Hello everyone, I need some advice of what's going on with my life right now. I'm 21, living in SD, CA. I previously lived in another small city with my 2 year long gf. We are both sophomores transferring to junior. She went back her country (foreign student) during the summer and our relationship became distant. She had planned to break up with me since we will be going to diff universities but she never did until she came back to usa and met up with me. I've had a tough time over the summer and finally decided not to transfer and went down to SD with her. 2 weeks before i left the small city, i met a girl. She was very nice to me and cheered me up when i was at my lowest and needed someone the most. I fell for her and so did she. However, i had to go down to SD because i promised my gf. The girl (from the small city) said she would wait for me. When I got down to SD, my gf broke up with me (not because of the girl) because she lost feelings for me. Right now, I'm living with my ex, but the girl that said she would wait for me is ignoring me (no idea why), and I'm facing the worst time of my life dealing with relationship and my business. This girl is driving me nuts, I love her bt I'm no longer sure if she does anymore. She just told me to wait and give her time. She won't reply my messages or even send me one herself (not even a "hi"). I don't know what she wants, but she didnt say she wanna end our relationship. I'm at a lost. My friends told me to forget her and move on. But i guess im addicted to the pain, stress, w/e and i dont wanna lose her. Her birthday is coming up (6 weeks from now) and i plan to go back to talk to her (give her a surprise). However, with our relationship right now, im no longer sure what to do anymore. I really want to hear from her where we'll be heading or its the end. I've waited for too long, and im getting impatient. This 6 weeks will be a torture. Any advice? sorry its long..and i might not be clear. I'm confused and at a lost too.
dope, u live in cali, so do i =D this was kinda confusing, i cant tell which she and her u are talking about.. when u said u promised 2 go 2 sd, u meant u were going 2 live with her right? for one thats a mistake lol... never live 2gether unless there is something established or ur relationship is at least solid ... any hesitation or shakiness in the relationship, never live with ur significant other. now i am confused... you love this girl.. but which one? the ex or the 2week girl? if u love the 2 week girl, that is pretty short 2 say you 'love' her already sheesh... usually if the other person doesnt respond back usually means they are not giving THEIR effort for the relationship since relationship starts with at least 2 people... anything less, you would just forsaken yourself for this girl that tells you no future. Clearly you want conformation... but i dont know how close u are with this girl from small town, or how you guys met... have common friends or what not.. so you be the judge of that.. all i know is this... u want the answer badly... so badly that u think about things that could happen or things you want to do, etc. the point is that you rather take the chance that there could be that small 1% chance that both of you might have something special together. No matter what anyone tells you, you will take the chance and do it, my advice to you is not to go if she isn't responding to you, but if you must i suggest u let her know, no surprises, unless they are gifts, and find the answer you need to hear... if it is bad, dont force it and dont pursuit it not sure if my advice is the best because i am somewhat confused about your story... but in general if your friend was in your situation what would you advise them? and then ask yourself is that what your heart wants? if it isnt, then you need to decide what u wanna do and have the guts to stick with it, no looking back... you have at least 6 weeks... go out n play and sleep on it, let things flow, and keep it simple for your life.
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