Recently, I've been beginning to think that I'm quite the prude. I'm not even sure if I'm using that in the right context. In any case, the thought first struck me when a friend asked me whether or not I've dated before. I said, "no" and he called me "innocent." Is it strange that I don't go out with guys that ask me out? I don't really see a difference between being friends and bf/gf as long as you're close to your friends. Isn't there a greater freedom if you just hang out as friends?-unsure I was wondering if people could share their experiences of "dating"(pros/cons?).
With everything, there are pros and cons. For the most part, being close friends is better than being in a relationship. People can be friends for a long time, but if they move past that stage, it can sometimes be hard to go back to just being friends. If they are a good friend, the person may not be worth losing. There's lots to be gained from a relationship. You learn to read and understand the people better. You learn what's acceptable of yourself and what's not. There are the benefits of having a go to person that you can count on, etc. Those are just a few things that jumpped out in my mind...
actually, there IS a difference between friends and bf/gf. its safe to say that i have had lots of guys in my life.. and sometimes, being in a relationship with one of yur close friends just doesnt feel the same.. so even if i liked him a lot, we would end up breaking up. and to this day, we're still really good friends. i rememebr saying to my now, bestfriend.. that i don't want to be in a relationship with him. relationships, people still end up breaking up. im sorry but im a realistic one. im not gonna sit here and daydream about marrying my bf or whatever. im only 18. ppl say forever and i tell them yehh whatever. maybe it;s because of the family i come from. but anyway. being friends, good friends, chances are, you don't have to break up. u can have them in yur life all you want. you don;t have to constantly see each other, there are no stupid reasons to be mad at one another.. but you know, i've been in at least 12 "relationships".. but if you count the guys who weren't official.. its probably way more than that. and why do i keep on going? cuz from every guy, i learn a lesson. it's almost like wisdom.. relationships makes u more alert, and not be so gullible. it prepares u for what is to come later on in life. bottom line, don;t pressure yourself to go find a boyfriend if you don't want to. you're not gonna be happy that way. when the time comes, and you meet the right guy, you won;t have to worry about anything, because time will unravel the relationship. =)
yup... there is a difference.... but dun worry so much la... u'll feel the difference once u meet the right person u still sound like ur really young... no need to think so much n stress urself out... just go with the flow n enjoy the times while u hang out with ur fds...
pros: someone special to spend time with, touchy touchy fun cons: spending more money, feelings get involved
