1 - After about a week in the hospital and another week in bed, I am finally able to move. Yup .. I fell off the roof when I was checking on the chimney and broke my ribs. Worst, I came down with a cold. I have to take painkiller like crazy because it was freaking painful coughing with broken ribs. I also dislocated my left shoulder. So much for the 7th month .. call me superstitious or whatever .. it's a bad month. 2 - When I moved home, my sis called to let me know that my parents are planning to mail money to some "distance" relatives who moved from the Philippines to China way back; whom neither my parents nor my grandparents ever met. These aunts were given away by my "great grandma" when they were born and we found them to fulfill my granny's last wish before she died. Anyway, we have not been in touch like for over 10 years. Suddenly, they called up and asked for money. I told my parents I'll mail the money but I didn't do so. In fact, I even changed the phone number so those people can never call again. I then found out that these relatives live near the "typhoon" area. My wife doesn't want to comment because she doesn't want to be stuck between my parents and me over it. Do ya'll think I handled this right? 3 - Lastly, my wife told me she's pregnant. I wanted so badly to have kids and had a big argument with her over it which almost led to our divorce. However, now that it's the time, I am freaking out. I feel my heart racing fast whenever she starts talking about the baby and stuffs. I heard about cold feet for marriage but am I normal? I know myself and people around me always say that I am gonna be a good father and all from the way I take care of my niece and nephew. If so, why am I feeling this way????
1) damn yo...u fell of your rooof? and u dont' update with us til now? lol i thoguth we fam.. ..don't worry man we all been through a lot of sh1t in our lives and now you will take this injury a lesson and be more careful in the future when doing risky stuff. things will only get better when u're feeling really low. 2) basically u're just doin what you think is right and if you think your decision is good then don't regret. If you are regretting then that means you should send some money. Even if they lie to you it is better to think of saving ppl's live rather than being ripped off as you will never know what they'r gonna do with the money. 3))yo it seems like the baby is hopefully goin to make your relationship with your wife better. or maybe shes locking you in with the child? was this plannned? everyone is excited to have a kid and have some1 to die for so it's normal how you feel. don't worry you'll be a great father.
I would say be extra careful during these moments, the women might randomly lash out at ya or under threat and after giving birth you gotta be careful there as well, some sort of anxiety could happen I guess :S
you sound like a child who doesn't know clearly what he wants. you seem to be all talk and yet when the real thing comes, you are scared. I hope you make clear decisions soon about your baby. If you really want the baby, make sure you are a good dad and if not and you think your all talk, thus not ready to be a father then maybe you can talk about a abortion with your wife. Here's some thing for you to think: Humans are the only animals who can look into the future, we often make mistakes in terms of what we think will lead to happiness. now, does that that help some what or alot?
1. i'll just ask someone else to do the job. 2. selfishly, ya u're doing a right thing. If you arent regretting, u're fine. on a family perspective, no matter what, u should help anyways. & near the typhoon area...why u have to quote that, TW? -_______- 3. ur wife might suffer from prenatal depression & postpartum depression before & after delivering the baby. compare that w/ ur freaking out. it's ok to freak out @ first but now u gotta stop worrying about urself, be a man. You made her pregnant, now handle it. POST SOME BB PICS next year (?) !! it's a blessing ^_^
I can understand why you didn't send the money,many people would have done the same,you never talked to them,least seen them and now they're asking for money...it seems that you're feeling guilty,maybe after knowing that they live near a typhoon area...If this is so,it's not too late to email them some money right? Seems that your wife is now excited about the baby and now you're freaking out,lol.Anyways,great you're getting better!!
Thanks ya'll. Just want to clarify, I didn't climb up the roof to fix anything. I went up to check if the cover was still there since raining comes and goes often these days and slipped on the way down. As for my relatives, I will think some more before deciding whether to wire the money back. I just can't get over the facts that people you never met and don't keep contact with you for ages suddenly ring up and ask for money. We're not a bank nor wealthy; just working class like everyone else. As for the baby, I am still scared. It's not so much about taking responsiblities or whatever because that's the easy part. It's just a feeling I can't really explain.
^ hahahaha negiq is finally paranoid over the baby, calm down, its time to pay a visit with your wife to those group talk that can help overcome these problems ^^
You have shitty luck man. Why don't you talk to them and see what's the money for? Since you guys hadn't talked for ages, sometimes it's their last resolve to call you guys to help out, and you go changing the phone# and stuff, that's just cold w/o finding out the reason. If they needed that money cause of that typhoon than your going to regret it. Because I know certain areas in China that got hit pretty bad too. Don't hide/lied about it to your parents, you might not care but they might. You better hope that your incident with the roof isn't karma...-innocent2 Congratz on being a father, just be there for both of them, take one step at a time and talk to your wife on what preparations you'll need for the baby. That means getting the right doctors, check ups, budgets (baby are expensive) etc.
