's so insecure to be my partner. I'm sorry but your ex-gf is unfaithful/not loyal, that's the bottomline! Too bad it's taken you 5 years to finally discovered that. But hey, consider yourself lucky because you guys still haven't got married yet. I'm curious, did you not know that your ex-best buddy is hanging out with your ex-gf for the past 6 months? Absolutely no idea at all?
o man sorry to hear that. well haters gotta hate and bitches otta do what bitches do best. i hope ull feel better soon.
If that's so, then you totally have the right to feel wronged and betrayed. I didn't mean to imply that girls never do anything wrong (if that's what you were getting out of what I was saying). Girls can be straight up assholes when it comes to relationships just as much as guys can. I was just wondering more about the situation is all. Because if it was something that when you step back from and say lie, "OH, I should have seen it coming. We were fighting a bunch and not communicating." etc. then it might have been easier for you to get over, you know? Anyways, I'm sorry that happened to you. It's in the past now and try to move on. It might take a while, but you can do it. And you might in the end realize that this was all for the best because then you can find the person you're really meant to be with.
